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To have shouted at him?

188 replies

SlothingSunday · 23/05/2021 13:20

DP. We don’t live together. He wants us to live together but it’s instances like this that put me off. Whenever he comes around to my house he asks me if I want him to put the eggs in the fridge as I’ve “left them out”. I’ve told him time and time again that I don’t put eggs in the fridge but because he thinks he’s right he won’t let it fucking drop. Literally everytime he comes over he will pretend to be confused about the eggs not being in the fridge. This morning he came around and I realised he’d put the eggs in the fridge. I lost it completely and shouted at him to leave my fucking eggs alone and that I’ve told him so many times that I don’t want them in the fridge and suggested he stop trying to control me. He acted all outraged at my “over reaction” but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything.

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Bluntness100 · 23/05/2021 13:22

Um ok, seems the relationship isn’t working as this is petty as fuck

HangingOver · 23/05/2021 13:24

This would annoy me too. If you really have told him loads of times the "pretend confusion" thing would piss me right off.

LordEmsworth · 23/05/2021 13:24

OMG. I do keep my eggs in the fridge and I am still fuming on your behalf.

WeeMadArthur · 23/05/2021 13:24

I know it’s only a little thing, but it would be a red flag to me. They are your eggs, in your house and you have made it clear where you want them. If he can’t drop such an insignificant thing ( and storing them out of the fridge is the right way to store them anyway) what else will he keep on and on at you about. I think he is testing to see how easy it is to make you stop going against his suggestions.

KenAddams · 23/05/2021 13:24

No I would go nuts about this eggs don't cook right after being in a fridge! LTB and keep ur eggs "left out"

StopSayingDueDiligence · 23/05/2021 13:24

Run for the hills.

Where the hells his respect?!

Bluntness100 · 23/05/2021 13:25

@LordEmsworth

OMG. I do keep my eggs in the fridge and I am still fuming on your behalf.
That’s a bit of an over reaction…Confused
JeanneFrench · 23/05/2021 13:26

He sounds disrespectful.

WeeMadArthur · 23/05/2021 13:26

He acted all outraged at my “over reaction” but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything

This would do my nut in.

EL8888 · 23/05/2021 13:26

Your house and your eggs. Why does he want to enforce his way of doing things on you? You can make your own choices Hmm

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 23/05/2021 13:26

Weirdo (him not you)

OwlTwitterings · 23/05/2021 13:27

As he does it with everything, this is much more than about the eggs.

I think that it’s time to end the relationship because you know it isn’t going to progress further as you (understandably) don’t want to live with him.

BadEyeBri · 23/05/2021 13:28

Why does it matter so much to either of you? It's eggs.

VeganCheesePlease · 23/05/2021 13:28

You say he does it with everything and that feeling of being constantly undermined is so indisious and it really does wear you down over time. He needs to respect your boundaries and decisions if it's done that much.

VeganCheesePlease · 23/05/2021 13:28

Oops. That should say insidious!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/05/2021 13:28

He acted all outraged at my “over reaction” but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything. Then you know what you have to do - and it doesn't include moving in with him!

If he walks all over your opinion in your own home what will he be like if that is your shared home?

For a start you'd have to pretend you belive that eggs are dairy produce - forever!!!!

Original poster
SlothingSunday · 23/05/2021 13:29

@BadEyeBri

Why does it matter so much to either of you? It's eggs.
Because it’s MY house!
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gamerchick · 23/05/2021 13:30

You probably won't be compatible living together by the sounds of it. It'll be like this on a daily basis OP.

HeckyPeck · 23/05/2021 13:31

Honestly OP, I would end the relationship.

Someone who ignores your boundaries (no matter how important they might seem to others) and pretends they don't understand them/don't remember you repeatedly telling them is not someone you will have a happy life with.

Amdone123 · 23/05/2021 13:31

This would annoy me and I would put the eggs where the sun don't shine.

vodkaredbullgirl · 23/05/2021 13:31

What!!

katy1213 · 23/05/2021 13:32

He'd have to be very, very good in bed to get over this. But somehow, I don't think pernickety, controlling obsessions about egg boxes equates to red hot lover!

itsgettingwierd · 23/05/2021 13:33

Agree it's such a petty thing but his insistence on asking every time with the faux pretence of not remembering what you said the other umpteen times indicates a need to be right and control you.

Obviously you'd need to discuss where to store eggs if you moved in together but I would be worried he'd be the same regards everything having to be how he thinks it should be.

Merryoldgoat · 23/05/2021 13:34

Yes, a bit petty in isolation but not as a part of a bigger picture.

He’s an arse isn’t he?

arethereanyleftatall · 23/05/2021 13:34

@BadEyeBri

Why does it matter so much to either of you? It's eggs.
Nope nope nope. That way of thinking is where future problems lie. He is telling you clearly he's not interested in listening to you.