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To have shouted at him?

188 replies

SlothingSunday · 23/05/2021 13:20

DP. We don’t live together. He wants us to live together but it’s instances like this that put me off. Whenever he comes around to my house he asks me if I want him to put the eggs in the fridge as I’ve “left them out”. I’ve told him time and time again that I don’t put eggs in the fridge but because he thinks he’s right he won’t let it fucking drop. Literally everytime he comes over he will pretend to be confused about the eggs not being in the fridge. This morning he came around and I realised he’d put the eggs in the fridge. I lost it completely and shouted at him to leave my fucking eggs alone and that I’ve told him so many times that I don’t want them in the fridge and suggested he stop trying to control me. He acted all outraged at my “over reaction” but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything.

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HangingOver · 23/05/2021 14:27

What does he say when you point of the fake confusion?

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 23/05/2021 14:28

Thanks for eyebrowless Eggbert, @PandorasMailbox Grin

Ladylimpet · 23/05/2021 14:29

Christ, that would drive me nuts too op! The whole fake confusion thing...I think I'd be shouting too. Just leave the fucking eggs alone! It's not on is it. He should have dropped it after the first time you said to him that you don't keep your eggs in the fridge. What a dick.

NormanStangerson · 23/05/2021 14:29

Also need to know where his eyebrows went.

Does he like to keep them in the fridge?

HeckyPeck · 23/05/2021 14:30

@SlothingSunday

I felt like smashing the eggs in his stupid eyebrowless eyes this morning.

Porch light. He insists on it being on overnight. I don’t want it on. He pretends to be confused about this. Off he goes wobbling down the fucking stairs to turn it in as he’s “forgot” that I don’t like it on just because he’s scared of the countryside

This will be your life if you stay with him OP.

You'll say how you want something and he'll pretend to be confused and just do it his way anyway.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 23/05/2021 14:31

@SlothingSunday - I'm wondering if this might not eventually become incorporated in a thread which has been trending since this morning:
I knew my relationship was over when..?
Oh, and I voted YANBU.

CupoTeap · 23/05/2021 14:32

You mentioned other things, like what?

Wanttocryatthecost · 23/05/2021 14:33

If eggs don’t go in the fridge, why do fridges have those egg tray? Just curious...

P.s I don’t put eggs in the fridge, i also don’t put bread in the fridge or sauce bottles.

I like things a certain way so this would really piss me off too.

lazylinguist · 23/05/2021 14:35

YANBU and some people are totally missing the point. It's not about the eggs per se. It's that he thinks that by deliberately and repeatedly pretending not to have been told or not to have understood what you said, he can somehow trick you into doing something his way, even though it's trivial and in your house not his. I'd have shouted at him too, and I'm not much of a shouter!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/05/2021 14:36

Americanism! Based on the processing/cleaning of eggs, itself caused by the conditions the birds are kept in!

cheeseislife8 · 23/05/2021 14:38

It's the pretend confusion for me. Nope.

If he gets up your nose this much when you don't even live together, you're going to end up killing each other. Get rid and move on, day to day life should not be this irritating

takemetothelakes · 23/05/2021 14:38

It's not about the eggs or the porch light (both of which would make me furious) but that he doesn't listen to you or respect what you say.

I know some people think this is really petty but I do think it suggests there could be bigger issues if you were to live together.

HeckyPeck · 23/05/2021 14:39

@lazylinguist

YANBU and some people are totally missing the point. It's not about the eggs per se. It's that he thinks that by deliberately and repeatedly pretending not to have been told or not to have understood what you said, he can somehow trick you into doing something his way, even though it's trivial and in your house not his. I'd have shouted at him too, and I'm not much of a shouter!
Exactly!

You'd have to have the patience of a saint not to eventually shout at someone who kept moving things in your home after you'd asked them not to and then lied to your face pretending they forgot you'd said anything.

NettleTea · 23/05/2021 14:40

he is trying to enforce his rules in your home. Just so you are aware, and you seem to be, once its both of your's home this means his rules will come first.

MrDarcysMa · 23/05/2021 14:40

Yeah I'd get rid. That's so passive aggressive and controlling of him. Eugh.

LuaDipa · 23/05/2021 14:41

I wouldn’t be annoyed by the difference in opinion (after 20 years my dh and I still don’t agree about whether ketchup should be kept in the fridge) but I would be fucking furious at the repeated faux-confusion. It’s passive aggressive and immature and I don’t blame you for not wanting to live with him. Does he think that if he does it enough you will just give in for a quiet life?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/05/2021 14:43

You ended a relationship because he didn't leave your chocolate out of the fridge?!? Understanding what a full stop does can help!

Sleepingdogs12 · 23/05/2021 14:43

You said your self 'this is the tip of the iceberg' , that is the issue. He isn't the one for you .

ravenmum · 23/05/2021 14:44

Why are you dating him?

tobedtoMNandfart · 23/05/2021 14:44

As a PP has stated they are in the ambient section in the supermarket so that absolutely settles that debate. Now wondering why the fuck I keep mine in the fridge.

I obviously realise this is NOT about the eggs but we've already established he's a monumental cock so I have nothing to add to that.

ItsCokeFFS · 23/05/2021 14:46

If eggs don’t go in the fridge, why do fridges have those egg tray? Just curious...

If eggs do go in the fridge then why aren't they kept in a fridge in supermarkets?

anuvamotherhood · 23/05/2021 14:47

He's being passive aggressive. Next time just Chuck an egg at him.

tenlittlecygnets · 23/05/2021 14:47

Why is he 'eyebrowless' and 'wobbling' down the stairs??

OP, sounds like you just don't like him much. I'd end things.

ohsuzannah · 23/05/2021 14:48

Dump him. Now. You know you want to !

Notaroadrunner · 23/05/2021 14:48

Time to finish it. Moving in together would be a disaster trying to figure out what goes where etc. You'll end up melting each other's heads if you live together. He sounds like an asshole who purposely tries to annoy you.