To have shouted at him?

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DP. We don’t live together. He wants us to live together but it’s instances like this that put me off. Whenever he comes around to my house he asks me if I want him to put the eggs in the fridge as I’ve “left them out”. I’ve told him time and time again that I don’t put eggs in the fridge but because he thinks he’s right he won’t let it fucking drop. Literally everytime he comes over he will pretend to be confused about the eggs not being in the fridge. This morning he came around and I realised he’d put the eggs in the fridge. I lost it completely and shouted at him to leave my fucking eggs alone and that I’ve told him so many times that I don’t want them in the fridge and suggested he stop trying to control me. He acted all outraged at my “over reaction” but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything.

@GodolphinHorne

Did you notice I said fridge OR pantry.

Eggs should be stored somewhere with a constant cool temperature. So a cool pantry, air condition supermarket, or a fridge if you're kitchen is heated or gets warm on warm days.

It's not going to kill you to store them on the side, but I'm just talking best practice for most safety.

They are eggs!!!! FFS!

Fresh eggs are fine stored on a kitchen side and used within a week or so. They are best kept at a constant temperature below 20 degrees celsius. Fridges may extend the shelf-life because they reduce temperature fluctuations although there is some dispute about this. There are too many temperature fluctuations when eggs are kept in the fridge door so in the fridge door is not good (same with milk too - it goes off quicker when kept in fridge door).

Eggs can be tested for freshness by looking if they float in water.

In warmer countries they don't keep as fresh for as long when stored out of refrigeration. We have food standards so eggs in the UK are fresher when sold than those in some other countries.

@BadEyeBri

Why does it matter so much to either of you? It's eggs.

Its not about the eggs , its about the principle. I would get very irritated by this too .

I think the eggs is a good metaphor.

Don’t let him near any of your eggs.

@Doomsdayisstillcoming

I think the eggs is a good metaphor.

Don’t let him near any of your eggs.

Now I'm thinking about men's crotches and best conditions for viable sperm!

www.food.gov.uk/sites/default/files/media/document/sfbb-chinese-eggs.pdf

preferably a fridge but cool, dry place would be fine
I have done both
But if he's a control freak/you are het up over this then there's no future in it long-term.

It really isnt about eggs, is it? He feels like he knows better than you and that the way to handle this is to badger you, rather than accepting that people do stuff differently and dealing with it. Not a good sign, but perhaps if you explained that to him he might get it.

Big red flag, take it from someone who knows from experience. What can seem funny or endearing little quirks can become controlling abusive behaviour - but by then you may feel trapped. Not that you seem to be particularly endeared at present 🤣

@NormanStangerson

Also need to know where his eyebrows went.

Does he like to keep them in the fridge?

😂

The pretend confusion would annoy me to death

I don’t even know the guy and he’s annoying me. He obviously thinks his manly opinion is much better than your naive silly woman opinion

FWIW I don't think this is petty at all. Not being listened to will screw with your head long term so this is a red flag.

Cancel the cheque.

Turn the radio off.

ITS NOT ABOUT THE EGGS!

Close to a full house now. Any takeers for Maya Angelou?

When someone tells you we go they are, believe them the first time.

Auto-correct mangled that one!

You may shoot me with your words
You may cut me with your eyes
You may kill me with your hatefulness
But still, like air, I'll put my eggs in the fridge
Maya Angelou

Wise words indeed.

Good grief. The arguments about correct storage temperatures are irrelevant. In our climate they keep ok in or out of the fridge.

It’s the fact that he’s like this about a lot of things, and insists on doing what she doesn’t want him to do, and does the faux-confusion thing even when she’s told him every time previously. He sounds like an eccentric old man.

Sounds like you’ve understandably had enough OP. Maybe he’ll find a woman who’s happy with him making every single household decision, always being right, not listening to her, and pretending to be confused every time she tells him something for the 10th time.

Turn and run, NOW. Eggs are not the issue here, his need to control you is. Please don't waste any more time on him. I look back at my relationship from 17-25 with horror now as I recognise the coercive behaviour that I didn't see at the time. I ended up with no friends and hardly seeing my family as he liked everything done his way. He won't change so walk away, please

What kills me is all the people saying, “It’s just eggs,” and then the people saying, “It’s not just about the eggs,” when it says right in the fucking OP:
but this is the tip of an iceberg. He does it with everything.
I guess you should have made that part in bold, OP, as it’s invisible on some people’s MN accounts.

If someone doing what the OP described about EVERYTHING wouldn’t negatively affect your romantic feelings for them... well, I think applications for sainthood are still open. Just fill out your info and attach a fiver?

Full House, thank you! Anyone sat here, shaking and crying, for a wee bonus?

Don’t move him in. He’s doing it deliberately and will be ten times worse if he lives with you.

OP you are going to have lots of people tell you 'don't be petty, it's just eggs'.

It's not just eggs though.

It's that he is refusing to accept your way of doing things.

This is in your own house. When he does not live with you.

Imagine what he'll be like when he lives there. And in 3 years time when familiarity has bred (further) contempt. And when it's not him insisting that the eggs be dealt with as he chooses, it's about children/what you wear/money.

And by then, he will have built up a "story" that you are unreasonable and fly off the handle all the time and he is just a wide-eyed "good guy" who wants the best for you and is "just trying to do the right thing".

Break up with him.

He’s an annoying idiot keep living apart