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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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sunshineandshowers40 · 24/05/2021 19:44

We did this. The rooms are a decent size and it made the holiday much more affordable. We only really used the room to sleep. I do need my own space so sometimes stayed in the room if the kids were using the pool. We had a fab time and staying onsite made things easier.

MrsKoala · 24/05/2021 19:44

We went on a Ski Famille holiday a few years ago and I was surprised that our 2 bedroom family suite was one large room with a smaller room in it in the corner with a door which didn't close and the bathroom had a non locking or properly closing bathroom door.

Another holiday a 2 bedroom family suite in Malta was actually one room with a Japanese style separating sliding screen which was slightly frosted pale glass and the bathroom also had a wall facing into the room which was the same frosted glass. so you could see the silhouette of anyone in there.

So neither had bathroom floor sex or shower wank opportunities as pps have suggested!

BrilliantBetty · 24/05/2021 19:45

Don't compromise by staying off site. It's just not as good.
Being on site is a lot better, we've done both several times.

Bathroom bonking.
After 30k steps neither of us are v interested in a sex marathon.

Weareallvirgins · 24/05/2021 19:48

Can he not keep it in his pants for a few weeks. Its a family holiday not a stag do

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Serpenta · 24/05/2021 19:51

@Weareallvirgins

Can he not keep it in his pants for a few weeks. Its a family holiday not a stag do
He just wants to have the odd shag with his wife when on holiday! Grin

The spirit of Mary Whitehouse really does stalk this thread.

HavelockVetinari · 24/05/2021 20:08

I'd hate it - what are you going to do in the evening after DC is asleep? Skulk in the bathroom drinking wine out of tooth mugs, whispering so as not to wake them?

Also - holidays are meant to be fun, no sex for 2 weeks would be the shittiest holiday ever for lots of people. I get that you're not one of them, but there's no need to vilify your DH for wanting the odd shag whilst on holiday.

MrsBadcrumble123 · 24/05/2021 20:09

Jeeez tell him to have a wnk in the shower fgs what a baby!!
Ps WDW you’ll be so exhausted you’ll crash out and sleep anyway. We did 3 wks in one room and it was awesome (did it in shower couple of times but it wasn’t a case of if we couldn’t we wouldn’t go there!!)

Maggiesfarm · 24/05/2021 20:33

We used to have a family room with our kids sometimes, when we went on holiday. I can't say it ever bothered me or my husband. We had fairly active days, eat out in the evening, wander around a bit (with pushchair :-)), then return to our room to sleep. We were all ready for sleep then and I have to say the kids slept like logs! I honestly can't remember whether or not we had sex in those circumstances but we did before going away and on our return home :-).

For goodness sake, it's only a fortnight.

bonbonours · 24/05/2021 20:37

[quote MrsKoala]@bonbonours but how will you know if they are awake? what if they just wake and lay there listening wondering what the noises are? that could be quite disturbing for a child. It's not something id risk or be able to orgasm with. I'd rather no sex than shit sex with the added risk of upsetting my dc.[/quote]
None of my kids when they were little ever woke up and lay quietly. They were either snoring audibly, or they woke up and cried, or when a bit older just turned over, snuffled or yawned or something, or if they were properly awake and needed something eg a drink would call out Mummy. And under the age of 8 or so when we would have shared a room with them a) they almost never woke in the night and b) even if they had they would only have been able to hear (heavy) breathing noises so hardly disturbing.

Lamaitresse · 24/05/2021 20:58

We renovated our house and slept the four of us in one room for seven months because we had to move out. We managed to have sex! Just need to get a bit creative, that’s all 😉

Coldwine75 · 24/05/2021 21:47

If hes more bothered about no sex than a fantastic holiday you are with the wrong man...

Fiona8121 · 24/05/2021 22:24

We stayed 5 nights onsite (AKL & GF) and the rest offsite so we had the best of both worlds.

Veronika13 · 24/05/2021 22:59

@ArcheryAnnie

OP, is your DH grumpy if you don't have sex for any other reason, too?
Ffs don't make him sound like a bad person!

Holiday is all about memories, laughs, golden tan, cocktails, plenty of morning sex. People graft ALL year (and some for years) for a holiday in Disney.

I am COMPLETELY with the husband on this one. Parents sacrifice so much for kids as it is, they deserve an amazing holiday for themselves too. Besides, if parents have a healthy strong relationship then it's a huge benefits for the kids.

Localocal · 24/05/2021 23:34

I would stay on site if possible. You have to plan Disney like a military campaign if you don't want to spend all your time in queues, and those early morning hours for on-site guests are golden. They turn your jetlag to your advantage!

fruityorange · 24/05/2021 23:36

@Veronika13 you have very different holidays with young children than I have.

Maggiesfarm · 25/05/2021 03:39

Veronika: People graft ALL year (and some for years) for a holiday in Disney.
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More fools them!
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I am COMPLETELY with the husband on this one. Parents sacrifice so much for kids as it is, they deserve an amazing holiday for themselves too.
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No reason they can't all have an amazing holiday. It isn't all about sex and for goodness sakes, we are talking about two weeks, not two years! There are pleasures other than sex.

Treating children well is what we are supposed to do and what they are entitled to. it is not a sacrifice. There's nothing worse than parents who 'sacrifice' so much for the kids' they chose to have; I can imagine the children, if they hear that later on in their lives, thinking, "Well I didn't ask you to". You know life after kids will be different but they grow up in no time. Children also give their parents a lot of joy in life, they are assets, not sponges (most of the time).

This trip to Disney sounds as though it is something the parents want to do with their children, it's a family holiday. Parents can have an amazing holiday, maybe many, without them later on.

Jojo2347 · 25/05/2021 06:44

Having been 3 times I would definitely opt for a villa over on sight - driving over there Is so easy - the last holiday my hubby couldn’t come snd I did all the driving it was great.

We have also stayed in nearby hotel with shuttle service - huge 3 bed apartment - all the facilities of a hotel and a much needed break from the hustle and bustle of the parks x

Quartz2208 · 25/05/2021 07:00

There are many websites and Facebook groups which tell you that Disney is not just a holiday for children, yes it can be an amazing holiday for a family but it can and is an amazing holiday for adults, many of whom choose to go without children

We go/went st Christmas and there were huge numbers of adults on their own. Loads travel down from the Carolinas/Georgia in the run up to Christmas for a holiday before the family descends at Christmas. Epcot had/s a good and drink festival that includes many alcoholic drink tastings in October and November

If it’s not for you fine, you would have to drag me into a cruise kicking and screaming but don’t put down those who love it. Life would be very dull if we all liked the same things

I hope since the OP hasn’t been back she has gone to use the other resources to come up with a plan that suits everyone which should be fairly easy to do

PlentyOfBiscuitsWithTea · 25/05/2021 08:36

Kids club during the day is when you have holiday sex in a family room!!

knittingaddict · 25/05/2021 10:08

We did enjoy Disney and we've been to Florida twice, but there is so much more to see and do over there.

Both times we have stayed in gorgeous villas with our own pool and jacuzzi. We hired cars for the whole two weeks and it was easy to do the quick drive to the theme parks. It also meant we could do other things. We went to:

Universal Studios
Seaworld
Clearwater Beach
Busch Gardens
Mount Dora
Anna Maria Island
Orlando
Cape Kennedy (my husband)
Florida Mall
Various restaurants and diners

I can only think that we did Disney all wrong because we definitely weren't too exhausted for socialising or sex.

I know it's horses for courses, but two weeks in Disney resort sounds like hell on earth and I love theme parks.

rookiemere · 25/05/2021 10:30

@knittingaddict yes I too am thinking somehow we did Disney wrong, as although we had jet lag obviously, I don't recall being overwhelmed by exhaustion after a park visit.

Mind you we didn't do the parades and shows as much and avoided busy times by going early - from recollection most parks general opening was at 7 or 8 am at that time so got a few hours when it wasn't busy. We'd generally relax by the pool in the afternoon and then out locally for dinner. I'd have hated all being squished up in one wee room with no space to relax.

knittingaddict · 25/05/2021 11:24

[quote rookiemere]@knittingaddict yes I too am thinking somehow we did Disney wrong, as although we had jet lag obviously, I don't recall being overwhelmed by exhaustion after a park visit.

Mind you we didn't do the parades and shows as much and avoided busy times by going early - from recollection most parks general opening was at 7 or 8 am at that time so got a few hours when it wasn't busy. We'd generally relax by the pool in the afternoon and then out locally for dinner. I'd have hated all being squished up in one wee room with no space to relax.[/quote]
That's what we did. It was two weeks and we took a rather relaxed pace and still managed to see and do everything. We did one day in a park and then one day doing other things like shopping, going to the imax cinema or sightseeing further afield. If I was staying in one hotel room I would have stayed out as much as possible too and been miserable.

bemusedmoose · 25/05/2021 17:09

2 small kids at Disney for 2 weeks... Probably too knackered for sex!! 😂

Kids club? I'm sure if you were both interested enough there would be a chance of a bit of action, just have to be outside of the bed.

The fact that he's sulking over that and not happy about a 2 week fun packed holiday sucks though.

2 weeks is nothing - some of us haven't had action in years!! 😂

FaceAcher · 25/05/2021 17:12

We've had many onsite Disney holidays.

Pre and post kids.

So yes plenty of 2 week trips with just a hotel room. But we're only it it to sleep/wash/chill out from the heat.

Generally after walking 15 miles a day in the Florida humidity neither of us feel much in the mood anyway.

Although - If my DH got grumpy about a family holiday because of no sex then he wouldn't be coming on the holiday (nor would I have married him)