Two week holiday, family room, no sex

[Timetheworldsaysicantafford]

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

@Timetheworldsaysicantafford You will be walking for MILES, and in the heat. He’ll get into bed and zzzzzzzzz

I'm amazed at all these people that won't have sex with sleeping young kids in the room! Did you never do it when your babies shared a room with you?

@Tiffanny is a more expensive option. The OP has explained that. So basically she would have to pay a few thousand more so they can shag.

Villas are not the more expensive option if you stay onsite. They are a more expensive option for onsite unless you try DVS points. They could easily do both.

OP has clearly left, hopefully to more Orlando focused places that can help her come up with a compromise and build the holiday that suits everyone which should be fairly easy to go

A two week holiday with no bonking sounds crap. Im with him!

Op genuine question, do you not feel sad that you won't get to spend any time alone with your dh?
I love getting the kids to bed after a lovely family day together and then spending the evening with dh. It's so lovely to relax and be away from the daily grind and yes, catch up on some of the sex we don't always have time for at home!
I'd hate to miss out on that, I really feel sorry for your dh.

@astery the OP posted twice. She didn't mention costs in either. Other people have explained that a suite on Disney would be very pricey, but again throughout the thread people have come up with other less costly options.
I would think OP wants the convenience of being on site as first time visitors, but if an offsite accommodation option exists at the same price then not sure why that automatically trumps the DHs desire to have a separate sleeping area.
In either case I'm sure the Dcs will have an enjoyable holiday.

We did 2 weeks in WDW in 2019 with 2 kids. All of us in a room on site. I agree with you OP that location is far more important than sex . We literally were in our room to sleep, change, shower. And after full days at the parks sleep was the only thing on our minds. Plenty of space for 4 in the room (we were in a deluxe resort which are maybe a little bigger?) Would do it again no question.

lol at the people thinking 2 weeks without sex is crazy.

Im currently pregnant and higher risk so havent had sex in 7 months, couldnt in my last pregnancy before that either and its a total non issue.

Even when not pregnant we can go over 2 weeks without sex, between work and kids I would rather chill, eat takeaway and watch tv or go out for a meal together and talk than to rush to the bedroom and have awkward sweaty forced sex (because lets face it when you finally have time is never the time your actually in the mood).

@MsTSwift

Agree with the two Littles 😁

Odd that some English people see Disney as akin to a magical quasi religious experience that ones dc must be taken to or be poor deprived waifs. The Americans we met just saw it as another theme park to go to with the kids occasionally. And yes we have been not to the Florida one. It was good but as teens look back over our holidays the Disney ones are not the stand outs

I remember having a conversation with a group of mums when my children were much younger where I said I'd never go with my children to anything in the Disney multiverse (if their Dad wanted to bring them, that'd be up to him) and there was almost an intake of breath for some. But why, some almost wailed, they would love it. When I told the same group that we had been on great holidays to Germany, Scandinavia, London, etc - that we had in fact never been on a sun/beach/pool holiday either, I thought their brains would explode. It was is our holiday had consisted of a mild flogging, followed by a rat sandwich. I cannot understand how people cam have such a narrow idea of what a holiday with children can be - I also think it shows a very low opionion of your childrens creativity, imagination and intelligence to think the ONLY thing they could possibly enjoy is sand, water and cartoon characters and rides. They can enjoy all those things but also so much more.

Is he grumpy because of no sex for 2 weeks, or is he sad that he wants to spend some intimate time with you, which is important, but the holiday arrangements mean he can't. Also if he is grumpy now his mood won't improve if you forge ahead with it. It does sound a bit close for comfort and wouldn't it be nicer for you both if you can pack the kids off to bed? They will be knackered if going to Disney every day put some research in to cheaper options like people have suggested. And maybe try reframing that he finds you attractive and wants some alone time.

@LittleGwyneth

Why would two adults who fancy each other deliberately go on a holiday where they won't be able to have sex, or will have to have sex in a bathroom next door to their sleeping children?!

Hmm I think this is a case of MNers having a lot more money than most families! I thought people generally shared rooms with their kids! That's why hotels have family rooms.

OK I know people might holiday in self-catering accommodation with more space, but that's not always an option, and a lot of people prefer hotels anyway.

@Kittykaboodle

Two weeks Disney??? Why not one week (Max) then a week somewhere else, with better accommodation options.

My uncle did this unfortunately for him the kids got bored and they ended up back at Disney lol

@LittleGwyneth

Why would two adults who fancy each other deliberately go on a holiday where they won't be able to have sex, or will have to have sex in a bathroom next door to their sleeping children?!

I would guess probably having sex isn't a requirement on the list of a holiday destination.

Me thinking why my husband is ok to go without it for months /years

we had in fact never been on a sun/beach/pool holiday either

I'm bored after 10 minutes on a beach. There's no way I'd ever go on a beach holiday. We've stayed in Italy and the Channel Islands with hotel pools but generally we've done a lot of city-based holidays too. I will have to ask DS if he feels deprived!

Two weeks at Disney World? Why?

Even the biggest fans would only need about a week, I imagine (not a fan).

Go somewhere else during the second week, yes!

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When we stayed at Disney Paris we had a hotel that had bunk room off the side of our room which meant the children were with us but not with us 😊

How dare a man want to have sex with his wife on holiday. What a sex pest he must be!

I agree with your DH. I’d happily sacrifice alone time as a couple for a few days to do something the kids will love, but not for a fortnight.

When you weigh up how much time you’ll spend in the room it’s really not that bad! Also there’s always the Bathroom

@Lweji

Two weeks at Disney World? Why?

Even the biggest fans would only need about a week, I imagine (not a fan).

Go somewhere else during the second week, yes!

There are four theme parks, most of which take two days to experience as much as you can, two water parks and an entertainment complex. It takes at least two weeks to scratch the surface at WDW to be honest.

It takes at least two weeks to scratch the surface at WDW to be honest.

Thanks. :D
Still in shock. I can't imagine wanting to spend all that time in queues and crowds, though, even if the parks are great.

We had a family room and Sec on the bathroom floor. Just saying.