How would you punish a 15 year old who told you to piss off?

[Sillawithans]

Stepson lives with me full time, no mother in the picture. Told all 4 children during the week that I wanted them to help around the house this morning and to not make plans.

He came down ready to go at nine, conversation went back and forth for a few mins, he left. I then messaged him and told him he was grounded when he got home and no pocket money for 2 weeks. He then told me to piss off and to get a grip. When I said you're grounded now he said oh ok, but I'm not.

Not gonna lie, I wanted to fucking throttle him.

I've removed his PlayStation, think I'll go for the phone later too, he will be grounded and no pocket money for at least two weeks.

He's turning 16 in June, I ordered him an IPhone just yesterday that he has wanted for a long time and cancelled it this morning, fuck that, now he can piss off. He didn't know about the phone as it was a surprise.

Little shit.

@Miasicarisatia

With this scorched earth policy you will reap what you have sown

@Sillawithans Step-parenting is a fucking minefield

My DSD is 21 now, has lived with us since she was 12 and we've have the usual ups and downs

Not sure why PP are excusing your DSS of telling you to piss off, just imagine if it was your DH - they'd be telling you to leave the bastard...

Everything you've done seems like an appropriate punishment to me, given that you'd only asked for an hour of his time and he's quite blatantly been disrespectful and rude

The little shit needs to learn some manners and to respect his parents, because at the end of the day, step or not, you are one of his parents

Dad needs to really step up here.

@Scarlettpixie

Cancelling his birthday present is a massive over reaction. Other than that you seem to have sorted things fine.

Where does she say it’s a birthday present?

@Elsielouise13 - read the thread. She’s explained his age and school year repeatedly.

@FooFighter99 step parenting and a teenager, my God, it would drive you to drink!

@CatsArePeople not sure why you think that.

@Pinkylemons I think I said it in my op

[quote Sillawithans]@FooFighter99 step parenting and a teenager, my God, it would drive you to drink![/quote]
You’re not kidding @Sillawithans

It’s been a rollercoaster but she’s such a lovely young woman who we’re immensely proud of!

@FooFighter99 I have 2 girls who are angels so far, pinning all my hopes on them
That's lovely to hear yours is a lovely young woman, that's all we want for them, to be good people, makes life so much easier for them.

[quote Pinkylemons]@Elsielouise13 - read the thread. She’s explained his age and school year repeatedly.[/quote]
I’m glad you’re watching to make sure none of us miss anything. I bet your neighbours love you...

get him to do his own laundry. washing, drying, ironing, putting back.
works wonders. plus it's a skill for him (tick) and less for you to do (tick tick)

@sweatervest

get him to do his own laundry. washing, drying, ironing, putting back. works wonders. plus it's a skill for him (tick) and less for you to do (tick tick)

After which he can mow the lawn and wash the car. For a year at least!

I imagine the op has got over by now (hope so).

@Maggiesfarm I have indeed it'll be something else tomorrow so no point in raising my blood pressure every five mins