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to think this is a stealth post or am I a miserable cow?

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Sternschnuppe · 19/05/2021 19:13

I'm due to start a new job in June. It's a complete remote position and I'll be training for four weeks at the beginning with other new starters.

I don't know any of the people I'll be training with, but today I saw on LinkedIn that one of the HR people at the company who headhunted me liked a post of one of the new starters at the company.

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life"

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?

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StealthPolarBear · 19/05/2021 19:14

I'm afraid it's normal. I don't think it's fair to say it's full of self praise.
It's certainly common, but I wouldn't do it.

Bluntness100 · 19/05/2021 19:15

I don’t see anything wrong with that. I don’t see how it’s narcissistic and full of self praise they are saying they are grateful for the job and it wasn’t easy,

I’m honestly not sure what your problem is with it. It’s a bit gushy but why would it cause you such an issue?

shouldistop · 19/05/2021 19:15

It's a bit cheesy but I don't see where it's full of self praise. Anyway do people not treat LinkedIn a bit like a cv where you're meant to big yourself up professionally l?

ticktockriojaoclock · 19/05/2021 19:16

It's a bit cringe to be fair, but why do you think you've taken it so personally?

Babyg1995 · 19/05/2021 19:16

How is that narcissistic Hmm

Blossomtoes · 19/05/2021 19:17

Nothing narcissistic or self praising about that, she’s excited about starting a new job. She’ll do very well with that level of enthusiasm.

DrSbaitso · 19/05/2021 19:17

Sounds like they were trying to impress their new bosses and seem eager. And it worked.

And they might be very young if they've just finished their degree?

You might want to ask yourself why it provoked such a negative reaction in you that you want to get us in on it.

horizondawn02 · 19/05/2021 19:17

Same as above really in that it’s quite normal I guess. But I wouldn’t post it with that wording especially during the times we are in now, even on LinkedIn though it’s probably more appropriate there

Moonshine11 · 19/05/2021 19:17

Yeah it’s cheesy and I wouldn’t do it but it happens a lot on LinkedIn. Not out the ordinary tbh, their obv just very happy.

tothesea · 19/05/2021 19:17

I find the older I get the harder I roll my eyes. Having said that I do try and remember being young, full of enthusiasm and a bit naive.

Aquamarine1029 · 19/05/2021 19:18

It's not something I would post, but yeah, you're kind of being a cow.

Unreasonabubble · 19/05/2021 19:18

It is something the young do when they are indeed young and enthusiastic. As we get older, we tend to post a lot less.

GappyValley · 19/05/2021 19:18

We hire a lot of grads and they do like to overshare on LinkedIn!

It’s normally very effusive stuff about how great the company is, but it’s a bit more than anything I would post

LindaEllen · 19/05/2021 19:18

What's stealth about it? This person is posting that they're proud and why. It's not stealth, it's how they feel. Whether you'd post is another matter, but perhaps it is a really really big thing for them. Hardly worth making a thread about it, is it? Be happy for them?

dudsville · 19/05/2021 19:19

Let other people live their lives differently to you. This isn't how I communicate, but I respect her right to communicate this way.

MallardtheKing · 19/05/2021 19:19

That just sounds like 90% of the posts on LinkedIn!

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 19/05/2021 19:21

I thought the stealth boast was you dropping it in that you were headhunted.

Those kind of posts are a bit irritating but it doesn't sound like a boast stealth or otherwise.

PeteWicksSexyPirate · 19/05/2021 19:21

Is this a stealth boast to casually drop in that you was head hunted Wink

MadMadMadamMim · 19/05/2021 19:22

I'd be rolling my eyes at this. But I'm not 21 and just out of uni. I'm closer to 60 and can't imagine being this gushing and fake. For people of (roughly) my age it is the type of shit that 'Miss World' contestants came out with, back in the day.

For the 'youth' of today it appears to be common to post this kind of shit all over social media. It's why I don't do Facebook or other things like it. It's also why I dislike reality tv.

3scape · 19/05/2021 19:23

Well, You've identified the enthusiastic member of the team! They're proud, excited and probably need this. They've less boundaries than you, but there's plus points to both sides of that to a business. There's a reason they were recruited, there's a reason you were. Well done on your new job.

FartleBarfle · 19/05/2021 19:24

YANBU but I would come off LinkedIn now if you don't enjoy people sniffing their own farts in public. It is the most narcissistic and superficial social networking platform of all.

3scape · 19/05/2021 19:24

*there are plus points.

DrSbaitso · 19/05/2021 19:24

Is it any more narcissistic and self-praising than making sure we all know you were headhunted?

lfYouSaySo · 19/05/2021 19:24

It's exactly what people do on LinkedIn, it's all about building your "brand".

SaturdayRocks · 19/05/2021 19:25

That type of message is the epitome of cringe in my book - but yes, also entirely normal in this day and age.

Roll eyes and move on.