to think this is a stealth post or am I a miserable cow?

[Sternschnuppe]

I'm due to start a new job in June. It's a complete remote position and I'll be training for four weeks at the beginning with other new starters.

I don't know any of the people I'll be training with, but today I saw on LinkedIn that one of the HR people at the company who headhunted me liked a post of one of the new starters at the company.

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life"

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?

[quote Drunkenmonkey]@DrSbaitso my concern for mental health was related to the wider issue of social media as a whole and how the relentless seeking of approval on social media isn't good for society especially young people and that does worry me as I have kids.

The reason I don't like those posts is really simple though, I just don't like them. Just like I don't like the tone in certain newspapers, or the delivery of certain news presenters. Everyone has preferences, it doesn't mean you think you are 'superior' to them.
There are lots of things on social media that I do like, I like seeing friends photos and seeing what people are up to, I like informative posts, I like posts that raise debate, but I just don't like posts that exist purely to brag, it's cringeworthy.

Anyway we are going round in circles, if only there was a preference on social media called 'only show me posts that are non braggy' but alas, it doesn't exist.[/quote]
Why do you people always start frantically backpedalling once your openly judgemental language and tone ("braggy", "fake", "insincere", lots of stuff about how much you would never do it) gets questioned? You've very clearly made it a moral issue. Even people who feel the same as you aren't going to believe that actually it's just a totally neutral personal preference.

And then pulling in mental health the way someone else earlier started pulling in the pandemic itself to try to add gravity to the self righteousness. As if that's what forms your objection.

I don't know why you've got people on your feed whose content you hate so much. Just mute them. No, you can't selectively mute particular posts but if you find them so braggy and fake and insincere, you're not going to miss much.

Your reward for using social media in the morally correct way is being such a better person. If that's not enough, ask yourself what the objection really is.

Ok firstly you are being way OTT and personal in your assumptions about me. I specifically said I barely use social media anymore and I have never 'back pedalled' on anything I have said.

I think someone brought the pandemic in because it is relevant. Hypothetically I wouldn't have posted on social media (Facebook for example) during the pandemic that my partner or I had just landed a massive promotion. You might say that is me being 'self righteous', I would say it is being considerate. I know of multiple people who have lost jobs during the pandemic so no I absolutely wouldn't have posted a braggy 'landed my dream job' post during this time. What purpose does it serve?

All I am saying is that I don't like posts that are purely there to brag. I think it comes across as self centred and boastful. If YOU think that makes me think I'm superior then quite frankly, I don't give a fuck. You clearly think you are superior to me in your approach so it clearly works both ways.

In terms of linked in, fortunately I entered my career before any of that self promotion was necessary and it certainly wouldn't make me more likely to employ someone now, and I think most of my friends and peers would feel the same way.

Its not narcissistic at all! Can you not be happy for them? You may have been headhunted but this may have been the 100th job that they applied to.
Its very normal on Linked In, and I don't see anything wrong with it all.

Clearly don't spend very much time on LinkedIn. Perfectly normal. Probably worked well for them.

Aren't a lot of people headhunted nowadays if companies are looking for specific skills?

That’s not headhunted. That’s recruiters trawling the likes of LinkedIn for people who have experience and is standard practice for recruiters nowadays.. Headhunters will look for a specific person, usually based on a recommendation from someone who has worked with them or who has made a name for themselves in an industry.

Yes you are a miserable cow

YANBU but it is very ‘Gen Zee’, so get used to it!

Suck up

At least the new starter didn't say "humbled".
LinkedIn is full of this guff. Less than 10% of what's posted there has any point to it.