to think this is a stealth post or am I a miserable cow?

[Sternschnuppe]

I'm due to start a new job in June. It's a complete remote position and I'll be training for four weeks at the beginning with other new starters.

I don't know any of the people I'll be training with, but today I saw on LinkedIn that one of the HR people at the company who headhunted me liked a post of one of the new starters at the company.

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life"

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?

S'young people innit

I cba with ‘feeling blessed’ either but it’s fairly ubiquitous in its use now.

im late 40s and i find this shite really sick inducing , its crawling at its best , but thats just me , im not that kind of a gushy putting myself forward person anyway , i just like to quietly crack on with the job and if i get commended or complimented it isnt because iv brown nosed , but i suppose as others have said its common in todays society , social media and all that

It was very "look at me"

On LinkedIn, of all places!

Aw Jesus, it's just skid right out of college getting a job in the middle of a massive recruitment crisis and pandemic and you find them irritating for whatever personal reason😕

Give them a break. They should be bloody proud and chuffed with themselves.

Also, linkedIn feeds these kind of posts to people and make it beneficial to make posts like that.

maybe it's normal to write braggy posts on LinkedIn like that nowadays and I should get with the times

Maybe, but is it any worse than writing Braggy posts on mumsnet saying you were head hunted then tiliting your head, giving a tinkly laugh and exclaiming with wide eyed innocence “ why isn’t everyone head hunted now?”

Just curious…😂

It really isn't narcissistic. I'm not sure you know what that means if you think this post is it.

LinkedIn is a career site. So of course someone will write about their job. They also said it wasn't easy to get a job after graduation. Loads of people experience thus and it's nice to celebrate when you do.

I really think you need to reflect on why you're so cynical and assume the worst in people.

LinkedIn has gone from very business centric to quite personal. I think this is the new normal. Shrug and move on or put a "wow we'll be working together" comment on (if you want). I'm finding LI is setting my teeth on edge at the moment. I suspect that's more to do with job hunting, lockdown and too much time on my hands.

LinkedIn is a platform to help people further their career and professional networks. This is exactly the place for that type of post.

The irony of you moaning about a stealth boast and then oh so casually dropping in that you were headhunted

It was cringe 20 years ago but now it's par the course.

Bullshit, narcissistic but that's SM for you.

Play the game and post something similar in a couple of days, op.

I’m far too cynical for LinkedIn. I have to grit my teeth and it makes my eyes bleed. Unfortunately, a profile is pretty much mandatory nowadays.

I think people being annoyed need to take a look at their own reaction more than the person posting on linkedIn.

maybe it's normal to write braggy posts on LinkedIn like that nowadays and I should get with the times.

The point is that "braggy" is your perception. You're reading it as braggy when it may not be to her. Just like you've claimed mentioning you were headhunted wasn't meant to be braggy either.

Sometimes, what people find annoying is a reflection of who they are. That's why I mentioned mirror. I won't be surprised if you have more things in common with this person you find annoying than just 'accidentally braggy' posts.

Next thing you know op will be asking us for how to take a LinkedIn photo, arms folded and all, looking all capable, and some creative, uplifting, inspiring content

I thought the stealth boast was you dropping it in that you were headhunted.

No seriously... I think this is a classic case of society in general veering too far one way, alienating people, alienating themselves, and then society veering too far the opposite way to try to compensate and distance themselves from the aliens.

I "rolled my eyes" at the massive Christmas morning pile "I am just so blessed to have two beautiful intelligent children and a husband who you all fancy but only fancies me. Hard work on my business has made this possible... and if you would like know more, PM me 💕 p.s he is also great in bed and Amy, 4 is going to love her macbook pro."

But now I kinda "roll my eyes" just as often at the dementor society we've put in place to compensate for all of that above. ♟ (A Dementor in the wild). Where we can never talk publicly about anything good, anything we're grateful for, anything we've overcame, anything we're hopeful for. Because even if a Dementor doesn't come to publicly sook the joy out of your soul, they'll definitely be thinking it and rolling their eyes.

OP you both deserve a congratulations, and I genuinely wish you the best in your career. Even though yes you stealth-boasted you know you did

It sounds like you’ve joined an MLM, did she post any emojis?
Most friends who are in genuine professional careers (solicitors, doctors, teachers etc) don’t list their employer on any social media account and don’t have a LinkedIn. In my line of work that would be seen as unprofessional and frankly, quite childish.

I don't think you're being a miserable bitter cow. I hate this need for people to constantly share everything and assume that everyone gives a shit.

I do think it's bragging and think that people just need to be more modest and stop bleating on about how fucking great they are

I am old and jaded too OP and it makes me cringe a bit. But roll your eyes and move on. Or stay off Linked In :)

@Dustinto

It sounds like you’ve joined an MLM, did she post any emojis? Most friends who are in genuine professional careers (solicitors, doctors, teachers etc) don’t list their employer on any social media account and don’t have a LinkedIn. In my line of work that would be seen as unprofessional and frankly, quite childish.

That’s not totally true, my employer is listed in my LinkedIn and I’m in a corporate role. My daughter is a lawyer and hers is on her LinkedIn, as is most of the associates, senior associates and partners. General social media no, but defintely LinkedIn. Although I agree we would not put these cringey posts.

@sternschuppe OP I was really surprised to read you are surprised - this kind of post is is par for the course on the weird, bright white world of LinkedIn. But then I read you just joined. As PPs have said, the post you read is the norm. LinkedIn is an irony-free zone but quite useful for work stuff in various ways. Other people look you up to see what your creds are. I think you should post something yourself when you feel the time is right. But you can do it better and be more subtle. Maybe something about industry news or that isn't at least only about you and your career and in your own style. You could start by sharing on a piece of industry news to your whole network, commenting on top something like:
"This [whatever you choose to highlight] looks really good. A great new innovation. It will save time and costs and is also kind to the planet." Or whatever. But first be a market follower for a few weeks. Just have a look whenever you can be bothered and see what other people who you admire are posting. Then emulate that format. If you don't feel comfortable then don't post at all.

It's both, it's a stealth brag and you're being a bit bitter. I'm the same, can't stand it, but it's how the world works now.

Where we can never talk publicly about anything good, anything we're grateful for, anything we've overcame, anything we're hopeful for. Because even if a Dementor doesn't come to publicly sook the joy out of your soul, they'll definitely be thinking it and rolling their eyes.

It's all over MN, with the "I quietly get on with things and don't care to say anything positive about myself but secretly want to be appreciated by everybody or else I'll feel worthless and veer into self-deprecation, which I'll convince myself and others is a virtue".

LOL @susannahmoody yes exactly

Why shouldn't people be proud of themselves, what's wrong with that.