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to think this is a stealth post or am I a miserable cow?

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Sternschnuppe · 19/05/2021 19:13

I'm due to start a new job in June. It's a complete remote position and I'll be training for four weeks at the beginning with other new starters.

I don't know any of the people I'll be training with, but today I saw on LinkedIn that one of the HR people at the company who headhunted me liked a post of one of the new starters at the company.

It went along the lines of "I'm so happy and excited to start my role. During this pandemic, landing this dream role right after getting my university degree hasn't been easy. I'm feeling so blessed and can't wait for this new chapter in my life"

I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?

OP posts:
UrAWizHarry · 19/05/2021 20:12

It's a graduate excited to start a new job. Don't be such a killjoy.

Gingertam · 19/05/2021 20:12

I would be rolling my eyes too. Things like that make me cringe, but there will be a whole load of people who think it's great. Probably people who overshare on Facebook.

roguetomato · 19/05/2021 20:13

I think it sounds lovely. I can definitely feel the excitement and passion for the job and she/he sounds so happy. If I read that comment, it would definitely makes me smile.

Original poster
Sternschnuppe · 19/05/2021 20:14

@Dustinto

Definitely not a MLM, it's a proper company.

I'm surprised you say this, I googled hospital consultants before and found their information on LinkedIn.

OP posts:
ilovemydogandmrobama2 · 19/05/2021 20:14

Linked In is more social media, and have to say was a bit Hmm when one of the graduate trainees where I worked asked me if I could send him photos from his presentation as he wanted to put it straight onto Linked In.

But then another grad trainee asked me to take a picture of her with her new site pass, which ended up on linked In.

Actually thought it was sweet that they were so excited to have a job.

mswales · 19/05/2021 20:16

ewwwww gross!! Can't believe people are calling the OP jealous and not seeing the boasting in this total cringe post! If that kind of superficial cheesy crap gets you 'noticed' in a workplace then it's not the kind of workplace I want to be in. It's great to be super vocal about loving your workplace and being excited about your job, thankful for the opportunity etc, but in the right context -the gushy language public proclamation written for others to see is something I find really off putting.

The3rdMrsdeWinter · 19/05/2021 20:16

Bluntness stop being so relentlessly unpleasant and trying to demean the OP.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 19/05/2021 20:18

It's just flowery verbal diarrhoea that's so common these days (Meghan Markle is a master at it). Why use 10 words when you can use a hundred?

Whatshouldicallme · 19/05/2021 20:18

YANBU, it's a humblebrag in the middle of a pandemic which has affected the jobs of many. Completely tone deaf. I'm shocked at the number of people that seem to think this is okay?!

UrAWizHarry · 19/05/2021 20:20

@Whatshouldicallme

YANBU, it's a humblebrag in the middle of a pandemic which has affected the jobs of many. Completely tone deaf. I'm shocked at the number of people that seem to think this is okay?!
...people get to be happy and proud of their achievements. Sheesh. I wouldn't do it as a professional but to get annoyed at a graduate being excited about a job is pretty fucking miserable.
OldkermitSippingtea · 19/05/2021 20:22

I'm only pointing out OP's hypocrisy. I'm not even on LinkedIn (anymore. Haven't been in years and had no idea it had gone social) or any social media.

Social media posts are the same "look at me" no matter if it's gushy or serious. So anyone who's posting their "thoughts" and life updates on their pages and profiles for people to see falls under the 'look at me' umbrella. You just don't like this particular brand of look at me and that's okay. It doesn't make the person anything you think.

Catlover77 · 19/05/2021 20:26

I’m with you OP. It is beyond cringey, but then I’m not even on Linked in due to the utter drivel people write

Confusedandshaken · 19/05/2021 20:27

The youngster who posted this hasn't even started at the company yet and has already attracted favourable attention from HR. It sounds like a great start to her career. Pity you didn't do the same OP.

And it's an excellent thing that she is proud of her achievement. We should all be proud of what we achieve. Sometimes during this pandemic I've been proud of just getting up and getting dressed.

MaryThorne · 19/05/2021 20:27

Have some compassion OP, it sounds like the other person is young, excited and probably feeling very lucky in this climate to have got a role straight out of uni. Who knows what else has been happening in their life. I'm a middle aged cynic and there are plenty of things on LinkedIn that make me Hmm but this is innocuous and sounds like they are feeling lucky and excited. Don't forget that different generations interact on social media in very different ways.

Whatshouldicallme · 19/05/2021 20:28

"...people get to be happy and proud of their achievements. Sheesh. I wouldn't do it as a professional but to get annoyed at a graduate being excited about a job is pretty fucking miserable."

Of course it's normal to talk about it and be excited with those close to you, like your mum. It's massively cringe and ridiculous to annouce it publicly on SM. What is the purpose of it meant to be?

Sssloou · 19/05/2021 20:28

*I was rolling my eyes to the back of my head when I read that and just thought how narcissistic and full of self-praise this person is to write this publically on LinkedIn, but am I being unreasonable?

Is this the new normal and I'm just being a miserable, bitter cow that should get with the times?*

I don’t see the point of these types of threads where the OP asks a clear Q and gets a pretty unanimous response - BUT can’t just say “OK thanks for taking the time answering the Q I asked - I can see that there is another perspective widely held - something for me to reflect on” - but instead just goes on to double down and argue and defend her original stance repeatedly.

Why not just state your position if you are not open to discussion or debate.

katy1213 · 19/05/2021 20:29

I'm old enough to think really unprofessional and mark them down as the person least likely to succeed when it comes to doing the job!

UrAWizHarry · 19/05/2021 20:30

@Whatshouldicallme

"...people get to be happy and proud of their achievements. Sheesh. I wouldn't do it as a professional but to get annoyed at a graduate being excited about a job is pretty fucking miserable."

Of course it's normal to talk about it and be excited with those close to you, like your mum. It's massively cringe and ridiculous to annouce it publicly on SM. What is the purpose of it meant to be?

It's exactly what social media is for. It's a graduate, excited to be starting their first job out of university posting just that on a work-orientated social media platform.

If you get annoyed at things like that just don't go on SM sites.

FlattestWhite · 19/05/2021 20:31

well I don't like the wording of it myself either, but it's hardly anything stealthy if it's a place anyone can post! She's not sneaking around trying to suck up to the bosses or anything - you could have done the same if you wanted to.

I think lots of people find it very cringey, but they disagree that it's stealthy. What do you mean by stealthy?

And yes, lots of people post things that are totally normal to them, and other people hate it because of something specific to them - their own pet peeves, or their own insecurities, or whatever, and they ascribe all kinds of other motives to it.

You don't have to like it. And if you'd posted saying you thought it was cringey, then I'm sure lots of people would agree with you. It's accusing her of posting in some kind of stealthy way that it a bit out of nowhere, when it's a totally open platform that you could have posted on too if you'd wanted to get the boss's attention

UrAWizHarry · 19/05/2021 20:32

@katy1213

I'm old enough to think really unprofessional and mark them down as the person least likely to succeed when it comes to doing the job!
1) How is unprofessional to express excitement at starting a new job, particually a grad starting their first job?
  1. "Marking them down" for being excited about a job is, well, a bit daft.
Piglet89 · 19/05/2021 20:32

I hate HATE the stealth boasts on LinkedIn. They’re not even that stealth.

“Honoured to have been invited to participate in x panel...”

“Privileged to have been awarded...”

Honestly, just fuck OFF.

Zalto · 19/05/2021 20:33

It’s no cringier than saying you’ve been headhunted.

C152 · 19/05/2021 20:34

YANBU - I'd be rolling my eyes right alongside you (and making a mental note to avoid that person in the office, whenever possible) but, unfortunately, it does seem to be what many people do now.

Confusedandshaken · 19/05/2021 20:46

The Op says her role will be 100% remote working. I wonder if the young graduate will be in a similar position? If she is it makes good sense that she is showing her enthusiasm via social media. With remote working it can be very easy to fade into the background and get overlooked. That doesn't bode well for future advancement. That isn't going to happen to this young woman. Whether we think what she said was appropriate or not she got the OPs attention, HRs attention and now our attention.That sounds like an excellent start to her new career.

ChewtonRoad · 19/05/2021 20:48

YADNBU.

If the person who feels "blessed" (vom) is pleased and proud to have finished uni and found a job then good for her, she's done well at a rotten time to have to do those things.

What's annoying is the nonstop need for validation, for "likes", and for acknowledgement from strangers. The person who was hired should be pleased with her accomplishements and no doubt has told friends and family - but why would anyone on LinkedIn or anywhere else give the tiniest rat's bollock about it?

Those who take the view "if it's not on SM it didn't happen and doesn't count" need to think about what truly matters - approbation from strangers won't mean a lot in twenty years' time.

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