Am I wrong to be upset I missed my son opening his birthday presents? 😭

[BellaFranksLily]

Its my sons 7th Birthday today. I was up late wrapping his presents, decorating and generally making it nice for him. I woke up to find my partner wasn’t next to me in bed, & went downstairs to find he had let my son open all of his presents without me. I’ve never missed any of my kids opening presents on Birthdays or Christmas. I’m not going to ruin today being upset, but was on the verge of tears when I realised. My son asked me where I was, and my partner is acting like it’s not a big deal. Feel gutted 😭

What a prick!

Reactions here are OTT. Do people really get this worked up over this kind of thing?

If it’s any consolation, I can’t remember who was/wasn’t there on any of my birthdays to see me open presents.

I'd be raging and cry.

That's a shit thing for him to do and he knows it.

@ChrissyPlummer

Reactions here are OTT. Do people really get this worked up over this kind of thing?

If it’s any consolation, I can’t remember who was/wasn’t there on any of my birthdays to see me open presents.

You might not remember but the parents do!

I agree with the other posters saying he's a prick. He knew it would upset you. His lame excuse that he tried to wake you also tells me he knew what he was doing. Nasty behaviour.

Your partner is an asshole... its one of those actions I would never forget tbh.

Mine are teens now and I'd still be upset if I didn't see them opening their presents.

Especially as I do the planning/buying of gifts/ decorating/cake baking etc.

Sorry your DP was so incredibly thoughtless.

Wow! You know a situation is bad when the SPAG police have kept quiet!

I'm with you OP, it's a really shitty thing to do and I would be really upset with my DP if that happened here especially as you're the one who did all the prep.

I would be utterly furious! How thoughtless of him!

Very, very upsetting. I wonder if he wouldn't be too bothered about missing the kids opening their presents so (totally lacking in empathy) didn't think you would be either. Is this sort of clueless behaviour normal for him?

What a fucking shit he is

What an absolute tool. Thoughtless at best but selfish prick at worst. I'd be fuckin furious

Reading threads like these makes it pretty clear why so many people end up divorced. Have a conversation...set an alarm next time...raise your kids to know that both parents want to be present. He is not gaslighting. It’s depressing how many people throw that around without knowing what it means. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Discuss it like adults.

I think you should have been woken up, though perhaps a 7 year old should be able to wait a short while before opening presents.

I wouldn’t ever be able to forgive this.

@TinaYouFatLard

I wouldn’t ever be able to forgive this.

me either tbh, this is an appalling thing to do, he absolutely shafted you to take all the credit.

No. Me neither. Sorry op. Not only are you not at the top of his agenda but he made sure you were at the bottom of his list of things to give a shit about.

If DH did this he wouldn't be the man I married and I'd think carefully about our future.

I assume this isn't the first shit thing he's done.

I agree with the others that the idea that this is a great, kind, wonderful, thoughtful man who did one thoughtless thing doesn’t really track. This is almost certainly part of a pattern of dickish behavior on his part.

The lack of contrition (it’s no big deal) and the probable lies (you wouldn’t wake up), make this a malicious act.

My DH has done this. He likes to take the glory even though im the one sourcing and wrapping all the presents. I just tell DD that I got them all and dh did f all!

I am sorry to hear that, OP. Your husband is very insensitive. Make it clear to him that you want the presents opening to be in front of both of you and that's why you always wait for him as well. I hope it won't happen to you again. I would be so disappointed if I were in your shoes too.

That's really mean .....I'd be really upset too !!!!!!!!!

This would upset me