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Am I wrong to be upset I missed my son opening his birthday presents? 😭

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BellaFranksLily · 15/05/2021 12:37

Its my sons 7th Birthday today. I was up late wrapping his presents, decorating and generally making it nice for him. I woke up to find my partner wasn’t next to me in bed, & went downstairs to find he had let my son open all of his presents without me. I’ve never missed any of my kids opening presents on Birthdays or Christmas. I’m not going to ruin today being upset, but was on the verge of tears when I realised. My son asked me where I was, and my partner is acting like it’s not a big deal. Feel gutted 😭

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Flowerlane · 15/05/2021 12:48

Why did he not wake you??? I am usually easy going but this would piss me off.

What time did they get up and what time did you get up? Did your son not run into you in excitement?

I’m gutted for you Flowers

guiltynetter · 15/05/2021 12:48

I can't imagine this happening
Who is this selfish?!

HollowTalk · 15/05/2021 12:49

There's no way he's a normal, nice guy the rest of the time. I'd be so angry at this.

Smartiepants79 · 15/05/2021 12:49

You have every right to be upset and furious.
Your child is old enough to wait half an hour for you to get up. Or for someone to have come and got you.
Very stupid and thoughtless all round.

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BellaFranksLily · 15/05/2021 12:50

He’s never done it before, usually the kids run in our room and we all go down together. He said he heard them, and went down. He said he “tried” to wake me, but I honestly don’t believe him, and if he did he should have tried harder! He has stayed in bed some Christmas’s and I’ve always got him up, so he doesn’t miss anything, so I just don’t get it. Would have thought it’s obvious I would want to be there 🥺

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Tanfastic · 15/05/2021 12:50

Yeah I wouldn't be happy about that. It's a rule in our house nobody opens presents without us all there!

MilkWasABadChoice · 15/05/2021 12:51

DH did similar. Christmas Day, he went to get Dd (aged two I think) when she woke in the morning, and I found them half way through opening her stocking presents — 100% of which I had bought and wrapped.

I RAGED. You should rage too. It is unbearably thoughtless and mean.

Peanutbutterandbananatoastie · 15/05/2021 12:51

Does he do other things that make you feel this way?

Brokenpencilsarepointless · 15/05/2021 12:52

That's awful. And your son asking where you were is heartbreaking.

Your partner has been horrible.

My kids never open their gifts without me there. They'll come and get me. And you say that your kids do that too, so its obvious that he has actually told him not to wake you and just do it without you. I'd be furious.

Horehound · 15/05/2021 12:52

He did this on purpose. But why?

OwlinaTree · 15/05/2021 12:53

I'd be really upset by that.

I would be telling my DH once the kids were in bed how upset I was that he let him open everything without me.

JustFedUpOfThis · 15/05/2021 12:54

Completely unacceptable behaviour your partner is a selfish prick.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 15/05/2021 12:54

@Horehound

He did this on purpose. But why?
Yes this. He clearly didn’t try and wake you despite what he says. Does he have a track record of being a selfish arse or is this completely out of character?
Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 15/05/2021 12:55

@Shouldbedoing

Nasty bastard. Noone is that stupid. This was deliberate.
I agree, and I really doubt he did trying to wake you.
knightinshiningwhatever · 15/05/2021 12:56

That's horrible

NewPapaGuinea · 15/05/2021 13:00

Wow, what a wanker!

Shoxfordian · 15/05/2021 13:01

He sounds like a knob

anothernamereally · 15/05/2021 13:03

I'd be tempted to ask dc why they didn't come and wake you - bet the answer is he was told not to.
I would be furious- we all get up to open presents together even teens get up for siblings (and then go back to bed)

Freddiefox · 15/05/2021 13:05

Does he normally get up with them...

He sounds like an arse, you need to work out why he did it

youvegottenminuteslynn · 15/05/2021 13:05

That is genuinely nasty of him. He didn't try to wake you up, not properly.

The question is why he has done this?

Poor you, it's totally understandable you feel teary and let down, it was a horrible thing for him to do.

COPPER3 · 15/05/2021 13:06

Disgusting! A very hurtful thing to do to you. Massive red flag! What a nasty little man. Your poor little boy and poor you for missing this precious moment. Be on your alert with this man please!

takingmytimeonmyride · 15/05/2021 13:07

Mine are young adults/teens and we still all get up to watch the present opening. Even if some of them go back to bed after!

I'd be fuming. I love to take pics of them unwrapping their gifts as well.

youshallnotpass9 · 15/05/2021 13:07

On the off chance he is telling the truth and he couldn't wake you up, everyone here would make their 7 year old sit and look at their presents till the other parent woke up?

Campervanna · 15/05/2021 13:08

I am so upset for you, your dp is really ooo and I would make sure he realises it.

Dishwashersaurous · 15/05/2021 13:08

Why didn't your son come and wake you up?