Am I wrong to be upset I missed my son opening his birthday presents? 😭

[BellaFranksLily]

Its my sons 7th Birthday today. I was up late wrapping his presents, decorating and generally making it nice for him. I woke up to find my partner wasn’t next to me in bed, & went downstairs to find he had let my son open all of his presents without me. I’ve never missed any of my kids opening presents on Birthdays or Christmas. I’m not going to ruin today being upset, but was on the verge of tears when I realised. My son asked me where I was, and my partner is acting like it’s not a big deal. Feel gutted 😭

Further to PP who did the same, I asked my husband his opinion. Instant reaction was - the dad’s a dick. Didn’t help wrap the presents, took all the enjoyment and he doesn’t give a shit about his wife.

So there you go, another’s man’s perspective.

What a nasty shitty thing to do! I'd be upset and furious with him and he'd bloody know it!
Selfish prick!

Oh wow. I would be fuming. Absolutely fuming. Sending hugs. Hope you enjoyed the rest of the day

Catlover77

You sound as though you have a lovely husband!

This is so bizarre! How did the chat go

What a deliberately nasty thing to do.

You had wrapped and set it up for your son, and even when your son asked for you, he continued on.

I don't know what type of relationship you think you have but IMO it sounds like the actions of someone who doesn't like you and wanted to hurt you.

It reads like a very sneaky attempt to hurt you.

Things like that would make me look very differently at my husband and I certainly would not forget it.

I would be wary of him.
Is there something going on that you don't know about.

He's gone to at lot of trouble to exclude you, particularly as your son asked for you.

YANBU that’s horrible. I’d be really upset too

@billy1966 Agreed I think he did it deliberately.

Wow, that's awful.
Everyone has to be up and ready for present opening before it can begin in our house. I would be really upset.
Did your Dh take photos or videos?

I’d be upset too but is it possible he thought you deserved a lie in? Have a chat later about how you feel x

I'm glad you are going to enjoy the day but are going to speak to him about this later. This isn't nothing or meaningless its horrible.

So how did the talk with you DH go OP?

@Modestandatinybitsexy

So how did the talk with you DH go OP?

Did you talk whilst you packed his stuff and booted his selfish arse out ☺️

Omg Id be fuming and so upset, why did your partner not wake you to open the presents together?

For the next birthday or Xmas, wrap the presents and hide them until you're ready to be there and share the fun.

Is he normally a thoughtless dick?

A serious conversation is needed here unfortunately.

Hope you are ok. 💐💐💐💐💐

Your OH is a complete prick! I would be utterly furious about this. How dare he, it's soo bloody thoughtless. Selfish asshole. Very serious conversation to be had. I had an ex partner who tried to upstage my presents to my kids. His presents were a tonne of shit. Note the 'ex' in there....

Chop his knob off

Just kidding 🤐but I would have been devastated

A friend of mine once said it's the small things that end marriages.

Shit like this can often herald the end of a marriage, like your eyes suddenly open and you join the dots.

I just don't accept any man can be THAT stupid not to know this would cause upset.

Here’s a suggestion. Plan a little treat for your little boy and you. D bloody P needn’t even know about it. Nothing elaborate nor expensive, just time together. I don’t know what you do regularly, but make it something you wouldn’t do. Maybe a trip to a park or cafe you rarely go to. Give him the love and attention you would have given him when he was opening his presents. Tomorrow or ASAP while you’re still in the zone. Nothing beats a bit of special 1 to 1 time with your child.

Your partner is a selfish shit, and I would definitely tell him so. So sorry that you missed it

I don't suppose it was malicious, just male dopeyness

Your partner is a shit.

Last Christmas I was determined not to miss the kids open anything as every year I miss something. Then DS2 pointed out the only presents were for his brother and none for his sister or himself. I told DS1 not to open anything and went looking for a DS2 and DDs gifts. Came back and DS1 had opened nearly all of his. I was so upset.

@tommyhoundmum

I don't suppose it was malicious, just male dopeyness

Oh fuck off

@Ilikegherkins

Chop his knob off

Just kidding 🤐but I would have been devastated

😂🤣😂