Am I wrong to be upset I missed my son opening his birthday presents? 😭

[BellaFranksLily]

Its my sons 7th Birthday today. I was up late wrapping his presents, decorating and generally making it nice for him. I woke up to find my partner wasn’t next to me in bed, & went downstairs to find he had let my son open all of his presents without me. I’ve never missed any of my kids opening presents on Birthdays or Christmas. I’m not going to ruin today being upset, but was on the verge of tears when I realised. My son asked me where I was, and my partner is acting like it’s not a big deal. Feel gutted 😭

What time did your DS open his presents?

That’s really nasty. Disappointing for your son and properly gutting for you.

What a selfish git.

Show him this thread. That was a shit thing to do.

Dear me, that's rubbish.

I must be in a minorty for the life of me I can't get excited for birthdays .
in our house it really is just another day few card and presents.

To some people it's like the second coming and all the drama that comes with it.

Personally I would of enjoyed the lie in and our kids wouldn't of been bothered in the slightest .

Hmm what time did they get get up and what time did you get up, if he tried to wake you and uou didn't wake up did you expect your child to wait for you on his birthday I have missed my ds opening his before and so has dh its not fair for a child to wait its just one of those things

DH tried to wake you up and you 'don't believe him' and had a lay-in. What's he supposed to do, drag you out of bed?

Set an alarm next time

@rwalker

I expect you're in a fairly small minority when it comes to birthday of young children. Clearly OP did care hence the effort she put into preparing for it and the existence of the thread.

@Dddccc

Hmm what time did they get get up and what time did you get up, if he tried to wake you and uou didn't wake up did you expect your child to wait for you on his birthday I have missed my ds opening his before and so has dh its not fair for a child to wait its just one of those things

I haven’t yet met an adult you couldn’t wake up. Unless they were drunk or ill....

He's a twat. Next time make it explicit that you expect everyone to be there for presents. Honestly though he's thoughtless at best. Does he not know you at all? Or does he just not care because it's one of the two!

He's an arse!! Really no excuse for that

On the off chance he is telling the truth and he couldn't wake you up, everyone here would make their 7 year old sit and look at their presents till the other parent woke up?

frankly? yes. Every time. And if i couldn't wake my partner up I'd be calling an ambulance, not opening presents.

OP, hand off all birthday preparations to him in future. And maybe in a quiet moment ask your DS why he didn't come to get you and at some point (not today) I'd tell him that you're sad you didn't get to see him open the presents.

That's a really shitty thing to do.

@youshallnotpass9

On the off chance he is telling the truth and he couldn't wake you up, everyone here would make their 7 year old sit and look at their presents till the other parent woke up?

Unless someone is dead or passed out drunk, it's almost impossible to not be able to wake them up. He may have poked his head round the door and not got an answer but unless she was passed out after a night of heavy drinking, I don't believe he went up to her and actually gave her a shake to wake her up.

@supermoonrising
Op asked for opinion and thats mine

also, if you haven't already done it: your DH can make the birthday cake too

Wow that's really unforgivable op. I would be livid and struggle to forgive the intentions behind this. Did your ds try to come wake you? What did he say to stop him?

I’m sorry be he must be either absolutely thick or absolutely unpleasant. YADNBU. I’m not surprised you’re gutted. I bet he didn’t buy a single present either did he?

@youshallnotpass9 I'd be calling an ambulance because if I really couldn't wake my husband I'd be seriously concerned!!!

I would be fucking FUMING.

What an absolute cock.

What a shitty thing to do, sorry OP.

It's completely irrelevant who bought and wrap the presents, it's not normal to leave a parent out - when they are in the same house at that time!

YANBU to be upset, anyone would be.

YANBU! I would be really upset too.
I don't understand how he says he couldn't wake you up. Who sleeps that deeply unless they are drunk or taken sleeping tablets or something?

@Brefugee

Dragging a child into their parents argument on their birthday and laying on a guilt trip at the same time.

Ridiculous and nasty suggestion

I think it was nasty too. What else do you quietly putting up with?

Oh my god, how did it not occur to him to wait? What planet is he on? My DH doesn't think sometimes and totally know what you mean about not wanting to spoil the day being upset.

Tell him when the kids go to bed how upset you have been all day.

I had similar when my DS was born and we had waited to find out the sex. He text my parents telling them. I was devastated but didn't want to ruin the moment!