DH works shifts, today he was working 2-8pm.
I told him last night that I was going to have a busy day today and was at my siblings this evening and wouldn’t be home til gone 7 so I said I’d just be grabbing myself a McDonald’s or fish & chips or something on the way home.
He told me this morning he’d be home at 8.30/9pm. I said again, I won’t be cooking dinner as I won’t be home til a bit later myself. Reiterated again that I would just be grabbing myself a McDonald’s or something.
That’s what I did.
DH messaged me at 8 to say he was leaving work and was there dinner for him, I said no, because I just grabbed something out. He has to drive through the same town as me to get back to our village, there is a fish and chip shop, McDonald’s, Chinese etc. He knew driving through it that there was no dinner for him at home.
He’s come home and appears annoyed, we had a bit of a row and he said ‘It’s the fact you didn’t think to have something hot ready for me when I came home. You didn’t think about me at all.’
I’m pissed off, just for the record, DH and I have been together for 7 years, he has worked shifts for 7 years and for the last 7 years I have pretty much always had a hot meal ready for him if he gets home at 8.30/9. The majority of the time obviously that means me waiting to eat until then too and sometimes I’m bloody starving by the time we do.
He’s now cooking something downstairs with a sour look on his face. I said I don’t know why he didn’t just stop and pick up something on the way home. We can afford it and it’s just the once!!
I’ve just said, I’m not a 1950’s housewife and don’t need to ‘think about and consider him’ 24/7. He’s a grown man! Fair enough if it was a regular occurrence but it’s not. AIBU?!
AIBU?
To be peed off because DH is salty that I didn’t have a hot dinner ready for him?!
Vaselina · 14/05/2021 20:40
Am I being unreasonable?
1365 votes. Final results.
POLLYou did think about him - you let him know, so the fact he didn’t pick something up indicates he was spoiling for a fight a bit - I’d try and unpick that with him tomorrow so it doesn’t happen again.
Salty is a great expression 
I get very salty when my husband hasn’t got my dinner ready if it’s his turn The other day he’d misread the timings on the oven meal and it was going to need an extra 30min when I arrived home from the gym. I was expecting it to be piping hot on the table. I made sure he knew how I felt! He had one job, put it in the oven on time!!
I know it sounds really silly but when you’re HANGRY you so act out do character. I wouldn’t read too much into it!
@TuesdayRuby
The other day he’d misread the timings on the oven meal and it was going to need an extra 30min when I arrived home from the gym. I was expecting it to be piping hot on the table. I made sure he knew how I felt! He had one job, put it in the oven on time!!I know it sounds really silly but when you’re HANGRY you so act out do character. I wouldn’t read too much into it!
I’d have put it in the bin if you’d had a go at me for a mistake.
He had many opportunities to say something like, "Would you get me a takeaway too while you're there?" or "Is there anything in the freezer you could just stick in the oven for me to eat when I get in?" I think you need to say to him that if he wants something ready when he gets home, he has to explicitly ask before he leaves for work.
You should totally commit to only making cold dinners from now on. Gazpacho and salad all the way, ice cream to follow.
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