Cashier came and moved me to another till

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

For context, I’m abroad, if it makes a difference.
This morning I was queuing up in the supermarket (biggish queues) for picnic things whilst Dp and toddler Dd waited in the car.
One of the cashiers/staff came to me and gently guided me over to another till where there were less people. I just stood there feeling humiliated. She obviously thought I was pregnant.
As she did a changeover with another woman on the till, I saw them looking over at me and the other woman looked at me and shook her head in surprise to the woman who moved me.
Then the one lady in the queue was looking back at me.
The whole thing was very humiliating and I felt like shit all day.
I was wearing a long oversized, striped shirt and denim shorts (quite hot here) I have big boobs and am desperately trying to lose weight (size 16, used to be 10) years of fertility treatments then pregnancy.
I didn’t tell Dp as felt so ashamed, now I feel disgusted with myself when I eat anything.
Cannot believe I’m so fat now that I’m being mistaken for being pregnant.

@Doghead?? Really?

@BreatheAndFocus This was very specifically just me though, moved 5/6 rows down to the priority row. Different to a casual re direction to a new till opening etc

I think the woman passing your food through was trying to be helpful as the queuing was long. I have had assistants who want to appear doing something and have done exactly the same for me. It is helpful to get the bags packed more quickly and I have always thanked them. They may well have been discussing the length of the queues. As for spotting a pregnant woman why would that be a topic of conversation. I think you are bothered that you have put on a few pounds and are overthinking everything. Just think “eating healthy” and try to avoid sugar and relax and be happy with your lovely family.

Recently I went to get some photos printed and was killing the 15 minutes until they were ready, wandering round a supermarket chocolate section.

Someone came up to me and asked if I needed to talk. OK, I wasn't looking great - hair in a frizz, old, stained T shirt, but I wasn't suicidal.

I actually thanked her because I think people should be looking out for people in difficulty, that's that sign of a healthy society. However, it requires people to make assumptions that are not always correct.

Anyway, I booked an appointment at the hairdressers and threw out the shirt. Probably should have been taking more care of myself.

@swapsicles loads of people your age will be on second vaccine. Health workers, most people in group 6, carers etc. etc.

In oldest of 3 siblings but will be last to get my second jab. They both had theirs weeks ago because they qualified on grounds of occupation

This has happened to me and I think it was more to do with the style of dress I was wearing and my post c section tummy. The lady in question congratulated me then nearly died when she realised I wasn't pregnant. Looking at myself at home in said dress I did look about 4 months but its not keeping me awake at night

I wouldn't care what the cashier thought if she moved me forward in a draggy queue. Thanks, very thoughtful, let me out of here as fast as possible.

Lucky you!

I tried sticking a balloon up my jumper in an attempt to get moved up a queue but regrettably it failed spectacularly and I spent more than an hour in the security office under suspicion of shoplifting the very same balloon!

I think you need to get over it OP, even if she did think you were pregnant she was being nice and doing her job.

Your feelings of shame and embarrassment are your own. She is not to blame for that. Hopefully this will spurn you on to lose weight, good luck!

@Gwenhwyfar vaxs for vulnerable only are NOT a part of life.

[quote VenusTiger]@Gwenhwyfar vaxs for vulnerable only are NOT a part of life.[/quote]
I said Covid is part of life. (in reply to someone arguing that it shouldn't be mentioned on this thread).