Cashier came and moved me to another till

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

For context, I’m abroad, if it makes a difference.
This morning I was queuing up in the supermarket (biggish queues) for picnic things whilst Dp and toddler Dd waited in the car.
One of the cashiers/staff came to me and gently guided me over to another till where there were less people. I just stood there feeling humiliated. She obviously thought I was pregnant.
As she did a changeover with another woman on the till, I saw them looking over at me and the other woman looked at me and shook her head in surprise to the woman who moved me.
Then the one lady in the queue was looking back at me.
The whole thing was very humiliating and I felt like shit all day.
I was wearing a long oversized, striped shirt and denim shorts (quite hot here) I have big boobs and am desperately trying to lose weight (size 16, used to be 10) years of fertility treatments then pregnancy.
I didn’t tell Dp as felt so ashamed, now I feel disgusted with myself when I eat anything.
Cannot believe I’m so fat now that I’m being mistaken for being pregnant.

[Tempusfudgeit]

'What appears to be coming at you is actually coming from you'. Stop projecting, take ownership, and do something about your weight.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@toocold54 From the side I do look bigger if I wear something baggy, it’s not so much that I have a pregnant looking belly (it’s actually bigger further up 😩) but I suppose with my oversized shirt, it all just sort of stuck out?

[Rosebel]

Never been moved to another queue when pregnant or had my children with me. They were doing something nice. I'd like to be moved and get out of the shops quicker. Also presumably they didn't know you spoke the language.
I honestly think they were just trying to be nice and could have moved you for any reason.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@Tempusfudgeit Yes I am, but it’s not easy as I’ve been ill for 14 months, much improved but not able to work out (I’m desperate to) following my fitness pal and eating a lot less though

[SunnySpills]

You're obs a sensitive soul, op. Don't let a random dictate your mood.


I didn't realise it was the law there..bloody hell I take back what I wrote earlier then.

[AngeloMysterioso]

First of all OP you don’t know that that’s why they moved you.

Second of all, try not to take it to heart. I have IBS and get quite the pronounced bump if I eat the wrong thing. I’ve been erroneously offered seats on the tube more times than I can count... I just smile, say thanks and sit down!

[Prokupatuscrakedatus]

I was asked when I was due after my double mastectomy. I definitely looked pregnant in my T-Shirt. I had to comfort the person who asked out of her embarassement

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@Rosebel It’s just the law here to give priority, shops could get in trouble for not adhering to it. When I’m with toddler Dd, we always get priority (because of her) never had it happen when on my own (aside from when I actually was pregnant)
The language is neither here nor there as I’m dark and generally look as though I’m from the country (not obviously British etc)

[zuzuzuzu]

Yesterday Amazon delivery man wouldn't give DH (my) bottle of Archers until he produced his passport to prove his age. DH is 61, grey and balding 😀
Sometimes shop assistants etc. get it wrong.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@SunnySpills Does that make me a really sensitive soul to be upset when someone thought I was pregnant and moved me to the priority queue when I’m not but am overweight and feel crap about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[tentosix]

It’s nice that people in places like Portugal are kind to pregnant women, but upsetting I’m sure.

[VenusTiger]

Only on MN can bloody vaccines be brought into a thread nothing to do with Covid - I'm trying my best to avoid all Covid-related threads, give a bloody rest.

[WellThisIsShit]

Well, it’s hard to be forcibly jollied out of responding to a situation that felt pretty clear to you, when you were the only one there out of all of us on this thread.

I don’t want to add to that weight of doubt, so I’ll just ask this once in a super kind and positive way, as someone who has had the horror of being mistaken for being pregnant as well, which I suspect a lot of these posters just cannot comprehend .

Anyway, let me ask you... do you honestly think you read the situation so totally wrong that there’s any room for doubt?

And as a separate question, could the other women be sniffing and tutting in jealousy at you getting to go to the top of the queue, and nothing to do with any thoughts of pregnancy, either way?

Anyway, poor you is the main thing here!!! Living through moments like these are absolutely rubbish, real low points.

But you know what, there will be better moments in life than these.

You need to love your body, in order to change it. Don’t love it’s shape now, that’s ok, but love what it done fir you, the journey you and it have travelled through together, how it’s been battered and pushed to its limits, and how it’s been with you every step of the way. You give it some love, and then maybe you can give it some more love and spoiling it by giving it lots of healthy wonderful tasty food to eat, and not rubbish. And then maybe, you’ll find it easier to lose that bit of weight.

A weight loss journey that starts in self loathing and hatred is a very hard place to get motivated and move from (I know it really I do!).

I wish I was like a colleague of mine who just shrugged off a mistake like this with fabulous aplomb, but it takes a great relationship with your body, and not caring about what others think. I think you and I both have a while to travel until we get there, but you’ll get there, I’m sure.

[toocold54]

I’ve been erroneously offered seats on the tube more times than I can count... I just smile, say thanks and sit down!

[IceSwallowCome]

Heaven forbid someone tries to do something nice.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"Perhaps she thought you had a beautiful glow like a pregnant woman?"

I know you're trying to be nice, but this is ridiculous.

I've never been moved tills like that in my life. What's wrong with me?

I'm chuckling at the second vaccine thing. Is it the new 'do you have a senior discount card/ bus pass?'.
Also, quite shocked people under 50 are already on their second vaccine. I thought Cardiff was doing well vaccinating people in their twenties, but there are people in their 40s on their second???

[ddl1]

I would have thought that it was something to do with equalizing the numbers waiting for the tills, or with facilitating social distancing. I doubt that it was anything to do with your looks, or people thinking that you were pregnant.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@IceSwallowCome It’s the law, they can get in trouble if they don’t adhere to it.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"Yesterday Amazon delivery man wouldn't give DH (my) bottle of Archers until he produced his passport to prove his age. DH is 61, grey and balding 😀"

That's just ridiculous.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@WellThisIsShit Thank you 💐

But no, it’s because I’ve become too fat and I know it and hate it.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@VenusTiger

Only on MN can bloody vaccines be brought into a thread nothing to do with Covid - I'm trying my best to avoid all Covid-related threads, give a bloody rest.

Covid is part of life. You might as well accept that.

[Shoutingovertheterraces]

@VenusTiger I know, I don’t understand why vaccine/covid talk takes over everything

[ddl1]

I almost said something earlier today when at the vaccination centre the lady checking in asked if it was my 2nd vaccine, I'm only 42! angry I told myself it wasn't because I looked older but not sure why she said that otherwise.

She might have been asking everyone this. Some younger people are in the higher priority groups for vaccines, either because they have medical conditions that increase Covid risk, or in some cases are carers for others who do; or because they are frontline healthcare workers.

[IceSwallowCome]

"@IceSwallowCome It’s the law, they can get in trouble if they don’t adhere to it."

So in that case she was just doing her job. Do you think she picked on you in particular because she wanted to embarrass you?