Child free weddings are for megalomaniacs

[DrunkPosting]

Unless you are consummating the marriage during the ceremony, then it isn’t an adults only type of event

[1sweatybetty]

I invited children to our wedding. A friend's child screamed (and I mean really high pitched screaming) the whole way through our vows. I was annoyed as we had recorded the ceremony for close overseas family and the vows were inaudible.

I'd still invite children if I had my time over again but can see why others don't. You cannot rely on people to have common sense (I was really surprised by my friend as I had known her for 15 years and she is usually very sensible).

[EmeraldShamrock]

It wouldn't be my choice not to have DC there.
I've the best memories of family weddings as a DC.
My only concern would be childcare I'd hope the parents would mind them or hire an evening sitter who'd also be welcome in the evening.

[CloverHilla]

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Its whatever type of event the bride and groom want it to be since they are the ones paying.

Exactly! We had no children at our wedding, but we had no children at the time and neither did any of our siblings.

[EmeraldShamrock]

To add I'd only invite family DC.

[XenoBitch]

YABU
It is up to the people getting married. They are basically throwing a party, can say who can and can not attend.
I have been to a wedding that was strictly no kids. A couple showed up with their two young boys and made it very awkward. They left early in the end.

[GeorgiaGirl52]

@DrJPuddleDuck

I agree with you. I think of all events, weddings are lovely events to involve children in. But then I see marriage as an important part of family life - so it would make sense to me for children to be there to witness them.

I agree with you too. Also, whether you have children or not, a wedding is not a garden barbeque. It is not an excuse to get pissed, or shit-faced, or any other out-of-control behavior. If the presence of children ruins your fun maybe you are having the wrong kind of fun for a wedding?

[PurpleDaisies]

If the presence of children ruins your fun maybe you are having the wrong kind of fun for a wedding?

Who made you the boss of all weddings?

[Mowington]

Fucking weird thread.

[Quaagars]

YABU

1. It's up to the bride and groom
   
   
2. I love a good child free wedding, love my kids lots but they're the worst at sitting still or indeed being quiet, so would much rather go to a child free one, where don't have to be stressed out all day/can chill!
   
   
3. From experience, if someone says "promise I'll take little Johnny out if he starts talking/crying" they're talking out of their arse and little Johnny will yell all through the ceremony.

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

It's whatever type of event the couple opt to host. If you don't like the terms, then you decline.

Can't abide kids at weddings myself. They're a nuisance. Even worse are over precious parents. 'Oh, you need to watch your potty mouth, my kids are here!' Not my problem. Or to watch your kids, or to police your kids.

[NoIDontWatchLoveIsland]

To me a wedding is a posh sit down dinner and an evening disco/party, both washed down with plenty of wine. Neither suit children too young to stay up late.

[Mowington]

I'm getting married next year.

We're not inviting under 18s. We're not close to family and none of our friends have kids.

We're having a wine tasting for 60ppl then power ballads.

🖕

[Onairjunkie]

I, and every other guest, want to get absolutely off our chops on the free bar. Not a place for kids...

[FrangipaniBlue]

We had a child free wedding but said guests were welcome to have their DC dropped at the evening reception (less formal) if they would otherwise struggle for all day childcare.

Only 1 couple took us up on this offer and had their parents drop off their toddler...... who had spent the preceding 24hrs throwing up and promptly gave 75% of our guests norovirus, including my elderly grandparents.

I spent 5 days in bed and it was a good job we weren't heading off on honey right away because I simply couldn't have gone.

So yeah, children at weddings are a joyous thing.

[Clydesider]

Why waste a place on a kid who won't or can't appreciate it? Might scream, shout, cry or run around unchecked during the ceremony? Other people aren't nearly as interested in your kids as you'd like to think. Don't accept an invite if it bothers you.

[Mowington]

@FrangipaniBlue

We had a child free wedding but said guests were welcome to have their DC dropped at the evening reception (less formal) if they would otherwise struggle for all day childcare.

Only 1 couple took us up on this offer and had their parents drop off their toddler...... who had spent the preceding 24hrs throwing up and promptly gave 75% of our guests norovirus, including my elderly grandparents.

I spent 5 days in bed and it was a good job we weren't heading off on honey right away because I simply couldn't have gone.

So yeah, children at weddings are a joyous thing.

5 days in bed... I was about to say good work, then saw the 🤮🤮

[Shoxfordian]

I must be a megalomaniac then
We had no noisy annoying screaming kids at our wedding and it was gorgeous

[surreygirl1987]

I didn't invite any children to my wedding. I wouldn't expect to take my own children to a wedding either.

[Chickenlickeninthepot]

I bloody love seeing "this is a child free wedding" on invites. Bye kids, mummy & daddy are off to get drunk and wear nice clothes that aren't covered in sick!

[FrippEnos]

megalomaniac
a person who has an obsessive desire for power.
a person who suffers delusions of their own power or importance.

Yet the definition fits those that they are so important that they can demand that their children should be invited to someone's wedding.

[iseefarts]

@Shoxfordian

I must be a megalomaniac then
We had no noisy annoying screaming kids at our wedding and it was gorgeous

I'm planning this next year. None of our family or bridal party have kids. Why would we invite them? I'm perfectly happy for people with kids to decline the invite if they don't fancy it.

[kittenkipping]

"A wedding is not a garden barbeque. It is not an excuse to get pissed, or shit-faced, or any other out-of-control behavior. If the presence of children ruins your fun maybe you are having the wrong kind of fun for a wedding?"

Out of control? I can get perfectly drunk without being out of control- I don't do that in front of children, it's irresponsible and I'm a good person. They ruin it. I can enjoy a £50+ per head meal and discuss the flavour profiles- children ruin that. I can want to waltz on the dance floor sober- knee sliding children ruin that. I can want my friends to be present, REALLY present and not have one eye on their children(perfectly understandable and expected. I have children of my own and no, when they are there of course I'm manning them, watching them, always), because I love my friends company not their children's. That's fine for my wedding. It's just the right type of fun for my wedding.

[Nellle]

@Horehound

It's up to the people paying.

100% this.

[SprayedWithDettol]

What a ridiculous statement.

[lostitall]

Only on Mumsnet have people ever moaned about child free weddings and evening reception invitations
It's like another world at times