Child free weddings are for megalomaniacs

[DrunkPosting]

Unless you are consummating the marriage during the ceremony, then it isn’t an adults only type of event

[FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]

@juice92 I LOVE IT when my friends tell me to leave the kids at home 🤣 anyone offended by this is weird.

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

@ihavethehighground

YANBU OP. What's the point of a wedding without family being there? Joyless

I’ve literally never heard the word ‘joyless’ other than on threads about child-free weddings.

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Agree and it's probably getting now where anyone over 50 will be excluded too.

With the shit attitudes like on this it won't be just over 50s😂

Honestly. People cannot imagine fun and joyous occasion without kids and think it's all just super formal long sitdown meals and then everyone just quietly sitting or something, something is wrong woth you.

Exactly. I was a bridesmaid for my cousin when I was eight, alongside a six year-old and a three year-old (and an adult MOH to keep us in line ). There were still speeches and telegrams (showing my age) and a three-course dinner. The formal side of the wedding didn’t disappear because of children - and no one crowded around us and demanded we provide joy.

[KarensChoppyBob]

@IceSwallowCome

Ah, the good old MN weddings held in a binshed and organised on a budget of 50p.

Does that come with the MN chicken feeding a family of five for a week? They were the days ...

[PandemicAtTheDisco]

Why do some parents feel almost unable to function socially without having their children with them? I've even had a friend try to bring along a child to a hen party and dictate what would be suitable.

Don't they enjoy 'adult/date' time without them?Or is the relationship unbearable without the presence of the children nearby?

I love my daughter but feel no need for her to be with me all the time. I enjoy time off being responsible and misbehaving.

I would like children at my wedding but there are a few friends with badly behaved children that I am less inclined to include. How do you discretely not invite them yet have well behaved children welcome?

[KaleSlayer]

I've even had a friend try to bring along a child to a hen party and dictate what would be suitable.

😳 How did that conversation go? 😂

[FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]

@PandemicAtTheDisco I've been to 2 hen do's in recent years with children. And totally agree about parents who can't be away from their kids - I have a friend who can't bear to be away from her eldest DD who is 8 - she didn't have a hen do because she couldn't bear to be away by Ron her (she will happily leave her youngest though).

I feel sorry for these people because when their DC are small they're the sun and moon to them, but come teenager and YA years, they'll look right through them and those parents will have done so little and forgone friendships on the meantime.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

Lol. Our parents sent us away for 3 week to summer camp in woods for 3 weeks😂😂😂 i feel unloved 😂😂😂

I am childfree so I don't get it, as much as I understand the love to a child may be ultimate, I don't believe it's only that making parents never leave the kid.
I also believe that lits of anxious parents like that imprit the anxiousness on the kids.

[FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]

I also believe that lits of anxious parents like that imprit the anxiousness on the kids.

Assuming this means anxious parents make anxious kids? If so, as a teacher, I can tell you you're absolutely right. And anxious parents are so blind to it too - children feed off nerves.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

Yup. It works with various things. My friend is horrified of spiders. Her mum has a phobia, or just a PROPER fear, not sure. My mum told me stories how my friend was fine with spiders when we were little unless her mum was with us, then because her mum panicked, she panicked. Eventually, she started panicking even without her mum.

I don't think people realise what everything can become a learned behaviour

[Chillychangchoo]

@PandemicAtTheDisco

I know right? What’s not to love about child free weddings? Parm the kids off to grandparents, and go and get drunk in a posh hotel with your other half.

Bye kids 👋

Been to many weddings like the above where the only kids invited were the ones related to the bride and groom. It means everyone can let their hair down properly.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

Can people imprint wedding megalomania on kids even when kids aren't present? 😂😂😂

[KarensChoppyBob]

How do you Parm them off? Does it involve ham? If so I'm up for it. And a bump in the loos arfter.

[Chillychangchoo]

@KarensChoppyBob

Erm ok, weird. But whatever floats your boat.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

😂

[Bellabelloo]

Ours was child-free but not many of my friends had children. The problem is it's no fun for kids to sit still and quietly during the ceremony and then at a sit down meal and through the speeches. Plus parents can have - and be - more fun if they can let their hair down and have a drink.

[Greenmarmalade]

I missed so many childfree weddings because I had (breastfed) babies. I feel quite sad about it- I had kids before all of my friends so I missed a big chunk of weddings. Having babies can be really isolating and this was yet another factor for me.

[KarensChoppyBob]

Parm is weird, but you go ahead luv.

[RaraRachael]

Maybe Parm is to do with cheese rather than ham

[SecretSpAD]

Isn't Parm an aspirational Pam?

[MindtheBelleek]

@SecretSpAD

Isn't Parm an aspirational Pam?

It’s an egg corn, surely? For ‘palming off’?

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/palm-off-something

[TurquoiseDragon]

I feel a lot of weddings are child free because of the parents who don't disciine or rein in their children's behaviour. So things are spoiled for others who might have well behaved DC.

We've all seen that parent at school, or eating out, etc.

[cherrytreecottage]

Disagree OP. We had a child-free wedding and not one person cared, in fact in the run up we had people messaging saying how much they were looking forward to a night off!
Children certainly don't want to (nor should they be made to) sit in silence in a church or other ceremony for an hour, plus it meant parents could let their hair down in the evening without running after, keeping an eye on their little ones, or having to leave early!

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

@TurquoiseDragon

I feel a lot of weddings are child free because of the parents who don't disciine or rein in their children's behaviour. So things are spoiled for others who might have well behaved DC.

We've all seen that parent at school, or eating out, etc.

From things I’ve read on here, @TurquoiseDragon, I think you are right. We took 2 year old ds1 to a wedding (by invitation, we aren’t CFs), but when he wasn’t quiet during the ceremony, Dh promptly removed him.

We were complimented, at the reception, on how well ds1 had behaved during the wedding - as Dh said “that’s because we were in Sainsbury’s car park!” We wouldn’t have dreamt of letting him spoil the ceremony for the bride and groom and the other guests - but, from things I’ve read here, some parents would just look on with doting admiration as their child ran around screaming, and would assume that everyone else found their child’s misbehaviour as adorable as they do.