Child free weddings are for megalomaniacs

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Unless you are consummating the marriage during the ceremony, then it isn’t an adults only type of event

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

It was the same when mine were small. Ex and I were firm and fair on behaviour, and we never let them through food around, took them outside if screaming, and so on.

*throw, my spellchecker hates me 😁

@KarensChoppyBob

Will do “love”.

Sounds like you need a good night out to let your hair down? Or don’t you do that? Do you need your kids hanging off your tits?

@TurquoiseDragon

*throw, my spellchecker hates me 😁

Send it to the naughty step, @TurquoiseDragon!

@Chillychangchoo - I think what you meant when you said ‘...parm them off...’ was obvious to most of us - shame some people had to make a snarky comment about your typo.

YABVU - and I had children at both my weddings. It's entirely up to the B&G. I think having bridesmaids over the age of 6y is pushing it, let alone fully grown adult women, but if that's what the bride wants 🤷🏻‍♀️. I LOVE being invited to child free weddings. A night out for Dh and I without DS? Yes please!

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Oh I know, yawn.
Typical mumsnet. Very unoriginal.

I don't think that started as snarky. Some typos are funny. 🤷🏻

@GroggyLegs

Knee slides on the dancefloor aren't everyone's cup of tea. Invite kids & half the party leaves at 8pm. Not every child is a pleasure.

YABU.

Exactly.

I think the main reason people don't invite kids is because it means the parents don't really join in with the party and always have one eye on the clock. I can see why people prefer the no kids rule.

Knee slides on the dancefloor aren't everyone's cup of tea.

Just because there are no kids, doesn't necessarily mean you will be spared the knee slides on the dance floor

[quote Chillychangchoo]@KarensChoppyBob

Will do “love”.

Sounds like you need a good night out to let your hair down? Or don’t you do that? Do you need your kids hanging off your tits?[/quote]

My nights out aren't restricted to weddings, must be tough.

@KarensChoppyBob

Of course not. Yours are older, have you tried gransnet?

Well no not yet. But mine are teens so...hang on, you've been searching me then? Really quite flattering.

I think the main reason people don't invite kids is because it means the parents don't really join in with the party and always have one eye on the clock. I can see why people prefer the no kids rule.

I watch the clock much more when I have to get back for a babysitter.

I watch the clock much more when I have to get back for a babysitter

See, that's why I get overnight ones in the form of grandparents

Disclaimer aware not everyone has this option before anyone starts lol

@KarensChoppyBob

No I read between the lines 😉 🎣.

@Quaagars

Yes to overnight stays at the grandparents. My mum is still in her 50s, so will happily have them overnight whenever. Appreciate not everyone has that option but a lot of my social circle does, so we all enjoy a child free wedding.

Most weddings in Ireland are child free (bar close families children) people tend to prefer it, they can relax more

We had a child free wedding (first of our friends to be married and have kids so it wasn't out of choice,) but our wedding was great and very fun.

And since being parents have been to weddings both with and without kids.

All have been great in different ways.

But being able to sit at dinner and chat to people uninterrupted and eat my own meal in peace and stay up late and have hotel sex means I am very happy with child free weddings.

But seeing my DC dressed up smart and playing games and being in awe of the bride/groom and having nice photos taken is also lovely.

I'd never judge a couple for their wedding choice. It's for the bride and groom to decide.

@ihavethehighground

YANBU OP. What's the point of a wedding without family being there? Joyless

It's not joyless if the children aren't there though.

I've been thinking about this comment on and off for a few days.

I think the only people who'd really say this and believe it are those parents that can't stand going anywhere without them and try to insist everyone includes them in absolutely everything.

The parent that tried to insist their child attended a hen do and wanted to make it a child-friendly event was not happy. They were certainly not pleased to be unable to affect any of our plans and make the sanitised event less joyful.

Some of the friendships in our social group have cooled because we refused to let our adult social lives become focussed on and completely dictated by what would suit her child. The parent seems to view it as an insult to her child that we don't bend over backwards to change our plans to suit her and that we don't want her child included in everything. Her child is very much loved and central to her life - but not to ours. Some of my social group also have children that we love just as much yet we don't allow them to dominate everything or expect others to find them as wonderful.

There was a thread on here a few years ago about a parent trying to get their child invited to a hen weekend and I think some people were also trying to get their male partners invited too. I think similar emotions are involved when parents get so upset when their children are not catered to and invited to weddings etc.

One friend who made her children the centre of everything is still struggling with empty nest syndrome now that all her children have left home. I think it's an unhealthy attitude to not be able to enjoy child-free time.

@PandemicAtTheDisco how wrong you are to make this assumption.

@minipie

Child free weddings are for people who want their friends as guests. Not small people who happen to be related to their friends.

This is how I feel about it to be honest. And the people invited can choose if that means they can or can't come. I'm not paying they are so its fair enough

@Quaagars that’s the dream!