Background: DH doesn't like my mum (99.9% unreasonably). There's been a lot of tension between the two of them.
Me and DH have two DC of 2 and 7, we both work, him full time, me part time NHS.
The pandemic meant he wasn't working but I was, so childcare was all on him when I was at work. I say childcare, I mean looking after his own kids while I was at work.
Now he's creeping back into work, and I am sorting out next month's shifts for myself. There is one of my shifts that doesn't fall on his day off so I've suggested my mum looking after the DCs .
He immediately got funny and started saying he will use one of his annual leave days to get the day off so that my mum doesn't look after them. His reason: he doesn't want to come back home from work to a messy house. (Background to this, he likes things tidy and has mentioned a few times over the last few years that my mum has had them at our house and it's been "messy" when he came home - my mum PLAYS with the kids, she's very hands on, DCs love her, so yeh there might be some collateral mess from this but it's mainly toys and not much more than the kids produce daily anyway which we have to tidy up 😏)
Due to prior commitments he only has 2 days Annual leave to use and if he used one of those that could potentially mess us up further down the line.
AIBU to tell him to stop being such an ungrateful prick????