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Original poster

Snarky lady, is apparently nice!!

216 replies

ZebraSpotts · 06/05/2021 19:13

So there's this awful misery on the school run. She's a massive hypocrite - complains about people parking on curb near her house, whilst her car is overlapping the drop curb to her house. She makes comments to people with blue badges(!) Writes disparaging notes on white sticky labels and sticks them on the wing mirrors on the mirror-glass. Even the very 'PC' Head teacher said "she's a very difficult woman".

Stuck her address into google, comes up with her name, which then shows up letters she's written in to the times and guardian reader's sections...I was expecting her to be a raging prick and bigot, but she's not. She's listed on an 'Alternative new year's honours list' for her volunteer work. There's even a photo of her smiling! In person she's got a constant frown and mouth like a cat's bum 🙀

I'm confused - she seems such an absolute witch in person, repeatedly butting heads with parents just trying to pick up their kids.

Her online results have disarmed me. Seemingly a sheep in wolf's clothing, rather confusing.

Yabu - take her on, online persona means nothing, she's no saint
Yanbu - just ignore her, misery guts

OP posts:
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/05/2021 22:30

@ZebraSpotts - when she leaves post-it notes on cars, are they badly or i considerately parked, or does she simply object to anyone parking near her house, even when they are legally and considerately parked?

”Because it is perfectly acceptable for her to block her own drive?!”

But she isn’t just blocking her own drive, @Marcis - according to the OP, in one of her later posts, she is pulling part way off her drive, so she is completely blocking the pavement - which is pretty inconsiderate - another poster has provided a diagram, which the OP has said is accurate. If she were parking on the road, across her dropped kerb, that would be different.

Iamthewombat · 06/05/2021 22:30

Plus she's not targeting me personally, she's like this to anyone on that bit of road

Why are you targeting her personally? You are coming across as quite spiteful, I’m afraid. What do you hope to get out of this? Hounding the poor woman out of her home because she doesn’t like being blocked in by selfish, entitled people?

Original poster
ZebraSpotts · 06/05/2021 22:31

@lottiegarbanzo

You seem very focused on her appearance. Women are not obliged to make themselves pretty and smile for you.

Frown freely, difficult woman.

Too right! With you on that sentiment! But it's not actually a comment on her appearance, rather of her outward expression of mood, body language.
OP posts:
CovidCorvid · 06/05/2021 22:33

I’m curious.....does she have a hatred of people with blue badges so makes comments to them for no reason? Or do the blue badge holders park like twats and block her in and then she makes comments to them?

PhillipPhillop · 06/05/2021 22:35

Trust me, one woman, even one as mighty as this one, can not 'ruin the vibe' or 'suck the joy' out of a whole school. I imagine 99.9% of parents and children aren't aware she exists.
I think you need some help with your anger issues.

jamestowno · 06/05/2021 22:36

Please don't die on this hill, op. It isn't your problem, I'm not sure why you have appointed yourself school saviour vs this woman but if I were the woman in question and you attempted to take me on (coz your from the wrong side of tracks made good and no one from this posh little haven school would know how to defend themselves against this evil mother Teresa old bitch) I'd phone the police and report you for harassment. Honestly, is it worth it for about 10 minutes out of your day?

Babygotblueyes · 06/05/2021 22:53

I am generally well liked. Unless you are one of the fuckwits who use the residential road I live on as a rat run and drive as fast as they can, endangering the people who live here, our kids and pets. In which case you will know me as the one with a face like a slapped arse, yelling at you to slow down. It is all relative. School traffic is getting much much worse, and it is a nightmare to go past, let alone live near one.

HoppingPavlova · 06/05/2021 22:56

Sounds like she has copped years of bad parking, probably being parked in and general shitty behaviour from school parents. I’d say she is well over it and has drawn a line in the sand.

You sound unhinged, not wanting your ‘pick-up vibe’ ruined, stalking someone and planning to ‘take her on’. Weird.

tedsletterofthelaw · 06/05/2021 22:56

It's threads like this that make me eternally grateful I am able to walk to school.

I can avoid moody ladies and crazy stalker ladies and just smile as I walk past the twice daily parking battle.

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ZebraSpotts · 06/05/2021 23:01

@Iamthewombat

You went grubbing for dirt on her, using Google? Christ.

Why stop there?

How about knocking on every door in the street with a clipboard, asking all the neighbours to say spiteful things about her? Then publish it on the school website.

How about finding out where she went to school, and university? Offer £20 for nasty anecdotes about her. Get the local paper to publish them.

Yep went looking to see if she's reported as being unhinged....our local paper has for years published names, mugshots, local convictions each week. Much like this..... www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/all-about/court-case.amp 'Updates of ongoing and upcoming court cases. Check back for the latest news on convictions and trials in the UK and around the world.'

Not totally ignoring your point...
..but just to say finding out where people went to school/uni isn't exactly hard, especially as loads of ppl list it on their facebook and LinkedIn, freely put that info out there - you can save yourself your £20s

I'd also not need to door knock, if I can see her behaviour, so can all her neighbours already.

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 06/05/2021 23:26

jimmy savile got a knighthood everyone loved him and his charity work

i dont trust anyone since him

and can people read shes blocking the pavment for pedestrians she cant do that

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 06/05/2021 23:27

To be fair a lot of parents on school runs park and drive like total cunts and she absolutely entitled to block her own dropped curb.

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ZebraSpotts · 06/05/2021 23:35

[quote SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]@ZebraSpotts - when she leaves post-it notes on cars, are they badly or i considerately parked, or does she simply object to anyone parking near her house, even when they are legally and considerately parked?

”Because it is perfectly acceptable for her to block her own drive?!”

But she isn’t just blocking her own drive, @Marcis - according to the OP, in one of her later posts, she is pulling part way off her drive, so she is completely blocking the pavement - which is pretty inconsiderate - another poster has provided a diagram, which the OP has said is accurate. If she were parking on the road, across her dropped kerb, that would be different.[/quote]
Yea, she essentially objects to people parking near her house.
In a nutshell

OP posts:
saraclara · 06/05/2021 23:45

@GabsAlot

jimmy savile got a knighthood everyone loved him and his charity work

i dont trust anyone since him

and can people read shes blocking the pavment for pedestrians she cant do that

So you tar every single person involved with charity work, with the same brush as Jimmy Savile? Seriously?

He didn't do anything for charity other than buy his way into contact with vulnerable children. While other people are busting a gut selflessly trying to make people's lives better.

BilboBercow · 07/05/2021 00:18

Why are you so obsessed with her?

Iamthewombat · 07/05/2021 00:24

jimmy savile got a knighthood everyone loved him and his charity work

i dont trust anyone since him

Eh? Nobody? Nobody at all?

I’m both surprised and disturbed by the alternative universes the OP and some posters (thankfully a minority) appear to inhabit.

Havenholidayhelp · 07/05/2021 00:27

We need to see the notes and the parking (yours and hers over her own drive).

crowsfeet57 · 07/05/2021 01:59

Have you any idea what it's like having entitled twats parking in a way that makes it nearly impossible, or in many cases, completely impossible to get in and out of your own drive

This! With bells on!

Puntastic · 07/05/2021 03:19

I think I can help with the confusion here, OP. People are not generally one-dimensional caricatures like they are in cartoons. In real life, people are multi-faceted.

Take you, for example, I'm sure you're not 100% bunny boiling stalker. It's probably just with this one issue, the rest of the time you're probably totally rational and normal. I reckon the same is likely true of school neighbour.

WRT her battles with school parents, I reckon either:
a. Parents are parking inconsiderately (pretty standard in many places- around here they'll park on corners making it impossible to turn safely, double park, park on with 2 or more wheels on the pavement, park on yellow zigzags, block driveways etc. Standard, but that doesn't make it OK) and this woman is- shock, horror!- voicing her disapproval and acting on it. Or

B. She goes out of her way to harass parked perfectly legally for no reason.

I think you should provide a diagram- where is school, how many houses away is she? Where does she park? And where were you parked when you got told off?

PopsicleHustler · 07/05/2021 05:01

Some of the comments above responding to 'taking her on' are hilarious and taking my mind off my dreadful toothache by giving me a good laugh. Thanks ladies.

Geamhradh · 07/05/2021 06:32

Do you think likening a woman who objects to entitled twats dropping their kids at school to Jimmy Savile by virtue of both doing voluntary work will become the new Godwin?

OP, having read your latest updates, I think you have a problem. One that if you carry on like this might see the lady mentioned in the press. Only as the victim of your insane and rather worrying campaign of harassment.

JensonsAcolyte · 07/05/2021 06:44

@Geamhradh

Do you think likening a woman who objects to entitled twats dropping their kids at school to Jimmy Savile by virtue of both doing voluntary work will become the new Godwin?

OP, having read your latest updates, I think you have a problem. One that if you carry on like this might see the lady mentioned in the press. Only as the victim of your insane and rather worrying campaign of harassment.

I saw a post the other day that was something like

‘Terrible people like Jimmy Savile or Piers Morgan’

Which made me laugh inappropriately. Poor Piers.

LakieLady · 07/05/2021 06:51

As an aside, I'm often curious why parking on the pavement is accepted in some parts of my city as the norm (actually almost necessary) and in other parts it's the 11th commandment and ultimate sin

In the town where I live, there are some pay and display parking spaces that are half on the pavement. It's a very narrow street, so there'd be no parking at all otherwise, but it still makes me chuckle to think that parking on the pavement is illegal, unless the council is making money out of it.

Toilenstripes · 07/05/2021 06:58

I live near a school. Every day between 3 - 3:30 the parents seem to forget they’re walking past other people’s houses as they shout, performance parent, and the children have meltdowns right in front of my house. Thankfully there’s no parking involved, but I can easily see how annoying it would be if there was.

LakieLady · 07/05/2021 07:04

@PhatPhanny

Your just trying to pick your kid up, but unless tou live near a school and understand the absolute entitled behaviour from some parents you will never understand how frustrated she probably is.
My SIL lives near a school entrance.

She came home one afternoon and found a school run mum blocking their drive and asked her to move her car. The woman told her to find her own parking space.

SIL (who is utterly lovely and generally nice to everyone) replied "I've got 3 parking spaces, thank you, and they're down at the bottom of the drive you're blocking". The woman moved.

To be fair, their house is behind all the other houses down a long drive, so it's easy not to realise there's a property down at the bottom.