Snarky lady, is apparently nice!!

[ZebraSpotts]

So there's this awful misery on the school run. She's a massive hypocrite - complains about people parking on curb near her house, whilst her car is overlapping the drop curb to her house. She makes comments to people with blue badges(!) Writes disparaging notes on white sticky labels and sticks them on the wing mirrors on the mirror-glass. Even the very 'PC' Head teacher said "she's a very difficult woman".

Stuck her address into google, comes up with her name, which then shows up letters she's written in to the times and guardian reader's sections...I was expecting her to be a raging prick and bigot, but she's not. She's listed on an 'Alternative new year's honours list' for her volunteer work. There's even a photo of her smiling! In person she's got a constant frown and mouth like a cat's bum 🙀

I'm confused - she seems such an absolute witch in person, repeatedly butting heads with parents just trying to pick up their kids.

Her online results have disarmed me. Seemingly a sheep in wolf's clothing, rather confusing.


Yabu - take her on, online persona means nothing, she's no saint
Yanbu - just ignore her, misery guts

[Timper]

You’re not that invested yet you’ve taken the time to both google her and start a thread on here about her. Aye ok. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[ZebraSpotts]

@Pipecleaner50

Stop blocking the poor woman's driveway perhaps?

Never have done 🤷‍♀️

I'd actually at least understand her mardy if I was.

[mainsfed]

@Jumpers268

Like this?

Is she really parking as @Jumpers268 describes?

Fess up OP.

[PhatPhanny]

Your just trying to pick your kid up, but unless tou live near a school and understand the absolute entitled behaviour from some parents you will never understand how frustrated she probably is.

[Thoughtcontagion]

If the parents are the like the ones near my kids school no wonder she is loosing her shit

[TheSpottedZebra]

I've never once seen her drive blocked, but I'm not actually that invested to have kept an accurate tally

You googled her address. And then her name. And now you're on here talking about taking her on.

Honestly, you give spotted zebras a a bad name

[Fleurty]

I've lived opposite a school, parents are inconsiderate arseholes when dropping and collecting their little darlings. I probably sounded miserable when reacting to 'I'll only be 5 minutes and I'm only half blocking your drive' after the 1000th time too.

Stop being an arsehole and she'll probably be a bit nicer.

[motherloaded]

I cannot stand bullies

oh the irony...

[saraclara]

The woman who started up the organisation that I volunteer with (and which now helps many many of the most vulnerable and ignored people, and employs half a dozen full time employees as well as involving 100 volunteers), might well be like this. The same indomitable spirit that made her determined to start an.NGO that would help those who no-one else would help, who took on the govt, who took on the company that initially ran the institution we work within, who raised funds and pretty much demanded that influential people support the work and lobbied for these people, probably makes her 'difficult' in some peoples eyes.

A year ago I heard her speak about founding the group. I was moved to tears. She spoke with such eloquence and tightly controlled emotion. Most people would probably describe her as a funny old stick, and a bit prickly. But she's stunning.

[ddl1]

I can sympathize with objecting to someone blocking a car with a blue badge. If you see her doing it, point out the blue badge; and if need be, mention it to the headteacher. But ffs don't start stalking her!

[ZebraSpotts]

@PawsFor4

I was expecting her to be a raging prick and bigot, but she's not. She's listed on an 'Alternative new year's honours list' for her volunteer work. There's even a photo of her smiling! In person she's got a constant frown and mouth like a cat's bum

I know someone just like that. A misery guts with woke airs. Top tip: Do not take her seriously and do not let her spoil your mood.

Yessss - 'a misery guts with woke airs'
Ahh, There's more of them.

Mayb, I'm lucky I've never come across this type before. Doesn't seem to compute for me, how this is one in the same person

[Holly60]

Nope YANBU. I can’t bear people like that. Thinking that it’s ok to mutter comments under their breath and do weird passive aggressive things just because they personally don’t like a situation even if there is nothing objectively wrong with it. She doesn’t like the fact that she lives near a school therefore you must all suffer. I would ignore her online persona and deal with her as the situation dictates...

[ArosGartref]

Maybe stop parking over her drop curb? I'm a nice person well, I'm ok but I won't tolerate inconsiderate parking.

To share an anecdote though, I was working in a call centre when I was younger. I spoke to a woman so rude to me she made me cry. Her life's work was curing cancer. I always joke if that bitch cures cancer, society should turn if down.

[lottiegarbanzo]

You seem very focused on her appearance. Women are not obliged to make themselves pretty and smile for you.

Frown freely, difficult woman.

[TheLastLotus]

Ok apart from the fact that you're slightly nuts - doing charity and do-gooder stuff is NOT an indication of a virtuous person. Some of the kindest people I knew held some closet racist views. And a fair few amount of do-gooders don't really care about other people but are narcissists and just want the validation.

People are complex OP and if you're and adult and haven't realised this you're certainly a bit immature

[TheLastLotus]

*you are an adult

[SuperMonkeys]

FIGHT! FIGHT! FIGHT!

I'll hold your earrings.

[CovidSmart]

Honestly, if someone has an issue with all the life sucking parents coming to drop or pick their child, then you shouldn’t buy a house near a school.....

She choose to live near a school. It’s obvious that she would have parents parking near her house twice a day.

Having said that, if she is parking like the diagram, blocking the pavement to all pedestrians, she is an hypocrite.
Maybe she needs someone to start putting white stickers in her car to remind her to not block the pavement like this

[Jellybabiesforbreakfast]

She sounds like a basically nice and decent person who has a bee in her bonnet about one particular issue...

You and your ilk.

[Quirrelsotherface]

Her behaviour is quite honestly bizarre

Yeah and she's not the only one exhibiting off behaviour here. Do you fancy her or something?

[Havenholidayhelp]

This is a much much nicer school, and she's honestly ruining the vibe. Which is also why her online persona is jarring ( she volunteers on the other side of the city, the work she does will benefit that community) , why is shitty on her own doorstep (by being miserable on her own side of the city)

Your own vibe isn't exactly zen @ZebraSpotts and YABU for making up unintelligible AIBU categories

[AliceMcK]

I’m confused, is this woman a resident of the street or a parent? She is perfectly within her rights to park over her own driveway if she is a resident.

What kind of disparaging notes and what comments to blue badge holders? You do realise a blue badge doesn't give someone carte Blanche to park anywhere they want!

Why would you google her and want to take her on?

The headmistress is very PC, I’m not sure why that matters? I’m assuming you mean she is fairly relaxed and still thinks this lady is difficult? In which case I’d say she’s just agreeing with you as you seem very entitled and angry about something.

It’s not nice living next to a school where parents feel they are entitled to block peoples driveways and entrance to their homes. I’ve been abused by such entitled parents, the priest at the local church who kindly offers the full use of the church car park to the school parents has been abused when he asked them not to park on his garden. I even told the school I would be having cars towed the next time they parked in front of my garage and I’d call the police if I was verbally attacked and threatened again. I also had small children with me when it happened. Every single person on our street was pissed off with it, and they are absolutely lovely people who will go above and beyond for others. But that dosnt mean they have to sit back and take shit from others.

Now because of the behaviour of these parents, every parent in the school now suffers as the council have completely blocked off access to the road except for residents and the church no longer offers full use of the car park, it is now manned by school staff who only allow limited parking. The parents now have to park a distance away and walk to the school.

[LincolnshireYellowBelly]

Why on earth would you type her address into google? And I really struggle to believe that putting her address into google would result in letters to The Times and The Guardian.

[lolacola77]

The only arsehole here is you

[nocoolnamesleft]

Stalking her is far worse than anything you have alleged that she does. Try looking in the mirror.