Snarky lady, is apparently nice!!

[ZebraSpotts]

So there's this awful misery on the school run. She's a massive hypocrite - complains about people parking on curb near her house, whilst her car is overlapping the drop curb to her house. She makes comments to people with blue badges(!) Writes disparaging notes on white sticky labels and sticks them on the wing mirrors on the mirror-glass. Even the very 'PC' Head teacher said "she's a very difficult woman".

Stuck her address into google, comes up with her name, which then shows up letters she's written in to the times and guardian reader's sections...I was expecting her to be a raging prick and bigot, but she's not. She's listed on an 'Alternative new year's honours list' for her volunteer work. There's even a photo of her smiling! In person she's got a constant frown and mouth like a cat's bum 🙀

I'm confused - she seems such an absolute witch in person, repeatedly butting heads with parents just trying to pick up their kids.

Her online results have disarmed me. Seemingly a sheep in wolf's clothing, rather confusing.


Yabu - take her on, online persona means nothing, she's no saint
Yanbu - just ignore her, misery guts

[nellly]

What has she actually done though? You haven't mentioned anything so far except pulling faces and how long are purple loitering outside her house to even see that happen

[ZebraSpotts]

@JeanClaudeVanDammit

What on earth is the problem with her “overlapping the drop kerb to her house”? It’s her drive, she can park across it if she likes! You sound oddly over invested. Just don’t park like a knobhead and then presumably you’ll have nothing to do with her?

I don't have an issue with her, or anyone else parking.
However - She heckles cars parked on the school road, tells them they're blocking pushchairs (they're absolutely not though), but if she really cares about pushchairs why is her car blocking the drop kerb? It's just a hypocrite move.

[DancesWithTortoises]

All she seems to have done is get annoyed with illegal parking. I don't blame her. Living by a school and having to put up with entitled parents must be irritating.

[IhateBoswell]

Is it a “school road” though or people’s actual street, who have to put up with the inconvenience of parents parking twice a day, 5 times a week? As I said, I live near one and the majority of them (parents) are arseholes.

[minou123]

She has achieved her objective, hasn't she!

She is winding you up so much, she is living rent free in your head.

[3AndStopping]

The great thing about people being this notoriously whacko, is that if she ever gives you grief for anything, no one is going to think anything of it... At all.

[ZebraSpotts]

@Timper

I think she’s better off if you just leave her alone. I’m sure she doesn’t need a judgemental busybody like you in her life.

Likewise, then why is she intruding on others?

[Serin]

I thought she had applied for a job with you, with the "shall I take her on". If you mean an actual fight, I'm all for that. We have been too long in lockdown, I will buy a ticket.

[Marcis]

I have never seen such consistently immature, inconsiderate, and dangerous behaviour anywhere else in life as I see from parents in cars picking up at our local school.
If I lived any nearer I’m pretty sure I’d be this lady.
Parents quite happy to block pavements, mount kerbs, abandon vehicles blocking roads entirely, park on double yellows, block drives, park on zig zags.
The little darlings must be picked up in a car of course, heaven forbid those who could walk should, but sod the other children walking on the pavement or the residents. They can dodge out of the way as two 4x4s try to get past each other on a road that’s double parked.
So there bloody should be some consequences- this lady sounds brill!

[Jumpers268]

I don't understand how she's parking? As in on the road across her driveway so the dropped curb is dropped for her car rather than pedestrians?

[emilyfrost]

It sounds to me like you and other parents are creating parking problems and think because you’re “just picking up your kids” or “just going to be a minute” it doesn’t matter.

Don’t be a nuisance and you won’t be confronted on it.

[Dddccc]

Give your head a wobble op she is entitled to park outside her on house/ driveway and bloke her own dropped curb which she probably paid for if you have a disabled badge you are entitled to use the school carpark you don't have to park in front of her house or you could walk to school also tbh you sound like a major stalker and I would be more concerned about you then the owner of the house who has put up with years of entitled parents parking wherever they like my ds schools head teach now stands in the road to make sure no one parks outside of school and causes issues for the residents

[SaltAndVinegarSandwiches]

She sounds like someone who is sick of annoying idiots blocking her drive. Of course she can park on her own dropped kerb that doesn't mean the rest of you can do it. If I want to block my own front door with a pile of rubble I can that doesn't mean random people are allowed to store their rubble blocking my door. You sound incredibly unreasonable!

[Serin]

Also, I have a friend who is just the kindest sweetest person, a community midwife, won loads of awards, volunteers for lots of charities.
I was stunned when I heard some other Mums calling her inconsiderate for her appalling parking and struggled to believe it until a few days later I actually witnessed her drive along a grass verge outside school and she flattened an entire bed of about 300 daffodils.
You think you know people!

[babbaloushka]

We had a school mum like this who was an utter bitch and bullied a special needs child into a new school, was on the PTA and Parish Council, ended up carrying the Olympic Torch and got a bunch of do-gooder awards, but IRL, she was awful. Some terrible things put about a specific child on the school FB group too, asked if they could get a separate school photo with just her daughter and friends. Online you might think she was a God, really a nightmare.

[ZebraSpotts]

@DancesWithTortoises

All she seems to have done is get annoyed with illegal parking. I don't blame her. Living by a school and having to put up with entitled parents must be irritating.

So, then why is she also parking on the pavement drop kerb?

As an aside, I'm often curious why parking on the pavement is accepted in some parts of my city as the norm (actually almost necessary) and in other parts it's the 11th commandment and ultimate sin

[Geamhradh]

How do you even know all of these things? You sound unhinged.

[YouAreTheStorm]

Aww she sounds lovely :)

you sound rude, bitter and evil

[Whippet]

Your options don't allow for a 'YABU - she's probably a decent person who is just fucked off with anti-social parking behaviour by local school parents'

[SaltAndVinegarSandwiches]

A dropped kerb isn't a pedestrian crossing, it's not there to make life easier for mums with buggies. iIs paid for by the home owner to provide access to their drive. If course she's allowed to park over it! She didn't pay for the dropped kerb for your convenience. Cars shouldn't park over the pavement. If there isn't sufficient parking at the school you should car pool or walk not just park wherever you feel like.

[ZebraSpotts]

@Jumpers268

Like this?

Yep!
Parked vertically across the drop kerb.

[Franklyfrost]

Take her out! Stalk her a bit longer first though so you’ve got a really long list of good things she’s done which you can shout at her about.

[Pumperthepumper]

I used to live next door to a primary school, and you accept its going to be busy at certain times of the day but some people are total arseholes about it. I had loads of people parking on my actual drive, emptying their rubbish into my wheely bins and blocking me in with a cheery ‘back in ten mins!’. I even had one man ring the doorbell and ask if I’d stand with his kids while he ran back into school to grab something. People are bonkers.

Do you think she’s Googled your address @ZebraSpotts?

[MrsTrumpDuTurnip]

@Serin

Also, I have a friend who is just the kindest sweetest person, a community midwife, won loads of awards, volunteers for lots of charities.
I was stunned when I heard some other Mums calling her inconsiderate for her appalling parking and struggled to believe it until a few days later I actually witnessed her drive along a grass verge outside school and she flattened an entire bed of about 300 daffodils.
You think you know people!

OMFG noooooo!
Seriously?

[Marcis]

Because it is perfectly acceptable for her to block her own drive?!

Parking on pavements when it causes an obstruction (particularly if doors are open making the pavement impassable) is antisocial no matter where you live.