Snarky lady, is apparently nice!!

[ZebraSpotts]

So there's this awful misery on the school run. She's a massive hypocrite - complains about people parking on curb near her house, whilst her car is overlapping the drop curb to her house. She makes comments to people with blue badges(!) Writes disparaging notes on white sticky labels and sticks them on the wing mirrors on the mirror-glass. Even the very 'PC' Head teacher said "she's a very difficult woman".

Stuck her address into google, comes up with her name, which then shows up letters she's written in to the times and guardian reader's sections...I was expecting her to be a raging prick and bigot, but she's not. She's listed on an 'Alternative new year's honours list' for her volunteer work. There's even a photo of her smiling! In person she's got a constant frown and mouth like a cat's bum 🙀

I'm confused - she seems such an absolute witch in person, repeatedly butting heads with parents just trying to pick up their kids.

Her online results have disarmed me. Seemingly a sheep in wolf's clothing, rather confusing.


Yabu - take her on, online persona means nothing, she's no saint
Yanbu - just ignore her, misery guts

[Ihaventgottimeforthis]

You seem oddly obsessed.
Let it go.

[ZebraSpotts]

@Serin

Also, I have a friend who is just the kindest sweetest person, a community midwife, won loads of awards, volunteers for lots of charities.
I was stunned when I heard some other Mums calling her inconsiderate for her appalling parking and struggled to believe it until a few days later I actually witnessed her drive along a grass verge outside school and she flattened an entire bed of about 300 daffodils.
You think you know people!

That's it, I'm kind of stunned in reverse! Lol

Aww the daffodils!

[Penistoe]

Jellybabiesforbreakfast

She sounds like a basically nice and decent person who has a bee in her bonnet about one particular issue...

Agreed. Iv met many people like this. In fact I think we all have a bit of it, something that pushes our insanity buttons.

[Iamthewombat]

You went grubbing for dirt on her, using Google? Christ.

Why stop there?

How about knocking on every door in the street with a clipboard, asking all the neighbours to say spiteful things about her? Then publish it on the school website.

How about finding out where she went to school, and university? Offer £20 for nasty anecdotes about her. Get the local paper to publish them.

[Flibbitygibbit]

Blimey

[Arrowheart]

You sound unhinged OP

[TheMoth]

'Ruining the vibe'

It's a school drop off. I thought the vibe was generally:"shit,shit,shit, I'm going to be so fucking late if any more people make me stop at the crossing".

Incidentally, the school near me is horrendous at kicking out time. Apparently it's acceptable to drive on the pavements if there not enough room to get through.

[Thefaceofboe]

Weird

[Viviennemary]

It must be an absolute nightmare living on a road near a school. She has my sympathy.

[ZebraSpotts]

@SixDegrees

Maybe she’s a mostly nice person, who’s experienced a lot of bad behaviour from parents on the school run over the years, and has got to the point where she’s lost all patience with the school run parents?

Some parents can behave very badly when they’re driving and parking around schools.
Just because she’s snarky at them doesn’t mean she’s a wicked witch through and through.

Hence my suprise, because she's doing an oscar winning performance of playing the part of a wicked witch

[BeGreen]

You’re being silly.

[Pumperthepumper]

Hence my suprise, because she's doing an oscar winning performance of playing the part of a wicked witch

She’s not the one googling folk’s addresses, to be fair.

[KizzyKat91]

I know a few people who do a lot of charity work, have received awards and are lauded as pillars of the community. But in “real life”, they’re complete aresholes!

I do think charities sometimes attract narcissists who want to come across as martyrs and saint like. They suck up to those higher up than them, virtue signal all over social media, network and advertise themselves but it’s all for selfish reasons and they’re vile to those they consider beneath them.

Maybe she’s one of those?

[Ethelfromnumber73]

@ZebraSpotts

Kind of - she said something snarky once while I was loading my youngest into the car, whilst she was walking in the opposite direction. So I asked if she was ok. She's a coward, doesn't expect people to stand up to her weird comments.
So i wished her a good weekend, with enough sarcasm for her to choke on it.

Oh god, you're one of THOSE.

[House2home21]

Ah I see so you because you’re in a nicer area you’re allowed to get away with being entitled c*nts and park dangerously without being challenged, I see, yes.

You my dear are an absolute bell end!

[jamestowno]

Fearing for this woman's safety. Op sounds a bit single white female.

[CandyLeBonBon]

What the actual fuck have I just read?

[MichelleScarn]

@jamestowno

Fearing for this woman's safety. Op sounds a bit single white female.

Agree, op is slightly obsessed, Google searching, discussing her with school staff...
All over op parking inconsiderately!

[ZebraSpotts]

@TheSpottedZebra

I've never once seen her drive blocked, but I'm not actually that invested to have kept an accurate tally

You googled her address. And then her name. And now you're on here talking about taking her on.

Honestly, you give spotted zebras a a bad name

:O Is mumsnet big enough for two spotted zebras? before we realise there'll be a whole herd

[Postern]

Only the most naive people would think that volunteers who do good and valuable work are also necessarily invariably smiley and sweet in all areas of their lives. One of the most selflessly dedicated people I’ve ever met— a nun who worked with trafficked women in London — was personally a total pain in the hole.

I think that quite often the drive, even the anger, that pushes people to do effective voluntary work can make them ‘difficult’.

[Quirrelsotherface]

Frown freely, difficult woman

[saraclara]

@Postern

Only the most naive people would think that volunteers who do good and valuable work are also necessarily invariably smiley and sweet in all areas of their lives. One of the most selflessly dedicated people I’ve ever met— a nun who worked with trafficked women in London — was personally a total pain in the hole.

I think that quite often the drive, even the anger, that pushes people to do effective voluntary work can make them ‘difficult’.

Exactly. You have to have fight and determination to get to the point where you're nominated for an alternative honours list. Those don't go to soft sweet people who help out at an old people's lunch club. They go to people who see unfairness or injustice, get angry, and do something about it from scratch. And that is REALLY hard to do, and hard to keep funded and populated.

[ZebraSpotts]

@michellescarn if only, I park really well.
If anything, I'd not wonder why she was so odd if I was the problem. Plus she's not targeting me personally, she's like this to anyone on that bit of road. The Head Teacher isn't shy, far from it, they'd be the first to tell you that you're actually the problem.

[SaltAndVinegarSandwiches]

Nothing wrong with parking vertically across a dropped kerb. My friend used to do it to stop people blocking her in (she lived nearby to a train station and people used to 'be just ten minutes picking someone up'). Unless it's actually blocking the road or pavement and most cars aren't big enough for that, it's fine.

[Saz12]

A lot of people who do lots of effective voluntary work do it because they feel strongly about issues, get angry about injustices, unfairness, shoddy behaviour (perceived or real). That’s not going to start and stop with the voluntary stuff they do.