To tell my husband that his parents cant come over

[alwaystired234]

Husband has very on and off relationship with his family and will make effort every 4 or 5 months then not taking at all inbetween and has not seen his parents in a year. Purely his and their choices. hes told me yesterday that they will be coming over on Saturday to celebrate his mums birthday. They live 4 hours away and will be driving. I told him that I'm not sure that it's a good idea as its scheduled to rain and we will not be able to stay in the garden the entire time. I told him why dont we wait a couple of weeks until we can stay inside and I will cook a nice meal and it will be a pleasant experience. He has told me that we can come inside if it's cold (which I've said no to) and theyve booked time off specifically to come over. But haven't even asked beforehand. Am I being unreasonable for telling my husband they can t come over?

@Blossomtoes I'd expect it to be two to three courses and last a few hours rather than ten minutes to eat a sandwich....Because I have a brain.

The amount of times I’ve had to cater on short notice. Yes, I don’t like doing it but I can and I will. Just like my husband has done for me...
Has he had to cater for 10 people from your family at short notice? On his own?
Or anything similar?

Many pps berating the OP don't seem to have read the OP properly or any of her other posts.

I'd expect it to be two to three courses and last a few hours rather than ten minutes to eat a sandwich....Because I have a brain.

Are you assuming OP is making this meal or her husband?

@phoenixrosehere

I'd expect it to be two to three courses and last a few hours rather than ten minutes to eat a sandwich....Because I have a brain.

Are you assuming OP is making this meal or her husband?

I'd expect it to be the husband I think I posted that a day or two ago!

@Horehound, you can't be that brainy if you can't spot a slightly tongue in cheek comment.

A few hours......a few hours to eat lunch? hilarious. Then a 4 hour drive home. fanbloody tastic.

@Horehound, you can't be that brainy if you can't spot a slightly tongue in cheek comment.

A few hours......a few hours to eat lunch? hilarious. Then a 4 hour drive home. fanbloody tastic.

Why can't your husband sort the food?

Yes. It’s his house as well. Not just yours.

[quote randomer]@Horehound, you can't be that brainy if you can't spot a slightly tongue in cheek comment.

A few hours......a few hours to eat lunch? hilarious. Then a 4 hour drive home. fanbloody tastic.[/quote]
It's more about chatting, catching up, sharing news, playing with children etc etc. It just seems such a stupid comment to make that you cannot fathom people do this. They do. Because they like to see family/friends. :)

I can fathom, but thanks anyway. I suppose if you live a sort of Nigella lifestyle, with fairy lights and Cressida and Sebastian and Freya devouring their crunchy kale,it must be marvellous.

Maybe the party was cancelled due to the weather that OP sensibly mentioned beforehand and one of the reasons she suggested the party would be weeks from now and with consideration with the rules for gatherings.

Not sure where OP is (maybe I missed it) but it’s been raining since Tuesday where we are in Oxfordshire and rain in the forecast for the next eight days!

He can do what he likes in his house. You can also leave the house and leave him to it. “You invited them. I’m not comfortable with that many people. I’m going to be unavailable that day but you carry on and enjoy yourself darling. Then go to shops/ get hair done/ just not be there!!

@randomer

I can fathom, but thanks anyway. I suppose if you live a sort of Nigella lifestyle, with fairy lights and Cressida and Sebastian and Freya devouring their crunchy kale,it must be marvellous.

Yup