Friends want me to do things but I don't want to

[paul2louise]

I have been always quite happy with my hubby and son. I don't need a lot of excitement. I work part time and run a lot in spare time. I do some of runs on my own but have started running this last year with a small group of 6 ladies from our running club. The group is quite mixed background age, family circumstances, work commitments. I enjoy my runs with them. Now lockdown is lifting they want to do other social things other than our meet up for runs. I am not bothered. I like my weekend with my family. I don't want to go out at night much. I am 48 and just happy with quiet life especially after covid. I have got used to staying home a lot.
I am self motivated to keep fit and healthy so don't lack self discipline and am happy in my own skin. I want to carry on running with them as they are nice girls but I get fed up with the pressure to do things and keep trying to find excuses. I don't want to feel like I am being boring or antisocial. I think people think I just need persuading. I don't want to agree to something just to get them off my back. It's making me grumpy and I feel like I might be better just not running with anyone else and just do things on my own.
Thank you

@Stripyhoglets1

I'd just be honest and say - I'm a real introvert - I love running with you all but I really find other types of socialising are not for me - hope you all have a fab time doing xxxx.

I agree. This is honest and direct and not offensive. No need to make excuses or to join in if you don't want to.

Ah, someone like me!
Lol, it's refreshing to read. I just love being home. I love family. My friends are thrilled that soon we'll be able to meet for coffees etc, which obviously I'll go, but never really see why talking has to be done face to face these days, when we have so many devices!
Just explain, OP, that it's not for you! Why make yourself miserable?
The sky won't fall just because you're being honest.. good luck!

Well i wouldn't want to be friends with trolls like we get on here! OP sounds like a perfectly nice person, just cause she doesn't want to socialise all the time doesn't make her a bad person. Some people are just less outgoing than others. I'd just say, don't upset those who invite you out and go along with them sometimes, keep up your friendship. If they are true friends they will understand that you want to stay in with your family most of the time, but do accept their invitations sometimes or they'll probably give up being your friends eventually. You will need these friends in future, believe me.

butnever really see why talking has to be done face to face these days, when we have so many devices!

It just isn't the same for me or many other people.

I WFH and so does DH. Much as I love him and being at home I'm getting cabin fever and am desperate to see other people in RL.

I totally agree.

It sounds like you only want to see people if you can walk/run/cycle at the same time.

You sound very proud of your motivation to exercise but it could be that you don’t feel comfortable at events that are sedentary rather than not wanting to socialise.