@Ginuwine
From a personal perspective I've always had a high sex drive, was lucky enough to navigate my way mentally around childbirth and the changes in available time, couple dynamics, being "touched a lot" by DC.
But again I think that's because a) I see myself as a sexual being and was clear about my sexual identify before DC, and b) I don't see sex as only the initial bit a relationship - there to tolerate and maybe enjoy it when being pursued, then immediately lose interest once it's served its function.
I really think this country would benefit a bit from a bit of a shift in culture when it comes to sex. On here the default is often to the slapstick, functional, pragmatic, and bawdily humorous ways of describing sex - as if we all have a shared language that "no way my DH will get that from me" or "when doing the deed (really?! ugh) I called out to ask when dinner might be". Hilarious! Until you realise in the end when the worst happens why one party is mentally still invested in sex, and one party always treated it as a kind of awkward joke.
This is so incredibly patronising.
The reasons that you give for why you think you retained your sex drive have absolutely nothing to do with why you retained it. You retained it while others don’t because our hormones all operate differently, some women have an increased sex drive during and after pregnancy, some lose it completely. Some are affected for a few weeks, others for years. It’s not down to some attitude defect.
One cannot control their sex hormones or thyroid function, the two main causes of loss of libido during and after pregnancy. Factor in things like birth trauma, feeding issues, the difference from one baby to the next, your personal sleep requirements, your partner’s attitude etc etc etc, there are so many variables that play into this issue. Losing ones sex drive does not imply being uptight about sex, and suggesting this is bloody offensive.