Husband taking childrens money

[Sj2344]

Hi, my husband keeps taking money out of our childrens money boxes/wallets. Sometimes he puts it back other times he doesn't. I have asked him not to do it but he still does! I'm not sure what to do

There's something so lacking in morals about this.

It's not just about the kids money. It's that he thinks it's okay. What does he think is okay?

I would also get your own account. Check he's not stealing from you.

I'm not sure I could ever trust him to be honest though.

Santander kids accounts are good. Debit card to use online

Do your relatives never ask your kids what they spent their birthday money on?
"Thank you for the £20 Granny, Dad took it and bought himself cigarettes with it".

Its not only disrespectful to your kids, its disrespectful to the people who gave them that money in the first place.

My dad used to take our money. I've never forgotten it and the little girl inside me who was saving up for a Walkman, the pre teen saving for a coat like the ones her friend had, and the teen saving for a box of rainbow coloured scented nail varnishes have never forgiven it, either.

He's no better than a common thief, in fact he is worse.

Unbelievable OP that you have allowed this.

What must your poor children think.

That this is what they have been given as a role model.

Lockable pettycash type boxes, under £5 at home bargains etc

That's really cruel.

This isn't quite on thread for OP, but my mum said this to me: if you are giving money to any babies, children etc then open a savings account and put your gift in it on each birthday etc and send a card telling them. When they are 18 give it all to them.

It was meant to stop them spending it on nothing, but it seems she might have been being a bit more subtle about how some parents are not to he trusted with their children's money.
That's my mum, solution to a problem without making an issue about the problem in the first place

And she did do it with all mine. Hopefully no reflection on what she thought of me, and they were all delighted to receive their lump sum at 18.

@Sparrowfeeder

What about your money op?

You need your own bank account that he cannot access.

I worked in a bank when I was younger and saw so many women in tears because their stbex had rinsed the joint account leaving them with nothing. Don’t be that woman. This guy is stealing from his kids, he is surely stealing from you (or wouldn’t hesitate to if things got rocky).

As if to prove my point! Why are women always surprised?! * Always have access to your own money in a solo account, never have all eggs in one basket however much you trust your DP/DH.**

Break ups change even the seemingly nice people! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4232799-I-just-left-my-husband-and-now-he-has-emptied-our-bank-account