Defeated by my fatness - am I alone?

[BreathingDeep]

Today marks yet another day where I wake up, full of good intentions that today will be the day I change things and take steps to make my life better, and yet by lunchtime, it's all turned to rat shit and I'm back to feeling defeated by my eternal chub.

I currently weigh around 5 stones more than I should. I know this is horrendous. I am unhealthy, unfit and unhappy. I avoid mirrors at home and reflections while I'm out. I turn down invitations. I have a wardrobe bursting with clothes that don't fit and I loathe myself for staying this way.

My weight weighs me down ALL the time - from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep. Yet, despite this as a driver, I seem unable to tackle it once and for all which makes me feel even more ashamed.

Away from my weight, life is good. I'm capable, energetic, positive and decisive. I'm incredibly ambitious. I have a wonderful family and great friends but I'm aware I use 'being busy' as an excuse not to do a lot of things, losing weight being one of them.

I've gone deep and challenged myself on how I feel right now, how I want to feel, what my goal is, visualised how it would feel to be at that goal, examined what steps I need to take to make it happen, and still... it's always something I put off until tomorrow.

How can I be so capable in life and yet feel so lost when it comes to the food and drink I put in my mouth? This isn't a call for sympathy or derision, I just wondered if I'm alone in this?

Hi there

I have just over 3 stone to lose and I feel horrendous at just 5ft 2. I have some events in June and July and I can't bear my friends to see me this way

I can't help but see from your posts that the Fast800 gives fantastic results. As a complete novice can I ask whether you follow the Michael Moseley book or is there an app to follow? What would be the best way?
I'm nervous about having low carbs but nothing else seems to work. Can you exercise with it?

I've tried slimming world and gained weight and with WW nothing really happened and was disheartening.

Thanks xx

The only thing that worked for me when I felt like you was the Cambridge 121. It worked because I had that focus abs support and lost weight very quickly. However i did also find it very expensive and i ended up anaemic abs my hair fell out although I reversed those effects quite quickly.

Sorry if I'm derailing the thread, but just wanted to vent a bit. I don't have as much to loose as some posters (just over a stone) and I've been doing really well, being about half way through the process.
But for about a week I've been doing really bad and worried about putting it all back. I've been ill with sinus infection and just have not exercised at all and eaten whatever I've fancied. Even loads of chocolate 😭 How do you get back on track? Please share your self-motivation tips!!

I didn’t follow Fast 800 recipes or changed what I ate really. Just ate less of it and only ate between 12-7 pm and cut out most bad snacks - though I have them at weekends. Do cardio every morning. Weight dropped off and staying off. Normal for me now.

What cardio do you do @MsTSwift ?
Well done on your loss.
And thanks for sharing!

I've done my first fast day today 🙌

Well I joined SW last week, and fuelled by a deep self loathing of my current weight and a genuine desire to change I’ve lost 7.5lb this week.
My turning point was when the gym reopened and realising I was to fat for my swim suit (size 22).
I could have cried. I’m in it for the long haul this time and it’s good to know there’s support on here.

7.5 is AMAZING mellon 🏆😃

My 22 swimmer is nippit too (Borat’s mankini would be a better fit 😳)

Onwards and upwards though 🎈

Thanks @SheldonesqueTheBstard 😊

Yes onwards & upwards everyone 👍🏻

🙌🙌🙌 well done @Mellonsprite that's amazing!

Wow @Mellonsprite 7.5lb loss is fantastic!

I love swimming, can't go at the moment as in their infinite wisdom our council have decided not to open pools till June 21st even though theyre allowed to now 🤬

I always find swimsuits a challenge as quite long in body as well as round in body. I prefer getting a tankini vest style top and then a pair of men's swim shorts (primark £4), I feel more comfortable with the coverage of shorts and a vest style top is easier to get to fit that an all in one for some reason.

Anyone on here knowledgeable bout exercise damage and water retention?

I did a stupid thing and signed up for a 5K jog then forgot to actually practice and train for it, stubbornness forced me to jog the whole 5K on Saturday because I'd been sponsored so I was doing it goddamn it! Well it was painful, there was cramping calves, shin splints and I've been hobbling ever since. My weight went up 6lb between Saturday and Monday, could this be water retention due to muscle damage or am I grasping at straws???

Your mental state sounds just like mine was when I used to smoke.

I knew I needed to stop. I even made a couple of attempts - my record was 48h!

Then I got white plaques form at the back of my throat - I was petrified it was cancer - turned out to be innocuous, but a symptom that is often a prequel to cancer apparently - definitely due to the cigarettes.
I quit immediately, no patches, just willpower - was SO easy! 20 yrs on, never smoked since.

The big difference - when i was first trying to quit, I remember looking at the "last cigarette" each time, thinking crap - I don't want to give this up! When I DID quit, I didn't have a "last cigarette" - I hated them before I stopped - in my head I was a non-smoker immediately!

So in conclusion there's a huge difference between feeling you OUGHT to do something, and knowing you NEED to do something. I sense that you're still in the former category.

@HalfShrunkMoreToGo are you premenstrual?

@HalfShrunkMoreToGo thanks 😊

sorry I don’t know anything about jogging or exercise damage, but that sounds painful 😖

I was thin until I hit 27 and had to go on Prednisone. I’m 57 now and have gained and lost, gained and lost the last 30 years. I do a form of WW but it only works if I’m Never really hungry. If I sit down to eat and I’m hungry (not ‘not’ hungry or ‘full’) I will overeat even healthy food and gain weight. My process is now: Wake up, have coffee (little cream no sugar) Get to office have banana and another coffee. 10:00 Snack like fruit veggies or protein like a hard boiled egg. 12:00 Healthy lunch. 2:00 Another snack like above. 4:00 Yoghurt. 6:00 Healthy dinner. 8:00 pm Snack. 10:00 tiny snack like a few grapes or spoonful of cottage cheese. 10:30 or so bed. So I’m eating every 2 hours and I’m never really hungry. The times I’ve lost it and gained it right back was because I got too hungry and ate junk because I was famished and then threw in the towel. Not ever really much of an appetite is the only way I’ve lost it and kept it off.