To not want my boyfriend's ex using his Netflix?

[Netflixproblems]

Been dating boyfriend for around 10 months. Being a lockdown couple we watch a lot of films together.

A while ago I deactivated my Netflix because I just don't watch it enough. I know he has an account, (the one you pay the most for and you can have multiple people also watching) He told me just his sister watches it too.

I've been asking him to let me use his account for a while but he's been changing the subject, I've been starting to think this was really odd because he's usually so generous and we share many things. I started to have a weird feeling so I outright asked him who watches it other than his sister, he said nobody.

This weekend at mine he asked me to pick the film, I said I wanted to watch a film that was on Netflix, he tried to search for it on other platforms but it was just on netflix so eventually he signed in to his account so we could watch it.

He made me an account and left it signed it so I've just checked the other accounts and there's another account other than his sister. I googled the username and it matches his ex.

They broke up about 10 months ago and from social media she seems very happy in a relationship. To my knowledge they aren't still friends (he's literally never mentioned her)

I'm going to ask him outright who the other profile is but AIBU for being pissed off?

I knew something was wrong because sharing a Netflix account when you're in a relationship is surely not a big deal? And he made it a big deal. He only let me reluctantly. And he outright lied.

How would you feel?

What right does his ex have being on his account?

The right that he gave her when he offered it.

He knew you'd want her removed when he probably didn't want to kick her off the platform. He was right to assume you'd be jealous, I'm not saying he was right for lying your reaction is OTT.

Is there evidence that they’re still in touch, exchanging messages, and not just using Netflix via the same account? I would suspect that it’s happened because he’s been too lazy to do anything about it.

On its own, sharing the account really doesn’t sound like a big deal. (Apart from the lying about it, though that might have been because he knew that his girlfriend would react badly if he told her the truth?)

Do you think they are messaging one another in the films they choose?

Yanbu his behaviour about it was weird and made it a bigger deal than it would have been, he lied too. But I think, like so many pp here have done, he's going to make you feel at fault if you talk about it. If he can't be honest about such a little thing, how will he be with bigger things is the question I'd be asking myself.