Does anyone here neglect themselves in small ways?

[FortunesFave]

Not big ways like not eating for days or never washing...but weird little ways.

I do! And I was trying to work out why...for example. I realised today that I only have about 5 pairs of knickers and they're all full of holes. I have a few fancy lacy ones but they're uncomfortable and only for fun times... no everyday ones that aren't fit for the rag bag.

I mean...I can afford them! So why haven't I got them! I went out and sorted that out today....and I started thinking that when I was growing up, after about 14 or so, my Mum just stopped buying me any clothes.

She did get me a winter coat every year and shoes but nothing else.

Could that be why I habitually forget to get things like these basics?

What about you? Do you neglect anything weird like that?

[littlepieces]

Haha knickers... I actually hate buying new ones because I find it so hard to find ones that are comfortable, so when I do I wear them forever.

Same with shoes. I get horrible sores and blisters with new shoes, and I'm in between sizes so they almost never fit completely right. When I find a pair I get on with, I wear them forever.

[eatsleepread]

Hmm, I can sort of relate. I neglect myself in other ways, such as not losing weight when I know it would make me feel a million times better. Not drinking enough water. Being too tired to take my make-up off at night, even though I'd feel so much nicer and fresher with a clean face. Falling asleep on the sofa, when I'd be able to sleep the whole night through in my bed.
My self-destruct button may be small and frankly lame, but it is there!

[ilovesushi]

Finally started buying decent comfortable bras and pants and it is a revelation. Never felt so good!

[Whippet]

Yes!!

• I eat the food that's going out of code in the fridge while the rest of the family open the new stuff (I hate waste!)
• We have a teapot which isn't quite big enough for 3 cups, so if two other people want some then I pour theirs first then top mine up with hot water (WTF!?)
• For ages I complained about pain in my feet until I realised my feet had changed shape and I needed bigger shoes!
• I've had the same waterproof jacket for over 20 years and it is no longer waterproof at all, but I don't feel I need a new one. Have bought the DC new ones every couple of years though.

[NewAndImprovedNorks]

On the recommendation of this thread I have just bought myself a new bloody dressing gown, instead of wearing the frayed and faded disaster that I have had for 20 years.
Thank you

[DissABrie]

This is a sad thread.
I don't drink enough water. I give the pets fresh water but not me. Why is that?!
I bought myself a pink grapefruit as a treat weeks (!) ago, haven't eaten it.
I don't do yoga that would probably help my joints.

I want to make a conscious effort to treat myself better.

[Keeping2ChevronsApart]

@Wellyouknowbest

Ive been talking about this today. I'm desperate for pants, only have two bras and one has a wire that i push in once an hour, it just feels extravagant and unnecessary to spend on myself . I wear the same few tops and jeans to go to work. Whereas my kids have drawers full and could go a week or more with different clothes every day.
I also dont really like the look of myself and only feel comfortable in my ratty joggers or pyjamas, none of which match

Oh yes I have one of those bras, sometimes the wire escapes to my neckline and, will one day appear in front of a complete stranger!!

[LouLou789]

Not me, but DH. Happily gives away anything half decent in his wardrobe (to any of our five sons or anyone else who needs things) and waits till clothes fall apart to replace them. We are comfortably off but he has a pair of trainers and a pair of slippers (one pair of smart shoes bought in the sale and put away for weddings and christenings) He’s not in the slightest bit stingy, loves us buying things for the house, delights in new things for me and goes out of his way to give a generous tip to any young person working as eg a pub waiter. He did this even when we were short of cash ourselves, which I have to admit was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. These days I have to really pressurise him to get a new T shirt or socks. Being analytical, he was the eldest child of alcoholic parents, and I think he has got used to just doing without.

[AngelicaElizaAndPeggy]

I'm exactly the same. I have a pair of pants I still wear from 1996- they came in a pack of five from marks and I got them when I was 14.

I feel horrifically guilty buying things just for myself and I always eat the crappiest food of anyone in the house because I feel everyone else deserves it more. How bloody sad!?

[PumpkinPie2016]

I am like this with clothes I will wear things until they literally wear out and I always hesitate to buy anything for myself.

I buy things for DS - he never goes without anything.

When I was a kid, my parents weren't great with money so I didn't really get many clothes unless I bought them myself.

I think my current habits are down to the fact that I didn't have much in the way of clothes as a kid and also the fact that I don't want my son not to have the right clothes so I buy for him rather than me.

There's no reason for me to do this though. We are comfortably off and can afford clothes for us all

[HowToBringABlushToTheSnow]

I’m the opposite. Grew up without much money so now treat myself very well indeed, anything I want or need, I buy. No DC yet so this may change!

[Keeping2ChevronsApart]

DP was so exasperated by my holey socks that he bought me a pack of 5 pairs with lovely patterns on for Christmas. 4 months later I still enjoy matching them up and laying side by side in my sock drawer, I'm shocked at how happy this makes me! I'll wear these until they fall apart of course!!

[Isaidnope]

I don’t often buy myself clothes, only the odd T-shirt here and there if I see one I really like. My DH is the same, he just bought himself two pairs of jeans because his old ones were worn until they had big gaping holes. We can afford new clothes, it just isn’t a priority now we have children. DC have a lot more clothes than us, I always prioritise everything they need over myself I guess.

I haven’t had my hair professionally cut for years, I cut it myself. Tbf it looks alright, I don’t do a bad job.

[memberofthewedding]

Definitely underwear! I am mobility impaired and seldom go out. When I do its a taxi door to door as I dont drive. I mainly wear long loose kaftans which dont require underwear. They cover me from neck to ankle. If I go anywhere I just throw a coat on top. If I went anywhere it counted I would have to look for knickers and a bra to wear. It just doesnt seem worthwhile spending money on underclothes.

[mofro]

@eatsleepread

Hmm, I can sort of relate. I neglect myself in other ways, such as not losing weight when I know it would make me feel a million times better. Not drinking enough water. Being too tired to take my make-up off at night, even though I'd feel so much nicer and fresher with a clean face. Falling asleep on the sofa, when I'd be able to sleep the whole night through in my bed.
My self-destruct button may be small and frankly lame, but it is there!

This is sooo me!!
How do we sort it out?

[Wtfdidwedo]

I was actually thinking the other day that I can't remember the last time I bought new underwear and realised it was probably about 7 or 8 years ago. I did wonder if this was odd but actually this thread has (in a rather depressing manner) made it seem normal!

I'm also just in my 30s now and have wondered about nice skincare stuff instead of just washing with soap and water!

[WhiskyIrnBru]

I wonder if this is a female thing?

My dp and other males I know don't seem to have a prob buying things if they need them and don't see it as a treat.

[bubblebath62636]

Yes, I barely brush my hair, it's always matted when i need to wash it.

I also wear baggy shapeless clothes to hide myself in general.

Won't pay to get my hair cut as i hate looking in the mirrors whilst it's getting done.

[AlexaRain]

@speakout

I don't wearing comfy old pants as neglect.

In fact I see it as complete indulgence- holes and all!!

Fancy pants would give me no pleasure.
Clean well worn pants are the complete indulgence!!
Stuff doesn't do it for me.
Comfort is paramount.

I see it as an act of self care.

Good way of thinking. This thread was worrying me. As I sit here in my old m&s PJs and dressing gown that are worn to my shape.

[SionnachGlic]

I wear tatty nightclothes...nice colours & so comfy but should be binned....but I get attached & sentimental, silly I know. I don't often treat myself & sometimes have to make myself a promise to go & buy myself something nice...so I bought a nice piece of art last year but no new clothes that I can think of excepts socks.....& I am still in the tatty pjs!

[Hollyhocksarenotmessy]

I'm feeling proud of myself as I've booked a massage as I'm so stiff and tense after a year of wfh on the sofa and lack of exercise. I've never done anything like that before, no spas, manicures or anything. I'm hoping to feel like a new woman, and if it's good I plan to go once a month.

I have a lot of aches and pains and usually just ignore them.

It's a cliche but I think a lot of women need to learn to love and care for themselves as they do for others.

I also need new underwear, I have 2 ancient saggy bras (1 with a hole in) and baggy old pants. All my bed sheets are old and stained and need replacing. I'm used to not being able to afford to replace anything until it disintegrates, but my situation is different now. My thinking needs to catch up with that.

[Roonerspismed]

Yes yes yes. My underwear is manky and worn until holes. Wear bras for years. Covid has made it all worse - do my hair myself. I sleep in dreadful bedding, drive an old banger and try not to buy new.

I’m happy!

[masterofthechef]

so many i recognise in myself -never take painkillers, cold or cough medicine and just suffer.
Also need to go to the opticians but never find the time- even though i have moved right up the numbers in the Pound shop reading glasses, will probably be blind before i go.
dress like someone from the 90s because that's when i last bought clothes.
Started working from home and also never put the heating on, my hands were constantly numb
Also, towels are ancient and frayed, won't hang them outside to dry, but keep them as they are hard and good for self-flagellation drying
Also if out by myself, will never pop in anywhere for something to eat or drink, also never had a takeaway coffee.

[EscapeTheCastle]

Fun fact. I have the very same dressing gown that Bridget Jones has in the first film. That film is 20 years old. It still looks OK...ish!
I have a fabulous selection of socks. Pringle are my favourite brand. The pants though are a different story. Not enough for a week and very sad.

[Zebracat]

If need something , I try to find it cheaper to such an extent that it doesnt function, and then I do it again...after 3 secondhand sofas that were too small, too big and just, frankly fucking hideous,I finally got a new one that works.