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AIBU coffee run

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Starstella21 · 16/04/2021 08:40

Please settle a light hearted argument...

Our coffee machine is broken, my partner has got in the habit of making a 10 minute walk in the morning to the local french bakery to grab a coffee.
I've asked if he will get me one he says he doesn't want to carry two back...

AIBU to think this is selfish?!
I want a coffee!!

OP posts:
littlepattilou · 16/04/2021 12:31

@Starstella21 Is this a wind-up?

osbertthesyrianhamster · 16/04/2021 12:38

Nothing light-hearted about this man's being an arsehole.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 12:40

Why is he an arsehole? He wants coffee, he fetches one. No one is stopping the op going to get one

lorca · 16/04/2021 12:41

Wow it's like the OP started the thread, and then the Dh finished it!

Hmm
WhatMattersMost · 16/04/2021 12:46

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

Is anyone else trying to work out what responses the OP wanted?

Was it a trick question and Romeo is actually a goldfish?

I think OP is questioning the relationship in some way that she's not yet fully aware of.
Fluffycloudland77 · 16/04/2021 13:06

I think it’s likely he’s got his eye on someone there and wants to appear single.

Lockheart · 16/04/2021 13:47

This thread is batshit.

If I made my partner tea and breakfast in bed and then he demanded I buy and bring him coffee without ever offering to get off his own arse and take a turn I think I'd be entirely justified in telling him to take a running jump.

IntermittentParps · 16/04/2021 13:53

She's hardly 'demanding' he go and get her coffee, out of the blue Hmm
He goes anyway. He's just too selfish to carry two coffees back.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:02

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold. Maybe part of the run is sauntering home slowly sipping his Soy Mocha Latte with extra froth rather than hurrying home to deliver Madame her drink? Let alone the hot cups / full cups spilling mess

wesowereonabreak · 16/04/2021 14:02

@Fluffycloudland77

I think it’s likely he’s got his eye on someone there and wants to appear single.
😂

there's always one

grapewine · 16/04/2021 14:04

Maybe part of the run is sauntering home slowly sipping his Soy Mocha Latte with extra froth rather than hurrying home to deliver Madame her drink?
😂

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:06

Sorry fun not run, obv

Neonprint · 16/04/2021 14:06

@Starstella21

I think this post has reminded me why I need to delete Mumsnet again 🤣

He is a very good partner and dad who does a lot for me and the kids daily and there is a lot of love in our home and in our relationship. I don't feel that he doesn't value me at all and maybe you all think I should but I honestly don't 🤷‍♀️ He makes me breakfast in bed on our days off always.
I'm not going to reevaluate my whole relationship/worth over coffee but thanks all for your input 🤪🤪

Yeah in my experience women really hate people pointing out selfish behaviour. Of course a partner can be otherwise a good partner but do something selfish. But if he really can't see his behavior in this instance is selfish its a problem. Do4ey6yiu don't want to hear this.
ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 16/04/2021 14:07

We also have a coffee place about 10 minutes walk away.. if ds(14) goes to get a drink, even he offers to pick me one up! So yes, I think your OH is being pretty selfish here

Mamadothehump · 16/04/2021 14:10

OP: My OH is selfish.
Mumsnet: Yes, you're right - he is.
OP: No he's not. Waaaaaaaaa.

FFS 🤦‍♀️

stackemhigh · 16/04/2021 14:12

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Clarice99 · 16/04/2021 14:14

@Starstella21

I think this post has reminded me why I need to delete Mumsnet again 🤣

He is a very good partner and dad who does a lot for me and the kids daily and there is a lot of love in our home and in our relationship. I don't feel that he doesn't value me at all and maybe you all think I should but I honestly don't 🤷‍♀️ He makes me breakfast in bed on our days off always.
I'm not going to reevaluate my whole relationship/worth over coffee but thanks all for your input 🤪🤪

If he's so fantastic, why did you bother to post about the fact that he won't get you a coffee when he's going out to get one for himself?

Did you really expect everyone to see beyond your initial post about him being an absolute arsehole?

There's nothing lighthearted about him being a selfish twat. But, whatever floats your boat.

Kaptain · 16/04/2021 14:21

@ColdTattyWaitingForSummer

We also have a coffee place about 10 minutes walk away.. if ds(14) goes to get a drink, even he offers to pick me one up! So yes, I think your OH is being pretty selfish here
He may be selfish, but he's not as tedious as the OP.
IntermittentParps · 16/04/2021 14:22

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold.
You're going to bad coffee places. Mine's always fine. You can always ask for extra hot.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2021 14:23

@IntermittentParps

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold. You're going to bad coffee places. Mine's always fine. You can always ask for extra hot.
No I'm just drinking it when I buy it, not sloshing it about outside for 10 minutes before consuming.
NobodyPuttsBabyinCorner · 16/04/2021 14:24

Me thinks the refusal is not that he's deliberately being an arsehole, it's his way of saying.. Ffs I wait on you enough as it is, get off your arse and come with me...

katy1213 · 16/04/2021 14:25

Surely it's cold after a 10 minute walk?

katy1213 · 16/04/2021 14:27

And you don't need a fancy machine to make coffee!

Janaih · 16/04/2021 14:29

I'm way too invested in this thread now placemarking

AryaStarkWolf · 16/04/2021 14:37

What a mean bastard

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