AIBU coffee run

[Starstella21]

Please settle a light hearted argument...

Our coffee machine is broken, my partner has got in the habit of making a 10 minute walk in the morning to the local french bakery to grab a coffee.
I've asked if he will get me one he says he doesn't want to carry two back...

AIBU to think this is selfish?!
I want a coffee!!

Concurring with all the other posters: this is really horrible, nothing light-hearted about it.

Your acceptance of it & ire towards MN posters whose opinion you asked, is much more concerning tho.

@NormanStangerson

To be fair though, lighthearted or not, your husband does sound like a prick.

Unless we’re anticipating a drip feed whereby he only has one arm....

😂

Genuinely, I think my partner would leave me if I got into the habit of walking ten minutes to a cafe to buy a coffee because we didn't buy a relatively cheap cafetierre whilst out swanky coffee machine was being fixed.

She'd think it was a total waste of money and would be horrified if I bought her one too. YABU.

I'm imagining myself in that situation and tbh it would spoil the walk back if I had to keep 2 coffees upright and unspilt...I am single though so don't have to worry about being fair and thinking of others etc
Could he put yours in your own sealed coffee cup (if you have one) I have a good one, can't remember the make, but you could put it in a bag and it wouldn't spill and would keep the coffee hot too

It's a Contigo ☕

OP: my husband buys himself a coffee but refuses to bring me one. Is that selfish?!

Us: yep, that’s selfish.

OP: but he brings me breakfast in bed every day! He’s the best! I hate Mumsnet (laughing face).

Us: ...

What do you expect people to say, it obviously bothers you? Why exactly did you post?

MN tells you something that you don't want to hear and it's somehow our fault? You started the thread, so clearly you do think his behaviour is a bit off. If he was such a wonderful partner I don't think you would have started this thread.
It's easy to do things that don't inconvenience you at all but the real measure of a relationship is whether someone will do nice things for you even when it makes their life a little less easy. A coffee isn't a big ask really - it would make me wonder what he'd be like if I needed support for something that was going to impact his life in a big way.

So rude
This would make me very grumpy

Ok see ya

Carrying two coffees for 10 minutes is really annoying, I'd certainly not want to do it, and probably would tell my partner they should just have a walk with me.

I may well do it, but it would not be something I'd want to do at all.

Tbf he does usually make me tea and breakfast in bed each morning

Then why aren't you going to get him coffee?

@NormanStangerson

To be fair though, lighthearted or not, your husband does sound like a prick.

Unless we’re anticipating a drip feed whereby he only has one arm....

😂😂😂 🏆

Christ. It’s only coffee. Why can’t you both just buy a jar of Gold Blend until your fancy pants machine is fixed? He’s a selfish twat for not getting you a coffee, but he’s a bit of a twat too for spending all that time and money for a cup of brown liquid. Catch yourselves on.

That’s so bad! I understand not liking having both hands cold if it’s freezing, but gloves solve that and it’s still not a good enough excuse.

Unless we’re anticipating a drip feed whereby he only has one arm....
Even if he does, coffee shops will give you a carry tray that you can carry with one hand.

Is it because he wants you to come with him for the walk?

Buy him a coffee-cup-carrier that will make it easy to carry two cups back.

I'm extremely jealous that you have a French bakery Is this in a city centre?

@Armi

Christ. It’s only coffee. Why can’t you both just buy a jar of Gold Blend until your fancy pants machine is fixed? He’s a selfish twat for not getting you a coffee, but he’s a bit of a twat too for spending all that time and money for a cup of brown liquid. Catch yourselves on.

I get takeaway coffee delivered to the house sometimes by Deliveroo - with a service charge added. So there. Why do you care what people spend their money on?

Cant be true, no one is that mean

I probably wouldn’t want to carry two cups of coffee if I’m honest, unless it was in a sealed cup of some kind that could go in a bag. I find most takeout cups too hot to comfortably hold and the cardboard holders for two cups are unstable and difficult to carry. If you can’t go together why not take turns?

My husband would go and get one for me and not himself if carrying two was genuinely that much of an issue.

You should have set your bar higher.

It’s that phrase if someone shows you who they really are take notice. It’s obviously bothering you op or you wouldn’t post and your defensive reply speaks volumes. I suspect reason you can’t go is it’s you wrangling kids while he swans off for coffee. Monday you go to bakery for 1 coffee for you. If your reaction to that is I couldn’t possibly do that it speaks volumes. Listen.

To be fair, I really hate having my hands full when walking! So I'd carry a drink for myself but would want my other hand free to switch which is holding the drink and which is happily swinging beside me So I kind of get it! And I reckon my partner would say the same. Perhaps we're terrible people!