AIBU coffee run

[Starstella21]

Please settle a light hearted argument...

Our coffee machine is broken, my partner has got in the habit of making a 10 minute walk in the morning to the local french bakery to grab a coffee.
I've asked if he will get me one he says he doesn't want to carry two back...

AIBU to think this is selfish?!
I want a coffee!!

[DryIce]

Hah oh this thread has been an entertaining read!

I am probably an arsehole too, when I go to get coffee I like to play on my phone on the way back or video call so I would also resent getting another and taking up my free hand

Dunno if I'd be brave enough to own up to it though

[AryaStarkWolf]

@NormanStangerson

To be fair though, lighthearted or not, your husband does sound like a prick.

Unless we’re anticipating a drip feed whereby he only has one arm....

bahaha

[AryaStarkWolf]

What a mean bastard

[Janaih]

I'm way too invested in this thread now placemarking

[katy1213]

And you don't need a fancy machine to make coffee!

[katy1213]

Surely it's cold after a 10 minute walk?

[NobodyPuttsBabyinCorner]

Me thinks the refusal is not that he's deliberately being an arsehole, it's his way of saying.. Ffs I wait on you enough as it is, get off your arse and come with me...

[SleepingStandingUp]

@IntermittentParps

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold.
You're going to bad coffee places. Mine's always fine. You can always ask for extra hot.

No I'm just drinking it when I buy it, not sloshing it about outside for 10 minutes before consuming.

[IntermittentParps]

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold.
You're going to bad coffee places. Mine's always fine. You can always ask for extra hot.

[Kaptain]

@ColdTattyWaitingForSummer

We also have a coffee place about 10 minutes walk away.. if ds(14) goes to get a drink, even he offers to pick me one up! So yes, I think your OH is being pretty selfish here

He may be selfish, but he's not as tedious as the OP.

[Clarice99]

@Starstella21

I think this post has reminded me why I need to delete Mumsnet again 🤣

He is a very good partner and dad who does a lot for me and the kids daily and there is a lot of love in our home and in our relationship. I don't feel that he doesn't value me at all and maybe you all think I should but I honestly don't 🤷‍♀️ He makes me breakfast in bed on our days off always.
I'm not going to reevaluate my whole relationship/worth over coffee but thanks all for your input 🤪🤪

If he's so fantastic, why did you bother to post about the fact that he won't get you a coffee when he's going out to get one for himself?

Did you really expect everyone to see beyond your initial post about him being an absolute arsehole?

There's nothing lighthearted about him being a selfish twat. But, whatever floats your boat.

[Mamadothehump]

OP: My OH is selfish.
Mumsnet: Yes, you're right - he is.
OP: No he's not. Waaaaaaaaa.

FFS 🤦‍♀️

[ColdTattyWaitingForSummer]

We also have a coffee place about 10 minutes walk away.. if ds(14) goes to get a drink, even he offers to pick me one up! So yes, I think your OH is being pretty selfish here

[Neonprint]

@Starstella21

I think this post has reminded me why I need to delete Mumsnet again 🤣

He is a very good partner and dad who does a lot for me and the kids daily and there is a lot of love in our home and in our relationship. I don't feel that he doesn't value me at all and maybe you all think I should but I honestly don't 🤷‍♀️ He makes me breakfast in bed on our days off always.
I'm not going to reevaluate my whole relationship/worth over coffee but thanks all for your input 🤪🤪

Yeah in my experience women really hate people pointing out selfish behaviour. Of course a partner can be otherwise a good partner but do something selfish. But if he really can't see his behavior in this instance is selfish its a problem. Do4ey6yiu don't want to hear this.

[SleepingStandingUp]

Sorry fun not run, obv

[grapewine]

Maybe part of the run is sauntering home slowly sipping his Soy Mocha Latte with extra froth rather than hurrying home to deliver Madame her drink?
😂

[wesowereonabreak]

@Fluffycloudland77

I think it’s likely he’s got his eye on someone there and wants to appear single.

😂

there's always one

[SleepingStandingUp]

I wouldn't want a cup of coffee that's been out of the shop 10 minutes minimum, it'll be cold. Maybe part of the run is sauntering home slowly sipping his Soy Mocha Latte with extra froth rather than hurrying home to deliver Madame her drink? Let alone the hot cups / full cups spilling mess

[IntermittentParps]

She's hardly 'demanding' he go and get her coffee, out of the blue
He goes anyway. He's just too selfish to carry two coffees back.

[Lockheart]

This thread is batshit.

If I made my partner tea and breakfast in bed and then he demanded I buy and bring him coffee without ever offering to get off his own arse and take a turn I think I'd be entirely justified in telling him to take a running jump.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I think it’s likely he’s got his eye on someone there and wants to appear single.

[WhatMattersMost]

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

Is anyone else trying to work out what responses the OP wanted?

Was it a trick question and Romeo is actually a goldfish?

I think OP is questioning the relationship in some way that she's not yet fully aware of.

[lorca]

Wow it's like the OP started the thread, and then the Dh finished it!

[SleepingStandingUp]

Why is he an arsehole? He wants coffee, he fetches one. No one is stopping the op going to get one