AIBU to hate working?

[WorkPhobic]

Started a new job two weeks ago. Perfect hours for me. Lovely people. Great location. Basically my perfect job. But I still hate it.

I hated my old job. The one before it and the one before it. In fact, I've hated every job I've ever had. And despite the fact that this is the best one I've had and it's perfect for me, I still hate it.

I'd much rather just be at home. I also have a problem with authority and being told what to do. An attitude that basically isn't compatible with being an employee! I hate knowing that on the days I work I have to stick to a routine and get up at a certain time, etc. I hate having any obligations or plans. I can't explain it but the routine that comes with being employed upsets me.

Should add I'm on ADs for anxiety after a breakdown last year. Also have a three year old.

I think I must just hate working, no matter what I do.

I loathe working. Apart from the obvious need to make money to live it's a giant waste of time. I'm early 30s so the people around me trill "Oh I'd get awfully BORED if I didn't work!" like good little capitalists but tbh the list of things I'd choose to do before working if I was bored is as long as my arm. I think what they actually mean when they say this is "I'd feel guilty if I didn't work".

You have just described my entire working life.

I have ADD and would love to not work. I work nights so I only work by myself and have no fucker bossing me about, so makes it tolerable. My biggest problem is other people 🙄

I hate working too. I dream of winning the lottery so I don't have to. I hate having to be somewhere at a set time and giving my life over to someone else.

I'd be quite happy pottering at home. And I don't care if that makes me lack ambition, I find working and all it entails very stressful and boring.

I'm the opposite - I absolutely love my job and can't get enough of it. I get satisfaction and respect at work. Home life with youngish kids is boring and repetitive drudgery most of the time.

I've had jobs I liked more than others but prefer to do my hobbies and be at home with my children.
I currently have three jobs I do, two self employed one part time hours and keeping in too of it all is getting too much.

I would actually like to go into work, do a job and not think about it again until the next day but those are poorly paid.

My last 'career' job before kids was really pressured and never off my mind. I never had a holiday because of all the stress before I went prepping files and the stress coming back to a pile of issues on my return.

Those that are blessed have a gift or talent they can make money from I think. That won't be me then. 😆

YABU.

I'm sure women working 12 hour days in Primark sweatshops in Bangladesh or breaking their backs in a paddy field in Vietnam would love your relatively easy life and your nice job.

You are whinging.

Sorry.

Why bother commenting with this passive aggressive shite ?
Whatever else is going on doesn't take away the OPs problems.

YANBU OP. I don’t even hate my job, I quite like my job but I resent HAVING to be somewhere 8 hours a day 4-5 days a week. I think everyone has to work far too much. I have so many things I’d like to explore and stuff I’d like to do but...work. Bane of my life.

@Raxer26A

The OP doesnt have problems. She just doesn't want to work. That's fine if you have other sources of income.

She asked the question if she was being unreasonable or not.

I thought she was, so I'll post an answer expressing that seeing as it's an open forum.

Lots of other people have agreed with her but I'm ok with being in a minority.

If people want echo chambers, don't post on AIBU, what would be the point?

YANBU. I'm late 20s and hate it. My fear is continuing till my 60s/70s. Hoping for a speeding car or bus to wipe me out one day soon in a flash.

THisbackwithavengeance
Well it is a problem to her , so you are wrong it is a problem. As is a potential lack of other income.
My post was more aimed at the PA nature of your post , why the sorry at the end ? Are you sorry for her or for your opinion ?

I thought it was just me!

Right from my first job at 16 I hated having to get up early and go to work. I always worked in offices and didn't like the cliquey atmosphere. I used to spend every day looking at my watch to see if it was finishing time and I'm sure that made the days drag.

I, too, suffer with anxiety and don't handle stress well. I'm feeling anxious now remembering how I felt!

My health intervened in my late 40s and I had to stop working. Apart from a few colleagues I really don't miss a thing about it.

Its so hard to come to terms with work being part of your life, isn't it. All I can suggest is plan as much as possible so that your salary isn't necessary and you can give up, or become your own boss. Best wishes.

@THisbackwithavengeance

YABU.

I'm sure women working 12 hour days in Primark sweatshops in Bangladesh or breaking their backs in a paddy field in Vietnam would love your relatively easy life and your nice job.

You are whinging.

Sorry.

Ah here, this is ridiculous - so nobody should ever complain about anything because someone, somewhere has it worse?? Such nonsense.

OP, maybe you could think about going to college - would you get funding for a degree? If you study something you enjoy, then you could get a related job and it might not be so bad.

There's another word for this feeling guys...LAZINESS.

@qualitygirl

There's another word for this feeling guys...LAZINESS.

Wrong. I'm not lazy I've worked since I was 16 and worked my way up to a good job. But I just do not enjoy it. I've only really liked one job but it was only a two year contract so unfortunately had to leave. It's hard to get I to a company, feel like you belong there and become a family with your colleagues. I've only felt that in one or two jobs. But being lazy doesn't equate to it. We just don't like working!

OP, you sound enthusiastic in your reply to the post about screenwriting and it being a 'complete dream'. Ever thought about trying that? It might just be the work that you don't hate doing...!
DISCLAIMER I suspect it wouldn't be easy; but it might turn out to be what you love.

Although I like my job, here are days when I’d happily be a house wife and sort the house out. I’ve got to a level in my job I’m happy with and have no desire to take on more responsibility and stress just want to do what I do well.

Sometimes when I’m just not feeling it I joke to my DP and say “we burnt our bras for this?!”

I know it’s not very feminist of me but there ya go 🤣

I don't have a problem with authority and am actually very compliant but I also hated every single job I've had. Its not fair that just to live you are forced to waste your life at work doing menial crap with people you don't particularly like for the majority of your time. You just get to go home eat sleep and then do the same crap again the next day.

Let the robots take our jobs I say. The robots can do the work and we can get on with doing all the creative and innovative stuff we can’t do when we’re a ‘slave to the dollar’ etc. (I’m joking, well sort of 🤣)

Work can be a massive PITA. BUT I get so much out of working that I can't hate it, yes I hate getting up early in the morning and leaving my lovely warm house to drive to the station but working gives me a sense of purpose, confidence, and, rightly or wrongly, it makes me feel good about myself (most of the time!).

I have had spells of not working before and it ain't all its cracked up to be! Once the novelty of not having to get up at the crack of dawn wore off, I found it lonely, isolating and boring. I didn't have as much to say to my DH as usual (you usually can't shut me up). I also lost a bit of respect for myself to be completely honest.

We are having IVF in the next couple of months and I know I would hate to be a SAHM, despite my loathing of getting up in the morning I know from not working before that I would get quite down without a job to go to. It's just the way I am.

Also, there is nothing like that Friday feeling (even WFH!)

Could you maybe do childminding? You mention having a 3 year old .Maybe look into some courses? Life is short and its horrible having to dread each day .What about cleaning .That way you would be your owb boss .It seems ironic that after Feminism ,comes waves of people disliking their jobs!

Laziness is nothing to do with it. Most of the replies here are from people holding down jobs. They just don’t enjoy it and it’s ok to say that.

Some people thrive on routine, getting out of the home, mixing with colleagues etc. That’s why they’ve hated wfh. But we are not all the same. Some of us do not thrive on that, and it actually affects us mentally. My happiest days were spent at home with young DC. Crafting, baking, taking picnics to the park. For others, it’s their idea of hell.

I gained a career through necessity. It was a field I was interested in but pointless targets, excessive paperwork, ridiculous policies etc ruined it. I will never “love” it, I don’t think such a job exists for me. I also think some people go too far the other way and love their job so much they have no life or identity outside that. I wouldn’t want to be like that either.

I hate not having the choice between working or not. I have friends who are married to men they hardly like just so they can live off his money. I don't fancy that either. I guess i should start doing the lottery.

Work,routine,all of us at some point have grumbled about it,hated it,resented it.
Consider this if you will; As soon as your life changes,suddenly,it is impacted in a negative way you never saw coming,then you long for the routine,you miss the routine,you miss the freedom of being able,to be blessed,to be able to get up off a chair or bed and to walk.To be able to do routine things.
Count your blessings every day and be happy you are alive every morning.🙏🌼

ADHD and possible autism here. Easily distracted, hate "peoply" stuff as I'm an awkward communicator (why just so many MEETINGS?!!), panic at deadlines and find it hard to assimilate information. Only recently diagnosed.

But yes, this is why I hate working. I may present as functioning, but I'm really not. There are so many layers and barriers for me in what would appear to most as normal situations where a manager asks you to do something. The trying to process the verbal info, scribble down instructions, work out deadlines, navigate nuances, etc. Failed so many times here over the years.

And did I mention I hate meetings?

I became jaded young when realising working meant not having time or energy for hobbies after a working day, and it took me too long to realise that not everyone has been constantly almost flu-like exhausted and an emotional wreck after many working days.

I fail as an employee and I wouldn't know what to do for myself as I don't even know what I'm good at. It's frustrating.