I am on the same page as @NoatheQueen. And some others on here are completely missing the point.
A lot of attractive people DON’T assume the bad treatment is because of their looks. They figure it out after a true friend tells them what’s happening.
I had no idea for many many years that the bad treatment of me was because of my looks. I thought it was because I was: dull, nasty, up myself, rude, too confident, too quiet... you name it. Which is why some of us have suffered self-esteem problems as a result. You see people don’t ever want you to know they are treating you badly because of your looks (might give you a big head) so they don’t say this directly. They just try and take away your confidence by being awful to you in general.
Some examples of common and repeated events as a teenager:
Being told I have too much make up on and should take some off- (when I had less than everyone else)
That dress isn’t appropriate no one else is dressing up and I have bad taste in clothes (then same girls wear similar clothes)
Being excluded all of a sudden and more than anyone else.
Being told you’re flirting and coming on to people when you’re not
More comments about weight, skin than anyone else : look, look, she finally has a zit!!
Are you on a diet? You don’t eat enough, that’s why your skinny, you don’t eat anything. I ate normally. No one else’s dietary habits were scrutinised.
It was exhausting standing up to it all the time and many girl friends just had to be dropped as they wouldn’t stop. Sadly it happened so often I just ended up being friends with more boys than girls (boys didn’t do it) which obviously made me even more hated.
One girl in our group just suddenly started being mean, talked over me, rolling eyes every time I said something, always biting back with nasty comments. I was so confused and hurt and another friend pulled me aside and said “it’s because xx(her boyfriend) said you were really pretty and now she doesn’t like you”
If that friend hadn’t done that I would have thought it was because of me as a person. There were plenty of times similar things happened I wasn’t pulled aside so I genuinely thought it was just me.
More overt bullying from non- friends:
Being told “I’m going to ruin your night”and a drink thrown in my face completely randomly in a bar.
My friends overheard a group of girls at a party saying they were going to set light to my hair with a lighter because it was too nice and that would serve me right. I left the party.
In my 20s I got dropped by a friend and when I asked her what I’d done she openly told me it was because I got too much attention from men and it made her jealous and insecure and she didn’t want to deal with it anymore. At least she told me the truth so I didn’t doubt myself in other ways.
I was asked to stop talking to a male colleague by another female colleague as it was “really upsetting xxxx” who was their ex and I should “stop deliberately pissing women off by getting attention from men”
As I mentioned in a previous post women still exclude me now due to not wanting me around their husbands. Even though I’m married with kids.
I compensated by becoming a people pleaser -trying to be agreeable, make others feel good about themselves, not rock the boat, try and shrink as much as possible.
Luckily I have come through that and am much more confident in myself for who I am as a person.
I feel in a good space now, I feel very lucky to still be a little bit attractive and see that there are many advantages, but not so much that it’s a burden like it used to be when I was young. My personality is now able to shine and I am more confident and can cope with any bitchiness more easily as it just doesn’t happen as often.