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To have pomped my horn?

260 replies

Friedmushroom · 13/04/2021 23:24

Will try and keep this quick Grin but I’m so annoyed by the car park stand off I’ve just had that I need to know AIBU?

So, I’ve just been parked up in a dark car park, in a dark coloured car, no lights on. Another car pulls up and starts to reverse into the space right next to me, which is a disabled spot so huuuuge, and with plenty of other spaces around. Car reverses at a funny angle, at speed, and VERY close to my car, so close both passenger and me think it’s going to make contact.

I pomp my horn, car keeps coming so I lean on horn. Driver peers round at me shouting and gesticulating. She finishes parking (with me and passenger both wincing), winds window down and starts having a go.

Apparently I’m BU to have pomped as she has reversing cameras so knew I was there. My stand point is; you were literally an inch away from my car (when there’s two whole empty spaces to play with), I don’t know you have cameras, I was warning you that I was there. Car accidents happen every single day so I was making sure you didn’t hit me. She thought this was a ridiculous point and can obviously drive properly as she has passed her test Hmm, “people wouldn’t pass their test if they didn’t know how to park”.

I’m so annoyed by her attitude, but she clearly thought I was completely ridiculous. I think it would have been ridiculous for me to have sat in my car and just allowed her to reverse into it. So Mumsnet, AIBU?

OP posts:
CounsellorTroi · 14/04/2021 09:27

@SmiledWithTheRisingSun

Surely you honked?
Surely on MN that depends on whether or not she’d had a shower within the last half hour?
Nightfeedwatcher · 14/04/2021 09:30

This has made my morning 😂 pomped

Topseyt · 14/04/2021 09:31

Pomp was a euphemism for fart when I was growing up (as was Trump).

Does your car horn make farting sounds? Or did you stand in the dark car park and let rip a huge fart to make the other driver aware of your presence? 🤣

BertramLacey · 14/04/2021 09:32

Pretty sure you aren’t supposed to use it when stationary though.

You can if you think someone's about to hit you. Rule 112, you MUST not use the horn when stationary, 'except when another road user poses a danger.' You should never use it aggressively, but only to warn of your presence.

And not around animals, unless you're a farmer moving livestock in which case it is apparently fine to beep away, regardless of the horse and rider now doing some fantastic elevated dressage moves the other side of the hedge because of your cows, and your continual pomping.

DoingItMyself · 14/04/2021 09:39

I live in Lancashire and we never 'pomp' our horn. Not even the one on the car.

'Pump' was the euphemism for 'fart'. Along with 'trump'.

Car horns can be honked, beeped or sounded. Anything else is unreasonable.

ElaborateSalad · 14/04/2021 09:47

Pomped 😂

dannydyerismydad · 14/04/2021 09:52

The well spoken tweedy old ladies of Oxfordshire "blast" their horns.

Sounds like that numpty definitely deserved a blasting.

KurtWilde · 14/04/2021 09:56

Never heard the word pomped before but I'm definitely adding it to my vocabulary now 😂

ShowOfHands · 14/04/2021 10:01

I've messaged my mate from Lancashire and she has never heard of pomped either. We both agree that beeped, peeped, honked, bibbed, parped, blasted, tooted, sounded are common parlance but never have we ever, "pomped".

HerMammy · 14/04/2021 10:03

POMPED 🤣🤣

harriethoyle · 14/04/2021 10:03

@Alloftheboys

Read the title and thought “shouldn’t this be moved to the sex/relationships forum?”
HAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!
MaMaD1990 · 14/04/2021 10:09

Adopting the use of 'pomped' now! She sounds a bit uptight and I wouldn't say you were unreasonable. People tend to think they are fantastic drivers and don't like to be criticised so you probably just touched a nerve. Keep pomping away!

Foolintherain · 14/04/2021 10:17

I don't live in Lancashire. 'pomped your horn' would be used where I live without people crying laughing and spitting their tea out.

MintyMabel · 14/04/2021 10:19

Surely one tooted their horn.

YABU. It pisses me off if people do this. I know what I’m doing, I’m not going to hit your car. And she’s allowed to choose which space to park in. It doesn’t matter where other spaces are.

riotlady · 14/04/2021 10:32

I’m from Northumberland and would say pomped! That’s the sound it makes! Never heard of bibbed though

BertramLacey · 14/04/2021 10:33

YABU. It pisses me off if people do this. I know what I’m doing, I’m not going to hit your car. And she’s allowed to choose which space to park in. It doesn’t matter where other spaces are.

The trouble is, other people can't tell just from looking at you that you are in fact Ayrton Senna reincarnated. All we can see is someone reversing very quickly, very close to the car. So the choice is, assume you are in fact World's Best Driver, sit there and possibly get hit, or assume you're just some wally who thinks they can drive better than they can, and toot at you.

Given that there is hard evidence that most people overestimate their driving abilities, it is safest to assume some numpty is about to reverse into you, and act accordingly en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illusory_superiority#Driving_ability

RB68 · 14/04/2021 10:33

horn is to indicate you are there - not unreasonable at all.

Squeejit · 14/04/2021 10:37

Lancastrian pomper here. I had no idea it was funny 😆

Covidbegone · 14/04/2021 10:39

I thought the title suggested a very different thread 😂😂😂

JanuaryJonez · 14/04/2021 10:46

I'm going for a long drive today - can't wait to start pomping! Grin

Nightbear · 14/04/2021 10:54

I love learning new regional words for stuff. I went to school in Lancashire and I’ve never heard it but bibbing your horn is something I’ve heard a lot. A few miles can make a big difference.

luckylavender · 14/04/2021 10:57

'Limped?!'

CandyLeBonBon · 14/04/2021 10:57

Yanbu op. I'd have done the same - she was probably just blustering to hide embarrassment.

Am LOVING 'Pomping' though.

Although I did read it as pimp my horn which probably has a whole other meaning! 😂

RandomLondoner · 14/04/2021 11:01

Definitely reasonable to take pre-emptive action against anyone parking near you. I once parked my car close to the entrance at the airport and had two people dinged me within the space of 15 minutes, luckily no damage.

First person was a mini-cab, drover forwards into the space in front of me, wasn't bothered by the trolley that was already in the space, as apparently perfectly happy to shunt it out of the way by hitting it at speed with his front bumper. "Oh sorry", he said, when he noticed that there was someone sitting in the car he shunted it into.

Second was a guy in an SUV who pulled into the space next to me, again at speed, and immediately swung his drivers door open so it hit my car.

I guess the moral is don't park close to the entrance at the airport, there are lots of useless wankers in too much of a hurry.

BIoodyStupidJohnson · 14/04/2021 11:07

I'm from Burnley and I don't think I've ever heard anyone say 'pomped'. Is it something you do just before you have a joysexrenovation? Grin

That's the wonder of Lancashire though, you can have an almost entirely different set of expressions from one part of it to another. What's standard in Claret-land quite often sounds like Martian in Clitheroe.