To have pomped my horn?

[Friedmushroom]

Will try and keep this quick but I’m so annoyed by the car park stand off I’ve just had that I need to know AIBU?

So, I’ve just been parked up in a dark car park, in a dark coloured car, no lights on. Another car pulls up and starts to reverse into the space right next to me, which is a disabled spot so huuuuge, and with plenty of other spaces around. Car reverses at a funny angle, at speed, and VERY close to my car, so close both passenger and me think it’s going to make contact.

I pomp my horn, car keeps coming so I lean on horn. Driver peers round at me shouting and gesticulating. She finishes parking (with me and passenger both wincing), winds window down and starts having a go.

Apparently I’m BU to have pomped as she has reversing cameras so knew I was there. My stand point is; you were literally an inch away from my car (when there’s two whole empty spaces to play with), I don’t know you have cameras, I was warning you that I was there. Car accidents happen every single day so I was making sure you didn’t hit me. She thought this was a ridiculous point and can obviously drive properly as she has passed her test , “people wouldn’t pass their test if they didn’t know how to park”.

I’m so annoyed by her attitude, but she clearly thought I was completely ridiculous. I think it would have been ridiculous for me to have sat in my car and just allowed her to reverse into it. So Mumsnet, AIBU?

[Tzimi]

I suppose "pomp" comes from pump, from the days when horns had a big rubber bulb that you squeezed to make the sound?

[Sparklingbrook]

I nearly had to pomp yesterday. Why are hospital parking spaces so narrow? The driver managed to park the end after much in and out but it was close, and I had to drive forward for my friend to get in the car.

[Localocal]

I have a reversing camera and have been "pomped" at (love it) before. You know exactly how far away you are and can be very close without hitting someone. I understand, though, that it's disconcerting for others, who may not know that this is a thing, or that I have one. So I give them a little wave and it's all good. You were not being unreasonable to pomp - better safe than sorry. They could have just said - "didn't mean to alarm you" and left it at that.

[Tzimi]

No, not being unreasonable at all. Personally, I'd be grateful if someone beeped at me (or even better pomped their horn) if I was getting too close to them without realising.

[Yorkshiretolondon]

Omg my total pet hate.... why oh why do some people feel they have to parked right next to you when the car park is empty?????!!!!!! Cars aren’t pack animals!
I’d have done more then ‘pumped’ my horn! I may even have added a few choice words myself!

[jentinquarantino20]

I can’t believe people are laughing at pomped haha I always say that, I’m Lancashire too.

Maybe the pomp just startled her and rattled her cage.

[ALongHardWinter]

My new word for the day. Pomped. Love it!

[SEMPA1234567]

@Ginuwine I’m not sure if you read everything I wrote! I said she was NOT being unreasonable to beep if she thought a car was going to hit her! If the person hadn’t seen her then beeping would have been the right thing to do and would have probably avoided an accident.

However sometimes it’s good to chill and see things from the others persons perspective. They didn’t actually hit her car and it can’t be proved they would have if she didn’t beep at them, so they might not be a bad driver at all and were perfectly aware that her car was there before she beeped at them! You’re making an assumption based on very little facts!

I’m just saying if I was parking and someone was beeping their horn at me it certainly wouldn’t help! (Assuming I had already seen them! 😂)

If we all just were a little kinder and more relaxed beeping at someone to alert them of your presence wouldn’t be a problem! There was no need for the driver to be rude to this lady, they could just have had a civil conversation! Neither person knew what the other was thinking when they were beeping/parking, so why all the stress?

[Km06]

[quote Youngatheart00]@Umbongoumbongo999

Now having a little chuckle to myself imagining someone watching someone slow motion collide with their own car and farting loudly in shock 🤣[/quote]
Now I am to 🤣

[MrsBobDylan]

@Billandben444 I am a regular at The Lister - they also change the direction of the up and down flow circa floor 2 which often catches people out.

I haven't been Listered (yet) but the New QE11 down the road left a street light standing in their new car park and I swung the side of my car into as I reversed out of a space. £650's worth of damage

[Rosewood017]

@Jericha

Just hear to say bravo to *@Rosewood017* for her comment.

😂 thank you @Jericha

[Jericha]

Here obviously, not hear. Tut.

[Jericha]

Just hear to say bravo to @Rosewood017 for her comment.

[Billandben444]

To those who say just use your mirrors - that would be useless in the Lister Hospital multi storey in Stevenage where all the 'edge barriers' are about 18" off the ground and totally invisible when backing into a space (or coming out at an angle). All the local bodyshops make decent money from cars that have been Listered.

[TomHardyAndMe]

@BackforGood

Why would you need the engine running to have your lights on ?

So as not to run the battery down.

Illegal to leave engine idling whilst parked, so no lights?

Maybe they didn’t want to dazzle anyone.

I wouldn’t sit there with my lights on. How weird.

[Notapheasantplucker]

I'm here 10 pages in to say...pomped I've never heard that one before. I say beeped or bibbed the horn.

[Rosewood017]

My Mother nearly reversed into me once when I was parked in her drive and she was leaving. She hadn't expected me to be there.

I watched her edge closer to my car and she is normally very good at driving. I thought wtf is she doing? So I gave her a pomp (have I used that right?).

She said after, thank God I beeped her as she would have scraped both cars!

In conclusion, I don't see nothing wrong with a little pomp to save a grind.

[BackforGood]

Why would you need the engine running to have your lights on ?

[Ginuwine]

@SEMPA1234567

YWNBU to beep if you genuinely thought the car was going to hit you, that’s what the horns for.

However looking at it from the other cars perspective, if someone beeped me while I was trying to park it might put be off a bit as I would be preoccupied thinking about what I was doing wrong! (However I’m not a very confident parker!)

I definitely wouldn’t get out the car and start having a go at you though! Think the problem was more with how you both dealt with each other after the pomp, rather than the pomp itself!

How on Earth is it a problem to "put someone off" crashing into you?

So @Friedmushroom is expected to sit there, let this person's shit parking play out, get bumped into...... and then run the risk that this person could walk off, deny liability...

... all to avoid this person being distracted??

This site is beyond understanding for me.

The person parking badly is at fault.

They should learn to park.

Then maybe when they're about to hit someone else's car? They don't have to worry about horns being sounded.

[Ginuwine]

@Toomuchtrouble4me

Honked.
And yes, YABU.
All she did was park, she didn’t hit your car, you’d honked once but not happy with that you sat with your hand on the horn. I’d have told you to F Off as well.

See this is the problem with some folk. OP has very clearly explained the other driver was about to hit her car.

Imagine this was you. Would you be happy for that person to hit your car? Would you do something about it perhaps?

Has this country become so nuts that we'd rather avoid the perceived passive aggression of a horn, used correctly to avoid a crash however slow it is?

Madness to me

[NearlyAlwaysInsane]

Is pomping even legal?

[Toomuchtrouble4me]

Honked.
And yes, YABU.
All she did was park, she didn’t hit your car, you’d honked once but not happy with that you sat with your hand on the horn. I’d have told you to F Off as well.

[TomHardyAndMe]

@Hertsgirl10

But why sit in a dark car in a dark car park 😂 who sits in car parks?

Drama mums. ;).

I can sit for hours/till midnight with a flask of tea and a book on a theatre tech run/dress rehearsal. ;)

[FizzyTarte]

@Friedmushroom

‘Pomped’ is fairly common up here (Lancashire) wonder if it’s a regional thing?

Lived my whole life in Lancashire yet never pomped. Am I missing out?

[Shell4429]

I was waiting to pull out of a car park (cars from further along were driving out so I had to wait). I saw that the car in a space to the right had reverse lights on but didn’t think the driver would pull out, because I was there, in his rear view mirror, not able to move. When he did reverse into the side of my car I had tried to ‘pomp’ my horn but was in such a panic and it happened so quickly. When he got out it turned out to be one of my customers! He was very apologetic and paid for the repair.