To expect my partner to be at home when I get back from treatment

[Wontgoquietly]

I have cancer and due to start treatment in around a week. 6 months of chemo and I'm understandably very nervous and apprehensive.

My DP hasn't been at any of my appointment etc due to covid and work patterns and that's fine. However on the day of treatment my stepchild has training for a hobby that he is very talented at and DP is also very involved with.

SC has been scouted and invited to a semi pro training academy which they have been attending for a.couple of weeks. It's out of town and late in the evening. It is however close to my DP mothers so they have been staying over there on that evening each week and the following day they pursue the hobby outside of the semi pro academy.

I have asked DP if this is to be the pattern moving forward and he has said yes, this is how he plans to work it.

That leaves me home alone after a gruelling day of chemo and for most of the following day.

AIBU to expect dp to speak with stepchild mum and ask her if she can facilitate the hobby and training during this time so my DP can be here to support me?

I feel like an ogre dragging him away from his child and a mutual hobby they both enjoy so much but am going to need support over these next few months.

[Enough4me]

Really sorry to hear your news on clot, but pleased you have good support - he stepped up! .

My blood tests came back clear but lump being scanned in May. Even having tests is stressful so I felt for you starting treatment and now you've had an early massive hurdle. Definitely not a walk in the park unless there's a tornado nearby!

[magnummum]

Thanks for taking the time to update OP. Thinking of you

[Alternista]

Oh OP, I’m so sorry to read that. Hope it all goes well tomorrow and glad your partner has stepped up.

Health stuff is, as someone else said, a complete roll of the dice. You just can’t predict who will get off lightly and who will be felled by the same treatment, and anyone who suggests it’s anything other than luck is talking out of their arse.

Keep us posted OP. Thinking of you.

[Theluggagerules]

Hope your treatment has been able.to go ahead