House move tomorrow and at my wits end with exH

[Housemovestress]

Anyone who has moved house recently please tell me if AIBU.
Background - I moved out of the family home with dc’s 18 months ago and now divorced. I moved out because exH wouldn’t leave and it was untenable us living together and certainly not in the children’s best interests - he has form for verbal abuse etc.
House sale is going through tomorrow and o have bent over backwards to help him, found him a short term let whilst he waits for his new house purchase to go through, given him a full garage to store his furniture etc . He has assured me that he had a van booked for a final load in the morning.
This eve he tell me his van isn’t coming now until 4pm. We should be completing around midday. I have absolutely no control over him and I am scared there will be a big scene if I turn up as he would think nothing of screaming at me in front of our buyers.
The house will be theirs and he will still have stuff there for hours after - I am completely mortified. How would you feel if you were our buyers? I don’t know if I should ring our buyer in the morning and pre-warn her, exH is telling me to keep out of it, it’s his house move - however it is legally me who is selling it!
I am stressed

Result! 👏👏👏

Congratulations

Brilliant OP. Hope you get a great sleep.

Great news!

Well done! Here hoping you are free of that idiot now. Good luck for the future!

Brilliant update. Delighted for you.

Thank God for that! Sleep well!

I would just say that you will leave him to it but that would have checked and there may be late fees and that they will come out of his share not yours and then ignore him.

This! And you pay the new buyers' removal men a handsome amount to move his stuff into the garden if necessary, and take that amount away from his settlement too. He really won't want to argue with the muscled removal men...
What a knob he is.

Glad its all done. Now you can relax. You will never have to do this again!

@Housemovestress

Thanks all - all done now, buyers were pretty relaxed according to a text from my stepdaughter who went to help. I have kept well out of the way and they have my number if they need. Solicitor and estate agent were also pretty laid back given it’s one van load in one room it hasn’t slowed the buyers moving in, looking forward to relaxing tonight as I barely slept last night.

Yay!

Good.

Glad for you. Get a good night's sleep!

I have absolutely no doubt that people have said this but I want to chuck in my two penneth.

Explain to the buyers. Explain your situation, explain him, explain his behaviour and extricate yourself from any shit he may try tomorrow. That way the only person he embarrasses is himself. That and a welcome gift. That way they’ll know you’re the nice, decent reasonable one, which serves no purpose other than to make you feel better, but still. It’ll help with your stress levels.

Oh! Sorry! I read all your posts OP, but the last one.

Brilliant news

So glad for your update OP 🍾 💐

I’ve just remembered when we lived overseas DH returned to the UK to sell our house. Buyers turned up late, about 10pm and said the solicitors had messed up the payment and could they have the keys now as they money would definitely arrive in the morning. He called me to ask my opinion. I told him no fucking way because we would lose the house. Obvs I didn’t know that but he was on the point of giving in because “it’s late and they have nowhere to sleep”. To cut a long story short, when DH got in touch with phone company about the potential CCJ 2 years later they were very happy to locate the people who had run up bills and scarpered for about 10 years.

DH in his trusting nature had left the transfer papers for the phone/internet in the kitchen for them to sign and post.

All his stuff in Front garden with a tarpaulin if you feel so inclined

So glad it went well @Housemovestress

Brilliant! And you're shot of him.

Since it was all done by 3pm, I guess he was lying to you about the van being booked for 4pm?

Congratulations on being free from the twat! PS remember to check credit reports in a few months and ask to be financially disassociated from him if required.