To ask why you had more than one child?

[HarleyQuinn21]

Hello,

I'm only posting here for traffic but my baby is 10 weeks old so it may be all the hormones but I'm thinking I'd quite like another one and it just got me thinking about other families so if you don't mind answering why did you have more than one child? Was it planned or not? What were the age gaps between your children and how did you find it, would you recommend the same age gap? How did you find going from one child to two? And what are your personal pros and cons to having more than one child?

I tend to overthink and want to be prepared before making any solid decisions plus I can't sleep so thought it's be an interesting nearly 4am thread.

I wanted so much to have a sibling to talk to growing up
Friends didn’t understand my family life so I had no one to talk to.
If I had one child then I wanted 2 or 3

DD was going to be an only child . She was so much fun we thought we'd have another child. DD always wanted a sister and she got her wish 3 years 10 months between DDs and they are the best of friends. Just love their relationship, it is the best

Because I had twins

I had a second child just because my hormones demanded it

First child was really hard work so there's nearly seven year gap because I couldn't imagine doing it any sooner.

DC1 was adamant that they didn't want a sibling, and used to remind me to use contraception . They were devastated when I told them I was pregnant.

DC2 was an easy child who adored her older sibling and fitted in easily with whatever DC1 did. So the family still mostly revolved around DC1. DC1 eventually said grudgingly, "I still wish you hadn't gone and had another baby, but if you had to do it, this is the best possible baby in all the world." Now an adult and recently repeated this sentiment - they still would have preferred to grow up as an only child. They love each other to bits, however.

And I personally feel it did DC1 a world of good by teaching them to think about someone else. I think I had been a little too focused on that one child's needs, which wasn't healthy.