Ex H is like this, he's always "really really busy keeping everything spinning" - tbf he runs his own business, and now (after 30 years) is also having to wash his own socks and cook his own meals. But, he's desperate for validation, mainly from his DF who died a few years back, who was in the same industry, and H is trying so hard to "beat" his DF by being more successful, so that his DF will finally say "well done". Which obviously can't happen, so the "busy busy busy" carries on, with more and more industry specific additional roles which everyone has to be impressed by (when no-one knows what they actually mean, and even if they do, don't really care).
Final straw for me was, in couples counselling, he ran through a list of his professional achievements three times, and his descriptions of our DC to the therapist were only what degrees/jobs they have, and anything about me, was only how it impacted on him.
OP, I only say this to warn you what could happen in 20 years time, when your DC doesn't know their dad cos he spends all his time either at work, or thinking about work, and has no idea what they're like, what they like doing/eating, who their friends are, even things like favourite colour or music genre. Two of my DC have real issues connecting with their dad, he doesn't know how to talk to them, and they don't want to spend any time with him. And it all traces back to the bloody business taking over his life!