Page 17 | What would you say if partner made you this offer

Thenanny23 · 2021-04-07T21:23:58+00:00

Put yourself in this scenario- Childless married couple, your OH has invited a (single sex) group of friends to stay at your house to celebrate a friends birthday. They suggest that you might want to not be in the house over the weekend as it may change the dynamic of the gathering and may be noisy/irritating for you. They offer to book and pay for you to stay in an Air B&B in the nearest city centre for 2 nights. Would you be offended by the suggestion?

CustardySergeant · 09/04/2021 23:08

@di2004

Odd, in fact it’s very odd indeed. Has he not grown up yet?

What do you mean by that? We don't even know yet how he responded to the OP's offer.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2021 23:23

😂😂😂

Mumofsons87 · 09/04/2021 23:25

Make it a hotel with a pool, throw in dinner and the place better be spotless when I get back and I am all for that! He would want to be some eejet to be up to no good in his own house with presumably neighbours next door etc. Now if your house is in the sticks and they want to use it because of that I'd be suspicious lol

huuskymam · 09/04/2021 23:52

I'd be looking for a nice hotel with spa treats paid for.

RachelsHoliday21 · 10/04/2021 00:18

Haven't rtft but we did this - a long term group of friends went to stay with a friend and her dh kindly moved out for the weekend and we had a ball. He wasn't offended.

Ddot · 10/04/2021 06:06

It's a group of woman wanting to talk woman stuff, reminiscing about shit.
Why would you want to hang about, go have a lovely break by yourself. Watching a group of woman get pissed and dolly dancing around the living room would bore you rigid.

Anits52 · 10/04/2021 07:06

We have girls nights in my friends house once or twice a year (pre COVID) and her husband leaves, although he stays with a friend (who happens to be my husband). We definately dont feel guilty and we all need it!!!

BillMasen · 10/04/2021 09:21

@BadNomad

Haha so much drive-by posting.

Read the opening post (but only the opening post)
Respond (based on assumptions and bias)
Leave and never return (or return and realise you were a tit but keep silent)

I’d love for one of them to come back once they realise it’s a man being asked to leave for a woman’s friends, but they never do...

Bugbabe1970 · 10/04/2021 09:40

I'd be off like a shot
And I'd ask him to pay for a friend to come with me too!
To many suspicious people here. They just want a laugh without the women around.
I love my girls weekends! Doesn't mean anything dodgy is going on!

CrankyFrankie · 10/04/2021 09:52

Ah well if OP’s capable of replacing ‘you’ with ‘he’ then we’re grand

sweeneytoddsrazor · 10/04/2021 10:12

I keep coming back to this thread, it is fabulous reading

Bul21ia · 10/04/2021 10:31

Did you OH ask you first before inviting his friends over?

SleepingStandingUp · 10/04/2021 10:48

@Bul21ia

Did you OH ask you first before inviting his friends over?

No he didn't. He definitely did NOT ask.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 10/04/2021 11:08

Has anyone suggested a hotel with spa and pool yet?

Carryonlikeaporkchop · 10/04/2021 11:19

@Bul21ia

Did you OH ask you first before inviting his friends over?

Why would he? He isn't the one inviting his friends over.

bemusedmoose · 10/04/2021 11:29

It's rude - they are essentially kicking you out of your own house to have a bloke's weekend! OH thinks offering an air B&B will soften the blow.

I'd be partly pissed off, it's rude to arrange without asking you first. But the idea of a nice break... I would make it clear that you are choosing the B&B (don't want somewhere cheap and manky, because let's face it guys are going for the cheapest they can find) and you want spending money so you can have a good time. Also make it clear you arent coming home to clear up after their weekend. That's if you agree to go that is.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/04/2021 11:33

It's rude - they are essentially kicking you out of your own house nah, I think she's expectes to host it to have a bloke's weekend! Only the ones they're paying OH thinks offering an air B&B will soften the blow. Let's hope he falls for it eh??

don't want somewhere cheap and manky, because let's face it guys are going for the cheapest they can find 1. Well that's ok, it his choice 2.date better men

Also make it clear you arent coming home to clear up after their weekend she bloody better clean up afterwards!!

Berrengaria · 10/04/2021 11:33

Let me get this right. HE has asked his friends to stay without involving you in the invitation. Marriage is a partnership and never one member being the decision maker. I'm afraid I'd be very annoyed. There is such a thing as asking. I'd be very tempted to invite your friends but without the offer of a night or two in a hotel. I mean what are you going to do on your own in a hotel? Or has an offer to include one of your friends in the deal been made? No, I wouldn't be pleased at all, especially if I were to come back to a home that is a mess after a gaggle of men had been let lose in it. Shudder time.

CustardySergeant · 10/04/2021 11:33

bemusedmoose I suggest you read both of the OP's posts.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/04/2021 11:33

@Berrengaria

Let me get this right. HE has asked his friends to stay without involving you in the invitation. Marriage is a partnership and never one member being the decision maker. I'm afraid I'd be very annoyed. There is such a thing as asking. I'd be very tempted to invite your friends but without the offer of a night or two in a hotel. I mean what are you going to do on your own in a hotel? Or has an offer to include one of your friends in the deal been made? No, I wouldn't be pleased at all, especially if I were to come back to a home that is a mess after a gaggle of men had been let lose in it. Shudder time.

You got it wrong.

Ninkanink · 10/04/2021 11:34

@Berrengaria

Let me get this right. HE has asked his friends to stay without involving you in the invitation. Marriage is a partnership and never one member being the decision maker. I'm afraid I'd be very annoyed. There is such a thing as asking. I'd be very tempted to invite your friends but without the offer of a night or two in a hotel. I mean what are you going to do on your own in a hotel? Or has an offer to include one of your friends in the deal been made? No, I wouldn't be pleased at all, especially if I were to come back to a home that is a mess after a gaggle of men had been let lose in it. Shudder time.

Yeah, no.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 10/04/2021 11:35

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What would you say if partner made you this offer

Ninkanink · 10/04/2021 11:36

Let me be clear, lest I am misinterpreted: ‘Yeah, no’ is not some kind of agreement with your comment.

It’s yeah, no, you didn’t get that straight...

ZeroFuchsGiven · 10/04/2021 11:37

@Berrengaria

Let me get this right. HE has asked his friends to stay without involving you in the invitation. Marriage is a partnership and never one member being the decision maker. I'm afraid I'd be very annoyed. There is such a thing as asking. I'd be very tempted to invite your friends but without the offer of a night or two in a hotel. I mean what are you going to do on your own in a hotel? Or has an offer to include one of your friends in the deal been made? No, I wouldn't be pleased at all, especially if I were to come back to a home that is a mess after a gaggle of men had been let lose in it. Shudder time.

Head-Wall.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 10/04/2021 11:37

As others are surprised at number of women not trusting their partners being alone.

I am surprised at number of women mentioning the mess. Imagine having so low standards you pick a men who can't put rubbish in a bin and wipe the surfaces... It wxplains a lot about this site tbh