Would you move in next door but one to your inlaws?

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Just that, really.

Nope

Not even next door but one city!

No. A thousand times no! I love them very much. Still absolutely no!

I'd prefer to be next door but one to my in-laws than my own mother TBH.

I feel awful saying that but at the same time I'm relieved to see at least one other person on this thread has said the same.

Not next door or on the same street. Next street down etc is fine.

Yes I would quite happily.

Possibly outing slightly - my in laws live 4 hours away but bought a second home a street away when I had DS. It has been an absolute godsend for everything from looking after DS when he was poorly and couldn't go to nursery, giving me a break on mat leave, and my parents using it when they visit. They're here around 1 week per month. But... all the time would drive me batty. And they aren't close enough to say "Ooh, where did you go at 8am on Sunday?" McDonalds, MiL. Don't judge.

The house directly opposite my in-laws is currently up for sale and they are desperate for us to buy it. I'd rather gouge out my own eyes. FiL is awful; racist, sexist, vile man. As things currently stand, we live about 10 mins drive away and see them weekly, which is far too much for my liking (strict lockdown was a godsend but even then, he phoned at least 4 times per day). He has no boundaries and twice invited himself and MiL on holiday with us where we didn't get a moment of privacy. I cannot bear the thought of living so close. MiL otoh is lovely and trails around in his shadow looking embarrassed but terrified to speak up. In a reality where he is no longer around, I'd happily live near her.

Totally depends on your situation. My in-laws lived literally just round the corner until FIL needed a care home. Since then MiL has lived with us. So I would.

My parents I wouldn’t have lived anywhere near (my GP’s brought me up and my Nana lived with ex and I for a couple of years til she needed more care than she was prepared to allow me to give)

Depends on the in laws.

Rent - yes, possibly, if all are sane, reasonable people with an understanding of boundaries and husband not likely to go running back to mummy to sulk at the drop of a hat. If boundaries are crossed and too much "popping in" happens then you can escape relatively easily and quickly. Makes for easy access to family support if needed, be that babysitting, helping out after an op, plant watering, whatever. But you will automatically be the one expected to help the in-laws all the time as nearest, even if other relatives live close by. Swings and roundabouts really.

Buy - no way. Too hard to get away if it all goes pear shaped.

Yes, if the house was drop dead gorgeous. I would prefer the next street though.

I live round the corner from my parents and it's great. We're not in eachother's space at all. Don't call in unannounced etc. Often will go a couple of weeks without seeing eachother at all. I feel confident that my inlaws would be the same way.

I would absolutely hate living hours away from family and having to go and stay with them overnight. That would be awful.

Local family means cuppa and a chat then home whenever I feel like it.

My MIL moved next door to us at my instigation, she was a fabulous lady and never interfered. Built up an amazing bond with her grandsons too.

My Mum - never in a million years, she's an interfering pain even from 200 miles away.

DH and I very much agree we would live near my parents, equally we both agree we wouldn't want to live near his parents.

No. Mine live 3 hours ago and kep saying they will move by us. It gives me shivers

Not a chance in hell.

I recall as a child my mother's family, aunts, uncles, cousins occupied 15 of the 54 houses in the street, they all seemed to operate an open door policy, I got told off if I knocked at a door rather than walking straight in.

I’d rather flail the skin from my body and then slowly marinate myself in boiling Tabasco.

And I quite like my inlaws. In small doses.

Hahahahahaha! No. It’s be a constant stream of “so where do you go to at 11.04am on Sunday then?” from MIL, or “I see you’ve had another takeaway...” . There’d be lots of popping round when she gets bored, all visitors scrutinised, and then she’d be telling the neighbours all our comings and going’s. She’s lovely, and I’m happy to live a 10min drive away, but certainly not the same street. Mind you, my DM would be much the same since all my step dad does now is sleep...

Yes, I would. My inlaws are lovely. I probably would with my mum too. Having said that we do live over 3000 miles away, so maybe absence makes the heart grow fonder!

I think a 30 to 60 minute journey away seems about perfect for parents and inlaws. Then you don't need to do overnight visits but no one is in just popping round distance. Seeing parents daily or weekly or even monthly is alien to me, I totally lack the imagination to understand what it could be like.

Not a chance.

Yeah, I would

They only live about a two minute drive away anyway

No way!

Fuck no

Hell no. Same goes for my DPs. My Dsis moved two streets from us once. Was hideous. And I love her to bits.

No. Bit If distance is a good thing. We all live in the same county now. That's plenty.

Wouldn’t bother me as they have always had boundaries and we don’t use them for childcare so they wouldn’t be put upon.