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Would you move in next door but one to your inlaws?

202 replies

greybluehumpbackwhale · 07/04/2021 18:38

Just that, really.

OP posts:
LadyLolaRuben · 07/04/2021 19:37

Nope, no way, to any family

shittingthreeeyedraven · 07/04/2021 19:39

Fuck me, no way!!!

I can’t think of anything worse to be honest. I have to grit my teeth when they come over at the best of times. Lockdown was a real blessing in that respect.

(Also they have absolutely no taste and there is no way I would want to live anywhere they think is nice)

CeeceeBloomingdale · 07/04/2021 19:39

No way

Anycrispsleft · 07/04/2021 19:40

My inlaws are in the next but one country. That's usually close enough Grin

19thNamechange · 07/04/2021 19:41

I am 2 doors away from my FIL and I absolutely hate it. He turns up whenever he likes and it annoys the hell out of me. Can't do anything without him knowing, and he's always in his garden when I walk by. He's rascist and sexist and I can't stand him. OH doesn't want to move so I just have to put up with it.

Lockdownlumpy · 07/04/2021 19:42

I love my inlaws, they are amazing but I think we might love each other less if we were in each others pockets, so no.

RuthW · 07/04/2021 19:42

Not a chance!

piglet81 · 07/04/2021 19:42

Noooo. Wouldn’t want to live that close to any relatives!

TopTabby · 07/04/2021 19:47

My inlaws moved in over the road. It hasn't been too bad but not ideal. DH wasn't happy about it AT ALL.

TurquoiseDragon · 07/04/2021 19:48

Late ILs? No, I wouldn't have. Mil loved to talk about anyone, so she'd have been round all the time talking. Late FIL didn't have much to talk about.

My dad is also nosy, so he'd have been round all the time. DM, well, if she were still with us, she'd have wanted me there often for company.

And these are/were nice people. I'm just an introvert andd need my own space a lot of the time. But my ex, however, wouldn't have wanted to live anywhere near his or my parents. He had no time for his own parents, uness there was some benefit to him, and he didn't like my parents, probably because it seems they'd sussed him out years ago, and were waiting for me to leave him. They tried not to say anything becuase they were afraid it would push me further in his direction.

Oh well, water under the bridge now. Of the 6 people mentioned in this post, only dad and I are still alive, and nowadays, I've have dad living with me not just 3 doors down. But he's happy where he is right now.

SpiceRat · 07/04/2021 19:48

Absolutely but they’re wonderful and would respect our boundaries and not intrude or drop in unannounced. We used to live round the corner and I do miss having them so close. MIL mum used to live over the road from her but sadly she passed a few years ago.

My parents... probably not. I love them a lot but I think they would expect me to see them a lot more than I would want to.

autumnboys · 07/04/2021 19:49

No, nor to my own parents.

ImInStealthMode · 07/04/2021 19:53

Not a chance I'd live that close to either his parents or my own. No thanks.

I know someone who lives in the house next to her parents, but I don't think she's ever lived independently of either them or her DH.

DeadButDelicious · 07/04/2021 19:54

No.

I know people who have moved in next door to their parents and I think it's just a little too close for comfort.

I live a couple of streets away from my mum and that's close enough.

DeepThinkingGirl · 07/04/2021 19:55

Nope. I would’ve loved it if they weren’t so evil to me. Honestly.

As for my family, they proved to be nice to my husband and kids and earnt that. So yes. Very much.

ivfbabymomma1 · 07/04/2021 19:57

My parents live round the corner from me. We don't see each other every week or anything and it's incredibly handy for babysitting every so often! Wink

TroubleUsedToBeMyBusiness · 07/04/2021 19:58

No

Kaleidoscopecascade · 07/04/2021 19:58

God no couldn't even live that close to my own house parents.

HappyDaysToCome · 07/04/2021 20:00

Oh no no no no no. No no no no.

Good god. FIL would be round every 5 mins telling me about his bowel movements, asking me to look at his manky toenail, etc etc.

I’d be happy living that close to my mum, but DH certainly wouldn’t!

ShopTattsyrup · 07/04/2021 20:03

In laws are separated so FIL yes (nice bloke, friendly but quiet etc.) MIL no (lovely lady who we would never be able to get out of our house and I can vividly imagine vaulting the garden fence to get in Grin)

Needsomehope · 07/04/2021 20:03

Nope, absolutely no way. My in laws are neighbours not by choice (farmers) and it is living hell.

DinosaurDiana · 07/04/2021 20:03

Absolutely not.

iloveautumn3 · 07/04/2021 20:03

No way. My in-laws are living at ours now 😬

ladygindiva · 07/04/2021 20:04

Lol. Not quite the same but my dbs mil has just moved in about 100yds up the road from him and his family. But his mil is quite cool. I wouldn't, mines well meaning but bloody annoying 😂

MindBodyChocolate · 07/04/2021 20:05

MIL: maybe

My mum and dad: maybe, probably not

FIL: Christ no.