AIBU and what am I missing here?

[AccidentallyOnPurpose]

Two days ago DD had a nose bleed in the morning. Nothing massive, stopped after a minute of pressure all well and good.

Later she went on a walk with her friend and the friend's mum. Half an hour later mum rings and tells me DD has had a nose bleed. I told her she had one in the morning and she has wipes and tissues in her back pack and I can come and get her if she wants me to. Her entire tone changed and was very angry I didn't tell her and that it wasn't fair I let her deal with this and "if I had known..".Weird ,but fair enough.

Went to get DD, turn out the "nose bleed" was a couple of sneezes where DD's snot got mixed up with old blood so there were traces but not a full blown one. Friend's mum barely talked to me and when she did was to reiterate that I should've told her. I'm just explaining this because there was no mess for her to clean up, she didn't touch any blood or anything like that. DD sneezed(albeit in her arm not in a tissue) , saw and cleaned herself up.

Later on I sent her a message apologising , saying I didn't really think it was a big deal and asking if there's anything else going going on between the girls or with me that made her react that way.

This morning I got another ranty message about how I don't get it(it's true I really don't ) ,nothing else is going on and she can't believe I'm not taking this seriously. I broke her trust and I should've told her and that's that. At this point I just left it, I still don't get it and I'm not apologising again.

So AIBU? What am I missing?

She's a nut - serious overreaction

I would be angry with you too because if that happened to me whilst your daughter was in my care I would have shit myself!

I hope you would warn op that you react like this to a nosebleed? Shitting yourself in front of op's daughter could have left her traumatised!

Very strange. Forget her, she’s nuts.

@HunkyPunk

I would be angry with you too because if that happened to me whilst your daughter was in my care I would have shit myself!

I hope you would warn op that you react like this to a nosebleed? Shitting yourself in front of op's daughter could have left her traumatised!

My DD would definitely not deal with THAT mess 😬

Update ... kinda.

She messaged me to ask if I can look after her DD tomorrow as she has work and her husband who normally WFH is out in the actual office.

I suppose there's some trust left then.

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

Update ... kinda.

She messaged me to ask if I can look after her DD tomorrow as she has work and her husband who normally WFH is out in the actual office.

I suppose there's some trust left then.

Plot twist! It’s now a CF thread!

Also - not unreasonable at all op as a parent of a frequent 6 y/o nosebleeder who sorts herself out like it’s NBD.

Full disclosure - I’m also someone who would be inwardly bawking if another child in my care had a nosebleed but being as I am not unhinged I’d just think euw, then deal with it like an adult and promptly forget all about it.

"OK but I'm just warning you dd has a papercut and I had an eyelash in my eye earlier (now thankfully removed)"

@StealthPolarBear

"OK but I'm just warning you dd has a papercut and I had an eyelash in my eye earlier (now thankfully removed)"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This made me chuckle out loud!

@StealthPolarBear

"OK but I'm just warning you dd has a papercut and I had an eyelash in my eye earlier (now thankfully removed)"

@AccidentallyOnPurpose OP PLEEEEEASE send this ^ 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

But ott. It’s not like dds brains were falling out. It was just a nose bleed.
Maybe she doesn’t like blood...

@StealthPolarBear

"OK but I'm just warning you dd has a papercut and I had an eyelash in my eye earlier (now thankfully removed)"

So tempted

Ah so you were all the bad things yesterday but now she's wanting you to look after her DD? Um ...

She messaged me to ask if I can look after her DD tomorrow as she has work and her husband who normally WFH is out in the actual office.
What the fuck? I hope you ignored it/replied with 'Are you having a laugh?'

OP,

If she really was as angry and rude to you as you wrote I'm wondering why you are now being used for childcare?

She completely overreacted, repeatedly telling you that you didn't get it, and is now messaging like it never happened.

Are you absolutely desperate for this child to be your daughters friend?

Because you are setting yourself up to be spoken to like this again.

She was very rude to you, implying you were somehow negligent in not telling her, but now has somehow moved on from her angry lecturing because she needs a favour!

Bonkers 😂 please make sure when she drops her kid off you ask if anything eventful has happened that morning! Hiccups? How many bowel movements? They've not stubed a toe or anything else that you should be on guard about?

Suspicious behaviour. Maybe she is seeking revenge and is planning not to tell the OP her dd has an unusually strong gag reflex provoked by post nasal drip, making her prone to sudden puking episodes .

She’s nuts! Yanbu. You didn’t need to say anything. Wtf!

@Hellodarknessmyoldpal

Bonkers 😂 please make sure when she drops her kid off you ask if anything eventful has happened that morning! Hiccups? How many bowel movements? They've not stubed a toe or anything else that you should be on guard about?

She's not dropping her off as I told her we're busy. We're not

At least now she can have a real reason to be huffy.

I'm normally happy to help and the kid is lovely and no bother and I'm sure I'll have her over again at some point but the whole situation was so ridiculous I'm not ready yet to pretend it didn't happen.

I know it's petty but hey ho.

It’s not petty OP. I agree with you. Only I’d be telling her the real reason.

Well you managed to regain that lost trust pretty quickly!

She sounds absolutely bonkers. How embarrassing to admit as an adult you can't deal with a small child's nosebleed.

I'm gobsmacked at the number of posters on this thread who are saying they have never dealt with a nosebleed and would freak out if it happened when they were around.

I have been a trained first aider for most of my working life, which, incidentally has been spent mostly in schools so I have dealt with hundreds of nosebleeds. But even if that wasn't the case, I would have wanted to know what to do with my own children if the need arose. Don't most parents learn some basic first aid?

Well done OP.
Good for you.
Nothing petty about it at all.

She was unbelievably rude.

Perfectly ok to say she got a fright, but her reaction was offensive.

Her disproportionate reaction would make me wary of her having MY child.

It’s not petty at all...or if it is, I’m petty too because there’s no fucking way I’d be doing her favours right after that performance. I wouldn’t be so wet. Good for you.