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Original poster

Would you let teen ds go to centre parcs in this situation

298 replies

Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:11

Hi

Son is 14 if he can go Centre parcs in august with his boyfriend and boyfriends older brother and friends.

Older brother of boyfriend is 21.

I am not sure I feel comfortable with it, he thinks I’m being v unreasonable.

Back story - his sister has been v sick and there is no chance of having a break this year.
So would be nice for him to get away but are 21 year olds really responsible for 2 14 year old boys.

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Marriagegoingtoimplode · 03/04/2021 22:20

Not something I’d be comfortable with to be honest

thenightsky · 03/04/2021 22:21

Erm well so tech they are friends but I am 95 percent sure they are in a relationship

At 14? No.

needadvice54321 · 03/04/2021 22:21

I think it would depend on the 21 year old personally, how sensible are they? Are they likely to turn a blind eye and let your DS get stinking drunk?

I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with it myself

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Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:21

Thank you - he is in a bit of a strop with me after I said no at dinner: storming of saying it was unfair so as they are only 8 years younger than me 😂 but I think it’s a little bit different !

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Proudboomer · 03/04/2021 22:21

Hell would freeze over before I said yes to this.

Emeraldshamrock · 03/04/2021 22:22

Is he a mature 14 y.o.
Has he drank alcohol before? Would he sensible? If he is I'd allow it.
My only paranoid concerns would be the older boys sexually abusing them.
How long is it for?
If you're sure as you can be that the older boys are safe I'd let him for a few days max.

TokyoSushi · 03/04/2021 22:22

Another no from me! Too young, too many possibilities for things to go wrong!

HereLiveIAmNotACat · 03/04/2021 22:22

Not a chance

Tankflybosswalkjam · 03/04/2021 22:22

I wouldn’t let my 14 year old son go away with his boyfriend or girlfriend. Nope. No way. Let him strop.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 03/04/2021 22:22

Depends on the 21 year old, but probably not.

neroforte · 03/04/2021 22:23

@Emeraldshamrock

Is he a mature 14 y.o. Has he drank alcohol before? Would he sensible? If he is I'd allow it. My only paranoid concerns would be the older boys sexually abusing them. How long is it for? If you're sure as you can be that the older boys are safe I'd let him for a few days max.
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daisypond · 03/04/2021 22:23

Do you mean a day trip? Are the 21-year-olds responsible? I would say yes.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 03/04/2021 22:24

What does "in a relationship" even constitute at 14 years old anyway. Hmm

I wouldnt allow it and centre parcs won't allow a booking of a group like that anyway. They aren't stupid, it's a recipe for disaster.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 03/04/2021 22:24

@Troublewaters2021

Thank you - he is in a bit of a strop with me after I said no at dinner: storming of saying it was unfair so as they are only 8 years younger than me 😂 but I think it’s a little bit different !
8 years younger than who?
2021mumma · 03/04/2021 22:25

No. I doubt CP allow groups of young people to book. It’s not really a party place there are more fun places for young people to go

Cipot · 03/04/2021 22:25

No, definitely not.

Soontobe60 · 03/04/2021 22:26

Ive just checked their terms and conditions and it states that they do not accept stag/hen groups.

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Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:27

Centre parcs would allow it.
As long as each accommodation has someone 21 and over in it.

Maybe I could suggest I go and stay in a lodge with the “ kids “ and they can joint the outdoor activities with the others during the day.

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Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 03/04/2021 22:28

Actually don't think center parcs would allow them to go as a group of young boys. I might be wrong though, that could have been somewhere else I stayed that didn't allow groups of same sex. Think it's incase they are stag or hen do's.

Emeraldshamrock · 03/04/2021 22:28

@neroforte it happens boys get sexually abused too.
I'd have the same concerns for my DD going away unsupervised at 14 with 21 yrs old men.

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Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:28

8 years younger than than the brother.

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SavoyCabbage · 03/04/2021 22:28

What kid can afford the hugely inflated activity prices at CP?

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Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:29

They are going for the leisure activities.

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Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:29

@SavoyCabbage what do you mean ? I would pay for his activities if I took him.

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Tankflybosswalkjam · 03/04/2021 22:30

I must live in another universe because the chances of my 14 year old getting away for the weekend for a bit of romance with their Significant Other, essentially unsupervised, is non existent. They’re both under the age of consent for a start. I’m agog at the lack of boundaries.