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Original poster

Would you let teen ds go to centre parcs in this situation

298 replies

Troublewaters2021 · 03/04/2021 22:11

Hi

Son is 14 if he can go Centre parcs in august with his boyfriend and boyfriends older brother and friends.

Older brother of boyfriend is 21.

I am not sure I feel comfortable with it, he thinks I’m being v unreasonable.

Back story - his sister has been v sick and there is no chance of having a break this year.
So would be nice for him to get away but are 21 year olds really responsible for 2 14 year old boys.

OP posts:
Ilovemypantry · 04/04/2021 13:33

So if you were 15 yo when you had your son, you were doing exactly what you think he might be doing if you let him go to Centre Parcs with his bf. Only difference is that there’s no chance of him getting pregnant 😳

Original poster
Troublewaters2021 · 04/04/2021 13:54

@Ilovemypantry you literally know nothing about me or the circumstances around my son being born.

OP posts:
wigjuice · 04/04/2021 14:02

@Ilovemypantry are you always such a horrible excuse for a human?

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 14:02

So if you were 15 yo when you had your son, you were doing exactly what you think he might be doing if you let him go to Centre Parcs with his bf. Only difference is that there’s no chance of him getting pregnant

What an unpleasant comment. Do some people just hit the keys without engaging their brain cell at ALL?

WitchyBolloxNStuff · 04/04/2021 14:08

Ilovemypantry - what has that got to do with anything.

YellowPurple · 04/04/2021 14:11

I just want to know how they can afford centre parcs.....

Its sooooo expensive !

CovidCorvid · 04/04/2021 14:14

@YellowPurple

I just want to know how they can afford centre parcs.....

Its sooooo expensive !

I went last year, 8 of us had a “girls weekend away”. Because 8 adults are paying it was quite cheap per person, wasn’t much over £100. Maybe £130 each.
Mylovelyhorsee · 04/04/2021 14:15

14 with parents, yes I would. 14 with 21 year olds- no way.

Ilovemypantry · 04/04/2021 15:23

@GuildfordGal

So if you were 15 yo when you had your son, you were doing exactly what you think he might be doing if you let him go to Centre Parcs with his bf. Only difference is that there’s no chance of him getting pregnant

What an unpleasant comment. Do some people just hit the keys without engaging their brain cell at ALL?

I only said what PP have skirted around.
Original poster
Troublewaters2021 · 04/04/2021 15:28

Right update - I spoke to son and my DP and the other parents. It was all due to the parents being away and the boys not wanting to be stuck at home.

Boy is going to go with his brother and my son with DP they will meet in the day times for activities.

OP posts:
jessstan2 · 04/04/2021 15:33

That sounds like a very good compromise, op. Well done.

To those saying Centre Parcs is expensive (it was when I went and that was when it first opened here, at Brandon in Suffolk), presumably parents are paying.

I hope they have a good time.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 15:35

I only said what PP have skirted around

What a crap excuse. YOU made YOUR comment and it was a bloody nasty one.

Just think about it for a second, maybe.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 15:35

...and great outcome OP. Hope they have a fab time.

wigjuice · 04/04/2021 15:43

@Ilovemypantry I only said what PP have skirted around

So not only do you make unneeded nasty judgemental comments, you also blame others for you making them!

Original poster
Troublewaters2021 · 04/04/2021 15:44

It’s ok I have had 14 years of those comments.
I am at that point where I would rather be a mum of 14 year old and reach respect for others than me that person who thinks they are better than me.

OP posts:
babyyodaxmas · 04/04/2021 16:01

You made the right call OP. I was left in charge of a 15yo and a 12yo at a wedding once (I was aged 24). I was an experienced babysitter. OMG the 15yo got wasted I was totally unprepared for the reality of monitoring her alcohol intake. I blame her parents really and luckily the poor girl was fine in the end. But I did feel guilty. That was one night. I dread to think what might have happened had I been left in charge for a whole weekend. I repeat I was 24.

secular39 · 04/04/2021 16:21

No OP I would not do it. I had my first DC in my teens. I was a good "girl", did very well at school, respected family, didn't party, did I was told. However, I met DC's dad and he was very manipulative, he pressured me to have sex with him which would resulted in DC. This would now be consider as coercive rape.

My worry wouldn't be your 14 year old. My worry will be about the older guys, peer pressure and teens are easily influenced. I wouldn't do it.

lalafafa · 04/04/2021 17:25

OP, if you were pregnant at 15 surely you know what they'll be up to.

jessstan2 · 04/04/2021 17:27

Ilovemypantry I only said what PP have skirted around.
...........

I didn't 'skirt around it', didn't even think of it and I doubt anyone else did much either. It's hardly relevant.

The op has reached a solution which is a very good one. Son is going to CP with her partner, friend is going with his brother.

Betty000 · 04/04/2021 17:29

16 yes, 14 no

Ilovemypantry · 04/04/2021 18:00

@GuildfordGal

I only said what PP have skirted around

What a crap excuse. YOU made YOUR comment and it was a bloody nasty one.

Just think about it for a second, maybe.

I make no apologies for mentioning the OP’s age when she had her son. She had already brought up the subject when she mentioned that she was 8 years older than than the 21 yr old who would be going with her son, it wasn’t a secret.
makemineabrew · 04/04/2021 18:01

No chance I’d allow that. 16 maybe

Ilovemypantry · 04/04/2021 18:03

@lalafafa

OP, if you were pregnant at 15 surely you know what they'll be up to.
Careful, lalafafa... you’re not allowed to say that!
GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 18:12

Careful, lalafafa... you’re not allowed to say that

Juvenile. Pathetic.

I make no apologies for mentioning the OP’s age when she had her son

But that's not quite what you did, is it? That would have been an innocuous comment. Since we can all read your posts and see EXACTLY what you said, and the context, maybe you should - as previously suggested - think hard about how fucking nasty your comment really was.

Do you STILL not get it, or are you just a very, very unpleasant person and revel in this sort of thing?

catsandchaos · 04/04/2021 18:13

Absolutely not