New partner into things sexually that I’m not

[Mustardsocks]

New partner keeps asking me about role play and BDSM stuff. I’m not into that kind of thing at all and it creeps me out (not shaming or judging anyone that does, it’s just not my thing) I prefer just normal sex, I like different positions etc and a few other things, but I guess I’m pretty vanilla when it comes to sex.

Not sure what I’m asking really, but I guess we may not be sexually compatible?

TooManyAnimals94
Why should women calm down when it comes to a man being a nag about pushing his kinks?

Decent men who respect a woman's sexual boundaries don't keep bringing things up.
People who are active in the BDSM community know boundaries and free, enthusiastic consent are key.

This man seems to think that if he keeps bringing his kinks up then it will grind the OP down. That's not a man who respects women.

Mustardsocks, ask yourself if you really need this man. Can you really be content with someone whom you know wants something extra which is firmly in his mind but you really do not want. It's likely he will not be content. There are plenty of other, more wholesome, potential partners out there.

I agree they're not compatible but I'm not sure mentioning something twice counts as badgering? It was more about the generalisations that people were making about people who like bandage...it's not abuse.

*bondage

When a man tells you what he is listen to him.

These are his sexual preferences. Right or wrong they are not in alignment with your own sexual preferences. No way would I be interested in a man whose sexual preferences were so far from my own. He'll want to fulfil theses desires at some point in your relationship.

Finish it before you are more invested - it will be far easier now than when you have spent more time with him.

You may compatible in all other areas but do not underestimate this aspect and how it will affect your relationship in the future.

@Mustardsocks
Has he actually explained what he wants to do? Or are you just guessing what it is?
I was just thinking maybe it’s not exactly what you think it is possibly?
He shouldn’t keep bringing it up, that is trying to wear you down to agree. So if you did do it would he actually enjoy it knowing it doesn’t turn you on? If so that’s messed up!! Can you imagine having sex with a man knowing he didn’t want to...

People aren't saying that. They are saying leave him because they are sexually incompatible. But more importantly than that, he won't accept her boundaries, he is badgering her to change her mind. This - is not OK and not what you want from a potential life partner

This. She has said no. That is enough. If he doesnt accept the word no in a new relationship, it is not a relationship to pursue.

Agreed!! I do agree with that completely